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Why are white men always falling for white women and not me, the Puerto Rican?
Q. Hello dear cupiders, I am puerto rican. shoulder length cruley brown hair/ very tan skin/ reg. brown eyes/ short/ I believe I'm attractive I give myself a 7 1/2 out of 10. I am attracted primary to 'white' men. (Not that I'm racist or anyth...
A. 9 December 2008: In my opinion, you may still just a bit too young to realize that many young or older white men can and will love you, and would be proud to be your lover or husband. I'm old and way out of your league, but in my youth, my lovers included quite a ... (read in full...)
Was I too young, was I actually raped?
Q. Well..during the summer this past summer I lost my virginity to who is now my ex boyfriend..But I was only 14 and I wanted to know if that was a little to early...Also my other thing is..I never told him I was ready and i never told him to ...
A. 9 December 2008: It may be a technicality, but in many states in the U.S.A., it is unlawful for a young man of legal age to have intercourse, whether consensual or not, with a minor. The age limits vary, but at least legally, it is very unlikely that a 14-year-old ... (read in full...)
My wife is an automechanic and it's embarrassing!
Q. My wife is an auto mechanic and she also fixes everything around the house. It's kind of embarrassing because my friends always tease me about it. Like once we when on a rode trip with our friends and the car broke down. My wife repair it on 30 ...
A. 9 December 2008: You could send her to Texas. I'm a much older man but have a nice home and good workshop with lots of tools where we can have great fun rebuilding cars and making great amounts of money together. Then when I die, she will inherit a world of tools ... (read in full...)
Was I too young, was I actually raped?
Q. Well..during the summer this past summer I lost my virginity to who is now my ex boyfriend..But I was only 14 and I wanted to know if that was a little to early...Also my other thing is..I never told him I was ready and i never told him to ...
A. 8 December 2008: If this aggressor was above the age of 17, I agree with "Friend Tom" - this was statutory rape, and he should be prosecuted because he will continue his criminal behavior.... (read in full...)
Which sex toy is the best for a guy?
Q. Which sex toy is the best for a guy?...
A. 8 December 2008: Please pardon my wry sense of humor, but the best sex toy for a guy is a playful girl. I've never had any other kind.... (read in full...)
Question about masturbation?
Q. I have been masturbating once a day for about 12 years since I was 11 and I want to know if there is any negative effects of this, any. Also if anyone knows what is the average number a man can have an orgasm in his life?...
A. 8 December 2008: In my opinion, the one possible drawback to very frequent masturbation may be that one could develop such a dependence on that sort of stimulation that sexual intercourse would seem inadequate. Vaginal intercourse with a woman, for instance, does ... (read in full...)
He's below average in the looks department....
Q. Me and my bestfriend have been friends for many years. Over these years, he's always loved me in a way more than friends and has asked me on several occasions to be together with him. Over the years, he's really grown and matured and I find myself ...
A. 7 December 2008: As usual, "Tisha-1" has offered excellent advice that you can take to heart. If a young man's chance facial appearance is your greater measure of manhood, you should gently tell your longtime admirer that he should seek his love elsewhere. By all ... (read in full...)
Is there a movie that portrays a much older man dating a younger woman?
Q. Is there a movie that portrays a much older man dating a younger woman? With that Heather Locklear TV-movie "Flirting with 40" on tonight, I was curous if there is a movie that portrays the opposite of "40"; showing a much older man dating a younger ...
A. 7 December 2008: Try "As Good As It Gets" with Helen Hunt and Jack Nicholson. Very good and very funny. There are quite a few more.... (read in full...)
Will I regret losing my virginity to him?
Q. I'm a virgin, but I have been fingered by my ex-boyfriend before and used toys. Anyway, I'm going to stay with a friend next weekend (who I really like) but he lives quite far away.. I'd be really tempted to have sex with him, I think I'd find i...
A. 7 December 2008: You are apparently of legal age and mature development, and if you are anxious to have sexual relations, it will not mean the end of the world. You should realize that your "friendship" with the man may not lead to marriage or even a long-term ... (read in full...)
I feel awkward since I caught him masturbating - how will this affect us?
Q. Yesterday I caught my boyfriend masturbating. I know its normal and im not "jealous" like some people on here have been. I just think that its something that should be kept private (i know some people like to share it, its a matter of person...
A. 7 December 2008: It could affect your relationship if you allow it to do so, but if his activity is occasional it is really quite normal. If his masturbation becomes obsessive and so frequent to the point that he begins to eschew sex with you, then you are entirely ... (read in full...)
