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Did I lose my virginity even though it was just his finger?
Q. if i am a virgin and someone sticks there two fingers into my vagina like a shove almost and i bleed afterwards is that losing my virginity? because i have been very close to losing my virginity before. like one time i thought i lost it because ...
A. 19 November 2008: You are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse, which is vaginal penetration by a male penis. It is as simple as that. ... (read in full...)
What really turns a guy on during sex?
Q. What really turns a guy on during sex? i really wanna please my bf anything i can do to him? wear? say? we both enjoy it but i wanna spice things up and surprise him with something that will give him a spark :] help and advice pleasee!!!...
A. 18 November 2008: Gee, in your age group, the first thing that comes to my mind is very simple: Just show up and get naked. LOL That always worked with me. But I agree with wrap your legs around, licking balls and rocking back with heals over head. You might also try ... (read in full...)
Whats your opinion on dating websites?
Q. Hello, I was just wondering if I could ask what people's opinions are on online dating websites? I recently joined one, and I'm just wondering if anyone has any success/failure stories? I'm trying to work out if its actually worth my time! I've he...
A. 18 November 2008: While I know nothing about the British versions, in Texas I have been quite successful meeting women - and perhaps one out of 20 who have "approached" me were excellent dating successes. Of course, in my older age group (50 to 60+), most prospects ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go straight to sex... should we try oral or wait?
Q. hi me and my girl friend are both mature for our age , i would like to do more than kissing and snogging but i dont want to go straight to sex. would you recommend us tryin oral or wait till we both feel ready for sex and yes i really am ...
A. 17 November 2008: Just my opinion, but why don't you just try working on creating a really caring and loving relationship which may last a lifetime. If you introduce a serious sexual episode too early, you can mess up the future for both of you and possibly hate each ... (read in full...)
Caught my daughter masterbating
Q. I caught my daughter masturbating at her room with a dildo,and she was orgasming, she then noticed me and went to the bathroom crying. What should I tell her?...
A. 16 November 2008: Tell her nothing. She is normal. If anything at all, just smile and say, "No problem, darling. You can ask me anything." Then shut up and say no more. ... (read in full...)
How do I do fellatio without gagging because of the smell and taste? How do I suggest that they wash before it?
Q. Hi I've had 6 different boyfriends in my life and I've given all of them blowjobs but my problem is that I don't like the smell or taste of them down there. It actually makes me gag which makes it very hard to enjoy myself, sometimes the smell is so ...
A. 16 November 2008: Good grief! What kind of slobs are you dating? Even daily bathing and reasonably proper bathroom hygiene should render most men fairly pleasant enough. Never have I expected a wife or girlfriend to go down before having thoroughly showered, ... (read in full...)
After we broke up she hooked up. She told me it never happened, but it did. How do I look her in the eye?
Q. Sorry for bringing this up again on here but.. Broke up with my girlfriend of over a year two months ago because she 'fell in love with somone else' and was cheating on me. Earlier this week I find out that after we broke up, she began hooking up...
A. 16 November 2008: Some will be faithful, some will not be faithful. The younger you are, and they are, the less likely you can be assured.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to enjoy giving BJ?
Q. is it weird to enjoy giving head? my boyfriend says its strange for a girl to enjoy giving a blowjob, but i really do, although i hate the taste when he cums, i love actually doin it.. is it normal? ...
A. 16 November 2008: Your boyfriend, who is presumably near your age, apparently knows very little about women. Just how much experience could he possibly have with women? Obviously little. So I'll agree that you are quite normal to enjoy exploring, licking, kissing, ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on giving my guy a blast, with great oral sex?
Q. My partner says he has never came from getting head. What can I do to make this happen? Any ideas to send him over the top?...
A. 15 November 2008: Hard to imagine that he has never released for a woman this way. But I suggest that you read some of the many postings regarding blow jobs in this Web site's archives. There are tons of good advice from both male and female readers. Enter such terms ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to cum on me?
Q. Is it wierd for a girl my age (18) to be thinking about her bf "finishing on her"?.... lately I've been thinking about this A LOT after I gave him head, the first time he wanted to cum in privacy and I didn't think of it much but now I really want ...
A. 15 November 2008: Although my personal preference is to cum inside (oral or vaginal), several girlfriends have asked for breast or facial and I'm happy to oblige. Some have enjoyed a bit of both - some orally and the rest facial, which they lick off the fingers. I ... (read in full...)
Burning questions about guys and your erections!
