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*julia19
writes:When I was starting to get to know a boy and the guy getting to know me But, later confused that I was a virgin and his response was that he liked me so much to have sex that he couldn't stop for me that he said that I had to lose my virginity... and after that I was speechless..So why do men don't want to pursue a relationship with a virgin girl like myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, apeagyei  +, writes (27 June 2009):
Hi girl you are not too old we have people in thier thirties and yet a virgin.Sex is marriage so if the guy really wants you then he must do what your society accept as marriage.There is nothing called experimental sex.Keep your virginity and go for marriage minded men who would presurize you to get married.God is looking for people like you to restore standardscheck these sitehttp://yahwehyirehvirginityclubglobal.diinoweb.com/files/7%20reason%20for%20virginity/7reasonsforvirginity.htmhttp://yahwehyirehvirginityclubglobal.diinoweb.com/files/virginitypurpose/purposeofvirginity.htmthese site will help yousamuel linck dekyem
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reader, Rogoster +, writes (12 May 2009):
To answer your question "How do girls who want to remain virgins meet guys?, my response is relax just meet the people around you and if one sparks your attention and you want to get to know them better or before it gets too serious, let them no your boundries. Tell them that being a virgin is important to you and you want to wait until marriage. You will either get someone who will respect your decision, someone who will leave because they want someone who won't challenge them about sex, or someone who will look at you as a challenge wanting to be the one who can break you (to feed their ego). You will know what you are dealing with if you pay close attention. Trust your inner voice. And if your a Christian pray for God to give you strength and perseverance to stay true to your beliefs and a man who will respect them. It is a wonderful experience to be a virgin on your wedding night and even more wonderful if your spouse is too, way more wonderful then giving into a heated moment, even if that person "would" become your spouse.
And to answer your other question, "are guys afraid of virgins?" Absolutely not! They want a virgin. First of all, a guy might feel like he doesn't have to worry if you have any STD's, so he might think you would be a great person to try to have sex with without a condom. Guys rather have sex without a condom because it feels better for him, but never do that! Also, if you have no sexual experience, he won't feel as much pressure to perform, if he feels insecure that he doesn't know what he is doing or if he is a virgin himself. And a more common reason is that guys will peer pressure other guys into getting virgins, after all a virgin is a challenge, not a girl who has already had sex or is willing to have sex or is chasing the guy down. There is no challenge there. And in many cases young women will mistake a guy who persues her as him in love or infatuated with her, but in reality he is just determined to get what he wants and enjoys the chase. But, after he wins you over and has sex with you, the challenge is over, his ego is fed and you are dumped feeling rejected, used and abused. Trust God and know that he tells you to wait for marriage for a reason and that reason is because he loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt. God wants you to stay in tact emtionally and spiritually so that sex can be exactly what it should be. And you deserve that, but only you can give yourself that gift.
With much love and faith,
D
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): He is not the right man for you; you need a man not a boy, which will commit fully to you mentally and spiritually.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Sure thing hon, Anytime! You keep your Dignity in tact and hold out for the man of your dreams.
Blessings,
Blue_Angel
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reader, mjulia19 +, writes (8 January 2009):
mjulia19 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I want to give thanks to all that helped me answer my question and all of your answers clarified most of my doubts....
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reader, MichaelS2 +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I am a virgin myself and a 18 year old male!I don't know if I will wait to marriage but I am waiting until I find a girl I love!I would actually love the idea of myself in a relationship with another virgin.It would make the pressure from your partner to have sex go away.
Don't worry In a few years men will want to be in a relationship with you.Men tend to love easy girls when they are young and when the men finally mature they want an innocent girl or one that's not that dirty.
Sorry if any of that sounded offensive.I meant no harm.Honest.
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (7 January 2009):
Some Guys don't want to take a girl's virginity because it's an uncomfortable and unpleasant feeling for both the guy and the girl. The female is in pain, and some guys don't enjoy sex unless their partner is enjoying it too. Also,it i common for a girl to get extremely emotionally attached to the one who takes her virginity. Maybe he's not ready for that kind of attention.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): Men LOVE to settle down with women like you. But most of us just don't want to date you in the meantime.
Hold out. There are grown up male virgins out there too. And there is no shortage of them who are dying to find a fellow female virgin (which I think is actually more rare than males by the mid or late 20s.)
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Yes, wait for the right guy!!! You don't have to 'not' be a virgin for anyone. Plus did you know that it is a dream for a guy to be the first one to have sex with his woman? This bloke is obviously pretty inexperienced himself and strangely i suspect he seems to be playing some kind of weird game.
From what i've been told sex for a woman is not as pleasing as it is for a man, but where the pleasure truly comes from for a woman is her soul and her heart - she needs to be loved nurtured and cared for, only then it is a true pleasurable experience for her.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (6 January 2009):
Just be yourself hon. Meeting guys is easy. Just get out and get seen. It's as simple as that really. Some guys won't persue a girl who intends to stay a virgin because they don't want to have to wait on sex. Plain and simple on that too!
Just hang out with friends and go places where you will get noticed. That could be at the movies, shopping mall, church, grocery store, school if you are going to one, resturants and parks. Guys are everywhere! Be yourself and in no time you will see that you can find a good guy if you just take your time. Spend each moment of your life with care, and live it fully, don't rush cause rushing into anything can often cause alot of regrets.
My best to you and I hope this helps.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Some guys will wait. I know this because I dated one, actually 3, who were willing to wait as long as I wanted. If he loves you he will wait for you. If he only wants sex, then he's out the door. You're better off without this ass. He would've just used you for sex anyways. But don't get discouraged. There are good men out there. Somewhere...
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (6 January 2009):
Tell him to get lost. He is after YOUR VIRGINITY! It's just another notch on his belt so to speak. A man is supposed to like you so much that he could wait for anything! Don't fall for this cheap trick and wind up getting into a serious mess.
Hon lift your palm to ya face, flip it round and in a STOP motion, say....TALK TO THE HAND CAUSE THE FACE DON'T HEAR YA! Turn and walk away. Find someone who really LIKES YOU! Not someone who is just out to get laid.
I give you PRAISE for the decision to remain a virgin until married. Don't let anyone ever talk you into doing something that is against your consience,morals and beliefs.
BRAVOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 January 2009):
 You ask, "So why do men don't want to pursue a relationship with a virgin girl like myself?"
Because they primarily just want the sex. You need to stand your ground and wait for a young man who falls in love with you and is willing to wait. Do what is right for you, not what friends or some boyfriend says you "must" do.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 You can't generelize that all men don't want to persue a relationship if a girl desires to be a virgin until
they get married. If he really loves you then he should wait. However its only natural that he would want to have sex before he gets married. Its up to you to decide if you would want to have sex or not and your boy friend needs to respect that. Take care!
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reader, mjulia19 +, writes (6 January 2009):
mjulia19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim trying to say what should a girl that is a virgin do when she is trying to meet guys and i also want to know if a guys are afraid of virgin girls... (im trying to find an answer to my question that's all)
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reader, Hobbit22 +, writes (6 January 2009):
 I know not your age, but trust me, wait wait wait for the right guy, sex usually isn't all that great with them anyway, so wait til you are with the right guy, no matter how long it takes, and by pass all the emotion that will well up in you, and the love making will be great then, unlike after you get dumped cuz they stripped you of your virginity and put a feather in their cap to tell the guys about...wait wait wait...til you intellectually KNOW you are loved!!!
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