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B/f refusing B J
Q. So, my boyfriend and i have been practicing oral for a while, as me on him. And when i am on my period i still like to treat him even though he cannot treat me. Today i asked him if he wanted to and he said not today... and that he had to use the ...
A. 24 January 2009: Certainly I did not mean to be callous, but I see your point. The suspicion was raised by her statement, "He has never not wanted one..." ... (read in full...)
Low rating on dear cupid?
Q. Why do I have such a low rating on dearcupid? Do I have trolls? haters? Just wondering if anyone can spill me in. I'm new here and I do give brutally honest answers but that's because english wasn't my first language and so sometimes my eng...
A. 24 January 2009: Well I have been contributing here for well over a year, and have tried to provide honest suggestions or answers based on many years of personal experience. In my opinion, the basics about sex, romance and relationships never really change much, and ... (read in full...)
B/f refusing B J
Q. So, my boyfriend and i have been practicing oral for a while, as me on him. And when i am on my period i still like to treat him even though he cannot treat me. Today i asked him if he wanted to and he said not today... and that he had to use the ...
A. 24 January 2009: Okay, you are young for this, but since you are doing it, my question is, "Why is oral satisfaction only for him?" To suggest an answer to the question, however, maybe you are not his only source for his apparent one-sided enjoyment.... (read in full...)
What do guys think of red heads and freckles?
Q. I have red hair and freckles and sometimes i'm self conscience about them because i feel "different" per say. What are male opinions about red heads?...
A. 24 January 2009: Has always turned me on darling. In my youth, being just a little bit "different" was always considered preferable - Who wants to be like everybody else? And really, redheads are a great turn-on because they are a little less prevalent, as well as ... (read in full...)
Involved with married woman--confused
Q. hi I AM SO IN LOVE WITH THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN. She is everything to me. She is married and says she loves me, sometimes i believe her but other times i am not so sure. When we are together she says it is everything she wants we really struggle ...
A. 24 January 2009: What I think you have here is a sexual affair with an unsatisfied married woman. You already know that, but for you to become emotionally involved is a mistake. If you choose to enjoy her sexual pleasures, well, that is up to you. But falling in ... (read in full...)
Wanting more than what he will give
Q. I have been dating this guy since September. We're not boyfriend/girlfriend we're friends and it tears me up inside because I have deep feelings for him. We have had sex a couple of times and it's like the way he treats me, no other boyfriend I had ...
A. 23 January 2009: You probably do not want to hear it, but you are still very young and your attraction to this guy sounds more like infatuation than anything really meaningful, especially considering his rather flippant attitude toward the relationship. ... (read in full...)
Should I leave because of her vagina size or tell her it bothers me?
Q. My girlfriend vagina is much looser than any other women i have been in a serious relationship with, what really bothers me is that i dont have a small penis im actually well over average, so i kno its not me, I really like the person that she is, ...
A. 23 January 2009: Absolutely do not say anything about this to your girl. That is just too cruel. Personally, I would love to look up her vagina if I were you, and swill it for an hour with my tongue, but if that or anything else you mentioned turns you off, then I'm ... (read in full...)
Where is the sweetest part of a girl?
Q. where is the sweeties part of a girl?...
A. 23 January 2009: Hmmmm. Okay girls . . . What I have always treasured about girls indeed has so much to do with their loving nature. Their willingness to love. Their desire to be held so close to me, to be warmed by my body. Their desire to warm me. It is the ... (read in full...)
Breaking free from a married man
Q. I fell in love with a married man and something happened (long story) and he disappeared without telling me. I was heartbroken, cried and went into extreme depression. I was in trying to get over him and move on and then he reappeared and explained ...
A. 23 January 2009: Your so-called "love" is no man in any respect. ... (read in full...)
I have experienced clitoridean orgasms but not vaginal. How can I achieve those?
Q. i have two childern and im on my thrid and ive never had an orgasim inside me yes ive had one on my clit manytimes but i want to know how i have one inside someone must please help me thanks for you answeres...
A. 23 January 2009: Vaginal orgasms are more successfully achieved after abundant foreplay that usually includes manual G-spot stimulation along with skillful cunnilingus by a man who knows what he is doing. He can be of almost any age if his life experiences and ... (read in full...)
Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?
Q. Do boys see girls who give blow jobs as easy or slutty?...
A. 23 January 2009: In my opinion, the context of an ongoing and possibly meaningful relationship certainly makes it okay, especially if the sexual activities include oral pleasure for the woman as well. In that case, it is mutual and consensual and I've never had any ... (read in full...)
A little advice from guys out there??