Q. Hey guys, I really want to know all about erections; a)How does it actually exactly feel when one has an erection?! b)What can a woman do to make it feel better? c)What NOT to do...? d) Are there different types of erection? Thanks...
A. 15 November 2008: Well, the description about "intense pain" seems entirely foreign to me. Mine have always been quite a pleasant feeling. An erection offers me a strong feeling of manhood, particularly when I'm with a woman who appreciates it in one way or another. ... (read in full...)
Would 7 inches be too painful for the girl if we had sex?
Q. I'm 16. When erect, my penis is just over 7 inches (1 inch over average). I was watching a program tonight about the worlds biggest penis and it said that women can be hurt from deep penetration if the penis is too big. Would 7 inches be too pain...
A. 15 November 2008: I'm a bit more than that and never had a problem, except with several very petite Asian women. Even then, all was okay - just had to go very slowly and carefully at first. A vagina can accommodate babies, after all. ... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain to me what sex is like?
Q. Can anyone explain to me what sex is like? How it feels? What's so great about? What do you do? etc....
A. 14 November 2008: You are asking DearCupid to pen a book of encyclopedic proportion. But in essence, sex ultimately results in a tremendous release of tension. Additionally, it is a world of fun reaching that point.... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive... what can I do?
Q. I am 53, and in the last month I have lost my sex drive. What can I do?...
A. 14 November 2008: Are you taking medications such as those prescribed for hypertension?... (read in full...)
He has trouble reaching a climax.
Q. Hello: I am a sixty five year old female and my husband is sixty six. We have been married for 45 years and have always enjoyed sex with one another but recently we both have been on a lot of medication due to sugar diabetes, high blood pressure ...
A. 14 November 2008: Some blood pressure medications, notably beta-blockers, are notorious for affecting sexual abilities in men. Warnings clearly state, for instance, that atenolol may cause erectile dysfunction. That may be why he is "losing it." My advice is to ... (read in full...)
Does the areola size really matter?
Q. ok so heres the thing, im happy with my body and i like how things are portioned overall but theres one problem. My breasts are a 36C and i like the size but my areola [the part around my nipple] on them are like 2 inches and kinda dark sometimes ...
A. 14 November 2008: In my opinion, this does not matter at all. You are beautiful - do not worry about such trivial things.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a blowjob! Help!!!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to give him a blowjob and I'm more then happy to but I have no clue what I'm suppose to do... tips/help please and do guys like to finish on their girls? or in privacy...
A. 13 November 2008: Okay, first of all, there is no "blowing" in a blow job, as previously suggested. Perhaps a little blowing on the tip might be interesting, but for the most part, a good blow job primarily involves sucking. Here are some suggestions from a man's ... (read in full...)
Will I bleed on our wedding night?
Q. I'm getting married in exactly a month to my long time bf! We both have not had penetrative sex ever since we have been saving it for our wedding night. We are both 29. I'm worried that the first time will be uncomfortable. We are both familar very ...
A. 13 November 2008: Again, you will probably bleed some the first time, and I understand that is important in your culture as a sign of virginity. But I believe that a fully grown (and developed) woman may not bleed as would be likely with a girl under say, 18 or so. ... (read in full...)
I have not felt love only lust, for a long time.
Q. Hi, I am hoping someone can help me. I have not felt love only lust, for a long time. I have been with some girls but they have never made me feel love for them. I had recently made up my mind to find someone I can love and settle down with her. ...
A. 13 November 2008: You know the answer to this. Be a man, and realize that women will come, and women will go. Enjoy whatever you have for the moment, but always be prepared to let it go.... (read in full...)
I want to care... how do I fix it?
Q. I'm confused because to most people including all my friends sex is a "big deal" [by that I mean emotionally like they always really like the person] and for me it's kinda just a thing. I want to care about it but when it comes to it have no ...
A. 13 November 2008: There is nothing wrong with being sexual, but based on your posting, you have little regard for any kind of meaning in a relationship. It is never too late to expect a lot more, if you wish additional purpose in your life than just being used for ... (read in full...)
Will I bleed on our wedding night?
Q. I'm getting married in exactly a month to my long time bf! We both have not had penetrative sex ever since we have been saving it for our wedding night. We are both 29. I'm worried that the first time will be uncomfortable. We are both familar very ...
A. 13 November 2008: Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! And to answer, you will likely bleed a bit, but probably not very much at your age. In my opinion, you should be entirely relaxed and rejoice in the moments that you consummate your love. Be calm and best ... (read in full...)