How long does it usually take for a woman to orgasm?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have known eachother for 3 and a half years now, all through high school. We started going out last Valentines day, (Feb. 14, 2008) and have been having sex since the end of march. Our sex life is absolutely fantastic, as well as ...
A. 7 December 2008: In my opinion, and based on about 46 years experience (both clumsy and eventually more determined), I'd say that about 15 to 30 minutes of proper foreplay in a romantic setting Including, kissing, groping, fingering, etc), culminating with at least ... (read in full...)
He seems to think foreplay is too much work!
Q. My husband seems to hate giving foreplay because he is too tired so we end up not having sex. He makes me feel horrible about myself because I need foreplay to get warmed up. He'll make a feeble attempt then suddenly stop because it's too much work ...
A. 6 December 2008: This is the universal problem with men unwilling to warm-up and properly satisfy their women, a basic obligation of manhood, but unless the man wishes to salvage a relationship, it is difficult to offer any kind of easy solution. Perhaps counseling ... (read in full...)
My friends-with-benefits has erection issues...
Q. I'm in an open relationship with a 30 y.o. co-worker who is involved with at least one other woman seriously. We're just friends with benefits, and he claims to feel no guilt over being with me, but he is unable to reach orgasm while inside of me. ...
A. 6 December 2008: First of all, guys who become accustomed to fellatio (blow jobs) may become resistant to ejaculation during vaginal intercourse. Frankly, I did many years ago -and even more honestly, I so much preferred the oral sex finish that I learned to ... (read in full...)
He says I'm bad at giving oral sex!
Q. I've been good friends with this guy for a year already, but then I had a bf. Now I'm single, me and this guy are getting more intimate and romantic. It was my first time to give him a blow job, but I've been doing it for the past 2 years with my ...
A. 6 December 2008: From a man's point of view, I cannot imagine criticizing a woman who is trying to pleasure me that way even if her first effort was not the best I've experienced. But at my age and dating back to the 1960s, there were first-timers and many clumsy ... (read in full...)
Semen in the eye? How is it treated???
Q. Everytime me and my girlfriend are having sex, and she has an orgasm, she pushes me off or tells me to get off after she is done with her orgasm, it just makes me feel unwanted. At least she ends up giving me oral or I have to finish myself, the ...
A. 6 December 2008: It seems a little unusual to me that she wants you off of her soon after she climaxes, but perhaps her clitoris becomes especially sensitive right after orgasm, much as the tip of a penis is frequently very sensitive at that point. To her, this may ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for men to have multiple orgasms?
Q. Hello, I was wondering if the rumors were true? Is it possible for a man to have multiple orgasms? Have any of you experienced multiple orgasms? Does that mean multiple ejaculations, or is it something different? Any information and/or tips and ...
A. 5 December 2008: This has reportedly been documented with at least one subject, a male who could ejaculate multiple times within several minutes of each, but typically, the normal male ejaculates once and is usually finished for perhaps a half hour or more. Then if ... (read in full...)
Why is sex such a big deal?
Q. Why is sex such a big deal?...
A. 5 December 2008: Most of the contributors here have offered excellent input to a good question. Although you are too young, in our opinion, to participate in serious sexual activity, your question deserves an answer. When a person comes of legal age and maturity, ... (read in full...)
Rough sex!
Q. I recently had sex with my boyfriend and it was a little rough although I felt no pain during intercourse itself. Afterward I began to ache. It is now almost a week later and I have been bleeding moderately for about four days. I feel an ache in ...
A. 5 December 2008: In my opinion, you should immediately consult your physician/gynecologist and reconsider your relationship with a person who would do you harm.... (read in full...)
Is my masturbation an addiction or a phase I'm going through?
Q. What`s up guys. I`ve got a question that im really concerned about. Here it goes: myself im 18years old and ive never had sex with a girl and don`t have a girlfriend. So to satisfy my sex appetite, i am used to masturbating a lot. Sometimes i can ...
A. 5 December 2008: Well I must differ with some others regarding how much masturbation is reasonable, but your frequency is well within the normal amount for a young man with raging hormones. In your age bracket, even daily relief is quite reasonable, although I would ... (read in full...)
How can I bring her to orgasm without actually having sex?
Q. This is more a question to girls than guys but if they have any tips please share them. I've been with my girlfriend 4 months now. We've yet to have sex but we have done other things. Has anyone got any tips on how I could make her orgasm without ...
A. 5 December 2008: First of all, your expectations are quite high. Many women go through much of their lives before they eventually have an orgasm. Perhaps most women reach at least the age of 19 or 20 before meeting or marrying a man who can really pleasure them. You ... (read in full...)
What a good positions for a girl who's larger?
