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writes:dear cupid i am 40 years old and me and my husband have been married for 5 yearsi love him very much. he has heart problems and they have been bad for the last few years. he still gets around and is doing good now and i feel bad for saying this but our sex life stinks we havent been together for 2 months now. should i just leave it alone or should i try to get some help? mentioned it to him but he doesnt say much please help....
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reader, scorpiowoman27 +, writes (8 August 2009):
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): I think you need to look at how you might feel yourself with a heart condition - it can knock your confidence, lower your esteem and for men may make him feel like his is getting old before his time - all bad news for the libido. Perhaps he is worried about exertion or letting you down. You need to support him on getting better and stronger physically and mentally and I think your sex life will return. In the meantime look purely at foreplay and sex without a goal - just be intimate, using other methods, without emotional pressure and explain that you want to be close but there is not a pressure on him to 'perform'.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (5 January 2009):
 With or without heart problems, many partners suffer from serious sexual incompatibility problems. What we hear about, such as on this Web site, is probably like the tip of an iceberg. Much more lies beneath the surface.
There are many suggestions to spice up a sex life, such as role-playing, sexy lingerie, whipped cream and all kinds of weird stuff. In my opinion, most of it is just a band-aid - not a cure. Probably the most effective activity to enliven a couples' satisfaction, if not already practiced, is mutual oral stimulation. Even a man who is somewhat stymied by heart problems, such as lack of breath, stamina or erection, may be able to compensate by pleasing his wife orally. And of course, when erection problems are an issue (often due to hypertension medications), those magic pills like Cialis and Viagra (sildenafil citrate) can invigorate sexual activities. Personally, my heart condition due to two heart attacks (myocardial infarctions) has limited my abilities to some degree, but sidenafil helps when needed. Above all, however, there must be desire, and there is no magic pill for that.
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reader, pinkey1981 +, writes (5 January 2009):
This is such a hard subject. In so many ways we are just primal animals who have needs lol. Sorry for the crudeness. The great thing is we have much much more to offer. I know im only 28 but im pretty wise for 28. Dont worry bout the sex. Enjoy each others company. So many times sex stands between people and really great companionship. He will more than likely come around hes probably just scared. I would say to mention it but dont make it a big deal. When he want he wants it take him up on it.Alot of heart meds mess things up in the bed. Then again some do the direct opposite. Just know that you 2 love each other and enjoy his companionship. At least hes not chasing around the house wanting 24-7 lol.
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