My stupid ape-looking boobs
Q. Well me and my boyfriend have been getting pretty far in our relationship, sexually wise. On our last make-out session, we both took off our shirts. He wanted to take off my bra. I told him no because I'm not altogether comfortable with the way my ...
A. 13 November 2008: First of all, pornography is not a good source for comparison of anything, in my opinion. And since you are underage and certainly not fully developed, you should chill-out over the next four or five years regarding any serious sexuality. When you ... (read in full...)
Can girls have wet dreams?
Q. Is it possible for a girl to have sort of a wet dream? A couple of nights ago I had an erotic dream, and when I woke up I had heaps of discharge in my panties. thanks for your help...
A. 12 November 2008: Certainly, girls and guys both have wet dreams. Perfectly normal.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to be scared about my first time?
Q. My boyfriend and i have decided that we are ready to take it to the next level and i love and trust him 100% but i'm really nervous and scared. he has been with two other girls and this will make my first time. Is it normal for me to be scared?...
A. 12 November 2008: Yes, you should be very afraid that you are making possibly the biggest mistake of your life at too young an age.... (read in full...)
I am a young, married woman and love having sex, my husband wants it once a month, how do I change this?
Q. I am a young wife, just 22 and am married to my husband, 29 for over a year and a half. My husband and I have a good marriage except for one little detail: we only have sex just once a month if that. I am a nympho and my husband knew that when we ...
A. 12 November 2008: Same answer to your other posts: He is typically clueless, and the only way he could improve as a man who knows how to please a woman is if he realizes that he is only average - and only if he wants to improve on sexual male performance, knowledge ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend falls asleep after sex leaving me aroused and frustrated!
Q. my boyfriend always falls asleep after sex, he's really good in bed, but I can't seem to orgasm while having sex and so he cums and falls asleep and I'm left frustrated and horny, what should I do?...
A. 12 November 2008: You have no idea what a man who is "really good in bed" means, and you do not have one. He is average at best, and unfortunately for most women, average equals unsatisfactory. There is really nothing physically that you can do about it. He is ... (read in full...)
We're both virgins and I can't seem to penetrate her.
Q. Hi, I was wondering if anyone has had a similar problem... my gf and I are virgins and well we are now ready to have sex, however for some reason when we try to have sex, i seem unable to penetrate her... She seems sooo tight and i dont know what...
A. 11 November 2008: Well, it has certainly been a long time since this was much of a problem for me, but the first anonymous reader offered some good insight. Try the following after a good session of foreplay and fingering: Put the head to her vaginal opening and be ... (read in full...)
I don't seem to please her sexually!
Q. Hey guys I need a little help with something you see I met this wonderful girl... she used to be all depressed but now she says that I make her happy. But now all of a sudden we have had sex and I gave her a lot of pleasure but now... She says that ...
A. 11 November 2008: You must become a man who knows how to please a woman, but you are really too young at this point. My best advice is to peruse this Web site's archives pertaining to female orgasms and how to make it happen for her. It is really a simple process ... (read in full...)
I think I'm becoming addicted to Dear Cupid!
Q. Okay...here's my question: I've been trying to give helpful advice all day on this site. I now realize I should have gone to bed an hour ago! I think I'm becoming addicted to this site! I've always been the person friends come to for advice...and ...
A. 10 November 2008: In my opinion, considering your stated age grouping, it is a good thing that you are providing insight and reflection that may help others of any generation - particularly more youthful inquisitors. Well, at least I hope so, because that's what I ... (read in full...)
What in the world does this mean?
Q. Can you explain this to me? What does this mean, " I do really love you but I don't like you "? Please reply and thank you !!!...
A. 10 November 2008: Well, if or when I would possibly have felt that way, I would probably mean that "I really do love you, but . . .
1. I'm not going to change."
2. You're not going to change."
3. You cheated on me." ... (read in full...)
How can I move some of the workload onto myself during sex?
Q. So this boy and I have recently started having sex. Now, previously we were both virgins, and therefore are ultimately inexperienced. What we've found out so far is the best way for us is missionary - however, this results in me lying there and him ...
A. 10 November 2008: If your partner is raised above you with his arms straight, as he should be most of the time, this would allow you considerable movement. You should be able to thrust upward in unison, and if you sometimes raise your legs high in a V-shape, or even ... (read in full...)
I'm having a problem satisfying my wife. Advice ?
Q. hello all solve my problem I'm a man and i think that i can not sataisfy my wife and my stay time is about 7 to 10 minute my wife not orgasm within this period why? please let me answers i m waiting...