Q. Hi... I'm having a little trouble... I recently fell in love with this girl unexpectedly anyway where becoming or trying to become sexually active but it's proving difficult as she's a large women. We just can't do it right... Things about her...
A. 4 December 2008: Well I've been there, done that. And I understand the problem to some degree. Although I'm fairly small but much older, and typically with older women who are sometimes overweight, the best solution I've found is to let them ride me cowgirl style ... (read in full...)
Why do my girlfriends nipples taste bad?
Q. do nipples or breasts give off hormones during sex? Recently, when i lick my girlfriends nipple during sex she hasnt been tasting good, but she is clean. everywhere else she tastes good. but here nipples taste so bad that after i'm done she tells me ...
A. 4 December 2008: This one is news to me. Personally, I've never encountered an offensive nipple on a woman, although some were not quite as protruding as preferred.... (read in full...)
Can sex or sperm make someone fat?
Q. Hi everyone, at there my question is this. Can Sex or Sperm make someone fat? Or can it make someone increase in hips. Because i argue this with my friends. please help ...
A. 3 December 2008: Of course sex is good exercise, and regarding sperm (semen), the estimate is about 10 to 15 calories from sugars and a small amount of fat in a normal load. The contents are largely water, salt, citric acid, proteins, sugars (mostly fructose), ... (read in full...)
Do all girls get pleasured the same way or is everyone different?
Q. Do all girls get "pleasured" in the same way, or is everyone different...? I'm just wondering because I'm a very curious person. Anything would help me....
A. 3 December 2008: Girls are generally "pleasured" about the same ways, but the majority are usually not very well pleasured at all. Most guys are simply too selfish, uninformed and/or indifferent to make it consistently happen for their women. All the studies and ... (read in full...)
Is "queefing" during sex a turn off?
Q. is it a turn off when a girl "qweefs" (air being pushed out of the vagina making a farting noise) during sex? or what do they think about it??...
A. 3 December 2008: Any guy with any sexual experienceat all will not be surprised, nor be the least bit "turned-off" about it. Hey, it happens and the guy's equipment is the cause. Just giggle a bit, if anything at all, and keep going. ... (read in full...)
What are the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5''?
Q. What are all the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5 inches? I secretly cry in my pillow after sex because my body is so sexually pent up. I am 33 but I do kegol exercises everyday and I've had no children and my ex boyfriends ...
A. 3 December 2008: Input from "NiceKid" seems right-on in my opinion. Personal experience with a couple extra inches does not seem to have really had all that much advantage over the years, because deeper penetration does not directly stimulate the clitoris. No ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to lick the vaginal fluids?
Q. hie i love licking the vagina but, is it okay to lick both with the vagina fluids and stuff ?...
A. 3 December 2008: Well I certainly hope it is okay to lick and swallow vaginal juices. As one who has been licking it all up for decades, there have fortunately been no adverse reactions in my case, but as alluded by "Irish49" there are circumstances when some ... (read in full...)
Why is his semen clear??
Q. Hello. Okay so let me start by saying i'm 17. (my age is wrong on this) anyway. So i just started giving my boyfriend handjobs, and his cum is clear. (Hes hit puberty and all) (hes 18) Why is it clear and not a whiteish color? I'm worried. Is ...
A. 2 December 2008: The consistency and nature of semen depends largely on diet, and perhaps to some degree on genetics. If a man drinks a lot of fluids, including water, beer or other alcoholic beverages, it may thin his ejaculate. As an older man, I can attest that ... (read in full...)
How long does a penis have to be to break a hymen?
Q. Can a three inch penis break a girls hymen? i wanted to know how much it takes, i know you can pop it fingering yourself or with tampons but how long does a dick have to be to pop it?...
A. 2 December 2008: In most cases, I would think that a three incher could do it. The hymen is typically located quite near and inside the vaginal opening.... (read in full...)
Lump in vagina, is this normal?
Q. Sorry this is so explicit :-/ On the upper side of my vagina (that is, the side where my urethra is) I have a huge, long lump that begins about 1" below where my urethra hole is and ends where my cervix begins. I have always had this lump, but I...
A. 2 December 2008: Could be a cyst, or simply an out of the ordinary structure to your private area. Certainly by your age you have seen a gynecologist for routine examination, but if not, it may be advisable for your peace of mind as well as for general health ... (read in full...)
How likely is it that you would get pregnant if you have sex when on your period?
Q. Hey People, last night my girlfriend and I had unprotected sex, now we're worried that she might get pregnant. She was on her period. How likely is it that you would get pregnant if you have sex when on your period? Any help would be appreciated...