A. 9 November 2008: This is the classic worldwide problem faced by women. May I simply suggest that you check out many of the suggestions by advisors in this Web site's archives. Use the search field at the top of the page, and enter words such as: cunnilingus, ... (read in full...)
Sexual confidence....help!
Q. It has been a very long time since I have been intimate with someone. After my relationship ended a couple of years ago, I needed some time to get things into perspective and then just lost interest. I am less than confident now with my appearan...
A. 9 November 2008: Well, first of all he is reasonably aware of some extra padding if you have been together in person, which would seem to be the case. So, believe that he accepts you. You do not have to perform a strip show. When the time comes, dim the lights and ... (read in full...)
My gums hurt and I have these weird small white bumps on my tongue.
Q. My gums hurt and I have these weird small white bumps on my tongue. All of this happened after kissing someone. Also my skin has gotten darker. I have lower abdominal pain and a lot of discharge too! Do you think I have more than one std?...
A. 9 November 2008: Contrary to an earlier response, it is possible to pass certain conditions by kissing. One such is a yeast infection, which is also a STD. It usually manifests orally as a white coating on the tongue with bumps being common. In that form it can ... (read in full...)
In his cupboard I found butt plugs, a mouth gag, huge dildos, handcuffs, double penetration toys and other things...
Q. My boyfriend has a cupboard in his bedroom which he locked. In it I found butt plugs, a mouth gag, huge dildos, handcuffs, double penetration toys and other things I can't even put a name too. I haven't said anything to him, but it's put me right ...
A. 8 November 2008: If you are not into the described and implied sort of activities, it would seem prudent of you to think about seeking another and more compatible relationship. ... (read in full...)
Anal Sex without lube
Q. Hi. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex without lube. I'm fine with this (I'm aware that it will hurt badly, and I'm ok with that), but we need to know if it is possible without seriously damaging me. I've never had anal sex before, let alone ...
A. 7 November 2008: Potentially very harmful.... (read in full...)
OH GOD! been worrying about things turning physical with my new girlfriend and tonight they did!
Q. OH GOD! been worrying about things turning physical with my new girlfriend and tonight they did... but I couldn't get 'aroused'. I got aroused a little then went down and she assumed that I had finished but I just couldn't keep it up! help! ...
A. 6 November 2008: It was the "worrying" about it that set you up for a let-down. All psychological.... (read in full...)
Why won't my Mom let me go on the pill?
Q. the relationship between me and my mum is rapidly changing and i dont know what to do. me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently lost our virginities to each other, hes the best thing in the world, treats me like a princess and he and my mum do get ...
A. 6 November 2008: To our despair, if you insist on having intercourse at your age with this boyfriend who will likely be one of many, please at least require a condom. ... (read in full...)
She wants me to stick my finger in her and I need female advice on how to do it!
Q. My gf recently shoved a finger up her anus as she approached her climax. Now she'd like me to do it and I'm embarrassed to say I'm not too sure what to do. I blushed when she asked me and we didn't talk about it. I wouldn't want a finger up my ...
A. 5 November 2008: With little reservation, I must agree with "qcumbr1" that a bit of anal massage during a bj results in an incredible orgasm for the man. Physiologically, this is stimulation of the prostate gland and results in a greater release of sperm. ... (read in full...)
I am fourteen, and I masturbate every day, is this normal?
Q. Hi im 14 years old and i masturbate everyday. I was wondering if its normal. For some reason im always dreaming and thinking on watching my classmates naked. Is this normal?...
A. 5 November 2008: Wait a minute "Uncle Phil!" Exploding balls? ... (read in full...)
2 questions - why can't I cum and why do my nipples always get hard?
Q. i have 2 questions: okay heres the first. i can't cum no matter what. i've tried masturbating different ways, but nothing works, and i have been mastubating since i was young and i can have an orgasm but i don't cum.. and the only way i have an or...
A. 5 November 2008: You seem to expect "squirting," which is something that is more unusual than common. If you think that a lot of fluid will squirt during your orgasms, you are misinformed. However, most females do emit a small amount of a seminal fluid through the ... (read in full...)
I am fourteen, and I masturbate every day, is this normal?
Q. Hi im 14 years old and i masturbate everyday. I was wondering if its normal. For some reason im always dreaming and thinking on watching my classmates naked. Is this normal?...
A. 5 November 2008: Yes, entirely normal - especially if your fantasizing about the opposite sex in those dreams of yours.... (read in full...)
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