A. 1 December 2008: A basic course in biology or sex education should inform you that the female ova (egg) goes through cycles, the final of which is the point that an "unfertilized" ova is released (discarded). This is called the menstrual period. Typically, the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is gaining weight, I'm less attracted to her, how do I let her know or not?
Q. Hi, looking for a little advice really. Ive been dating for about nine months now, think the world of my GF But..since we started dating she has gained, maybee 2-3 stone on a 5ft 9 frame. She has always been fairly large which didnt bother ...
A. 1 December 2008: Your feelings are understandable, and the problem is apparently worldwide. But determine what she is doing, or not doing, that is causing her weight gain. If you truly love her, do not criticize her about the problem, but actively begin doing ... (read in full...)
Help? I have no social or love life, please give me suggestions?
Q. Hi, I am 23 and student teaching and working full time on my master's program and I am missing my social life. I hardly have any time to go out socially (and I'm not being paid for student teaching, so I don't have the money either-my parents are ...
A. 1 December 2008: Try listing online at one of the dating sites. Young women receive lot's of hits that way.... (read in full...)
Is there a way to apologize for my stupidity?
Q. I asked a guy friend to ask this girl for her number specifically telling him to tell her that it was for me. I didn't ask her myself because I had recently moved to a different part of the city and his was the only number I had. I called her and ...
A. 30 November 2008: Duh . . . So if the guy never asked her, as she claims, how did you get her number? My advice: Try to make the whole thing funny - if possible.... (read in full...)
I'm really very bored of my life...
Q. I am 18 years old, I had a best friend, she is my best friend from last 2 years. I was admiring her so much that I used to help her a lot, even she was like that but nowadays she is not caring for me at all. She just hesitates to talk with me. ...
A. 30 November 2008: My best advice: Do not entrust your long-term happiness or much of anything else to a woman, especially at your age - and especially in these times. Read this and remember: Women will come, and women will go. As soon as you realize that, the better ... (read in full...)
Guys: would a bj feel better with a warm or cold mouth?
Q. I'm thinking about giving my BF a surprise BJ when he comes home from class tomorrow, soon after he comes inside. My question is, do you think it would feel especially good if I gargled/drank hot or cold water right beforehand? Does one fee...
A. 30 November 2008: A powerful mint can be exhilarating to many guys, as suggested, but the "slush" is another favorite. It is similar to "Uncle Phil's" suggestion but much easier for you and more effective in my opinion. Ice cubes are quite difficult - so put a bunch ... (read in full...)
What do men think of women that sleep with them on the first date?
Q. What do men think of women that sleep with them on the first date? Are they considered a slut and not girlfriend material or is there a chance that it can work?...
A. 28 November 2008: Well I married a woman (about 20 years) with whom I slept on the first date, although I did not marry many others of similar experience. Anything can happen, but times have changed since I was a much younger man. ... (read in full...)
Do I need hymen removal surgery after so many years of being a virgin?
Q. I am 38 years old and I am virgin. I have a boyfriend (he doesn't know yet that I am virgin) and I want to make sex with him. I am afraid that after so many years my hymen has become very thick and the penetration will be extremely difficult. Do I ...
A. 28 November 2008: To be honest, I have never encountered a 38-year-old virgin, but I strongly doubt that a hymen grows any thicker or stronger with age. You are still a very young woman, and this just seems an unjustifiable concern. You could consult with your ... (read in full...)
How many men out there prefer pubic hair on a girl?
Q. How many men out there prefer pubic hair on a girl? I'm an Asian and I know by experience that most Asian men love pubic hair on a girl. What about the majority of men in the world? Are most men put off by that?...
A. 28 November 2008: Basically I agree with "Danielpew" in that this issue is up to each individual. Personally, I'm quite pleased with a girlfriend's privates whether bushy or trimmed, but I'll admit that a bit of grooming is nice. Bald, on the other hand, seems rather ... (read in full...)
Why do girls act this way????
Q. okej hello all, I came just to ask about some activity that girls do and I want to understand why and what is it for. Well when you ignore a girl she will smile and look too much and sometimes come after you but when you give her just little a ...
A. 28 November 2008: For the most part, I agree with the previous female posts (below), but let me simplify. Whenever you catch a girl looking or smiling, you may have a chance, but you must take the initiative. Be bold and approach them - say something about most ... (read in full...)
Confusing eye contact question.
Q. Hiya! There's this girl I like at school. I caught her looking at me the other day. When I looked at her, she quickly looked away. She has done this a few times now. I don't know how to interpret this. Does she think that I'm checking her out and ...
A. 28 November 2008: I think that you should give her a wink and a smile, then see what happens. It can't hurt anything, even if nothing happens. And you should always be able to think of something to say . . .... (read in full...)
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