Q. A little advice from other guys out there... how can a woman ultimately spice up things in the bedroom? I know every man is differant, but how would like your wife or girlfriend to spice it up? My husband doesn't share his fantasies with me, so I'm ...
A. 23 January 2009: Personally, my opinion, but I would not suggest the porn-watching idea. The last thing that you want to do is get your hubby hooked on pornography, which becomes addictive to many men and then begins to affect normal sexual relations. It feeds their ... (read in full...)
My husband has ED and wants me to have a child with his brother!
Q. my hubbie suffers from ed and cannot get an erection. he has given me permission to find a lover as long as he knows about. i am 32 years of age and i have not had any children and i am desperate to have a child. my hubbie knows i want a child and ...
A. 22 January 2009: It has been a long while since we addressed this issue. I think that detailed communication with your husband is advised, although I tend to agree that his age is a bit advanced to begin any form of parenthood on his part. You will likely become a ... (read in full...)
Double standards about masturbation
Q. Some people have the double standard that masturbation is ok for guys but not for girls. Is there anybody with the opposite opinion? It seems like many of the opinions about masturbation or porn say it's liberating for women, but sleazy for men. ...
A. 22 January 2009: Basically, I agree with "satindesire" in that masturbation is acceptable for anyone, and that it is healthy and normal, providing that actual sexual interaction with another is unavailable. Real sex with a mate is infinitely much better and more ... (read in full...)
French kissing & oral sex
Q. Would you french kiss a girl who engage in oral sex with her ex boyriend 3 years ago? Next question is it true that if you kiss a girl that engage in those things it will come in like you kissing the guy private part?...
A. 22 January 2009: If you shake hands with someone who masturbated a couple of years ago, or even yesterday, are you also stroking his penis or fingering her vagina? While I understand that you are very young and impressionable, it would be a good idea to resist wild ... (read in full...)
Ready to live with my boyfriend and become estranged to my parents... HELP!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so desperate I've resorted to asking over the internet. My parents told me they are never going to accept my boyfriend. He is 36 and I am 20. We've been dating for 2 years. He is a nightclub promoter and has been having money pro...
A. 22 January 2009: It seems that you are on your way toward making good decisions. Remember that you have known your party boyfriend two years, and it has probably been fun, but you have had your parents your whole life thus far and hopefully for many years ahead. ... (read in full...)
How do you cope with getting old???
Q. How do you cope when getting old. I get so depressed I am facing my 30s and even when I was in my 20's....
A. 22 January 2009: Huh? Old? 30? Yeah, right, that's ancient for sure.
But really, even though you're still just a spring chicken, I understand and even recall approaching my 30s more than 30 years ago. You have to cope with all these stages in life with humor, humi... (read in full...)
I don't want her to think I'm a lousy lover...
Q. I need help.. I'm feeling kind of worried. I'm about to have sex with a girl I've been going out with for over three months... she's cute, sweet ect. and I'm a pretty nice guy, but I'm afraid what she'll think when we have sex, I'm afraid making t...
A. 22 January 2009: If you are both virgins, she will probably not know the difference. You could do yourself a favor by reading many of the archived postings about making love on this Web site. Enter search words like: passion, foreplay, intercourse, etc.
P... (read in full...)
Ready to live with my boyfriend and become estranged to my parents... HELP!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so desperate I've resorted to asking over the internet. My parents told me they are never going to accept my boyfriend. He is 36 and I am 20. We've been dating for 2 years. He is a nightclub promoter and has been having money pro...
A. 22 January 2009: It's a big step, and it's never a good idea to burn bridges. You will place yourself in a situation that is dangerous. If you and your boyfriend break-up, or even if he has ongoing or additional financial problems, you will be in dire straits and ... (read in full...)
I seem to have lost all my friends...
Q. Hi everyone hope you can help me. 2008 was a particularly hard year for me, I split with my husband with all intents and purpose of the relationship ending. We have got back together and are working on our marriage its going really well now. I h...
A. 21 January 2009: For more than 20 years, my ex-wife was my best friend. We pretty much did everything together, and we did share many interests but not all. We both enjoyed traveling when we could, weekends at the lake, getting high on smoke occasionally, watching ... (read in full...)
We always fight and I feel like he doesn't want me sexually anymore
Q. ok so me and my bf have been together over 2 yrs and we are always together we live together and everything we always fight over the stupidest things i hate fighting with him and he says it's cuz i whine all the time and cuz im to clingy what ...
A. 21 January 2009: Some of the relationships in your life will not be ideal, especially during your youth. One of the keys to happiness will always be when you are really compatible with those who are closest to you. Seek those who respect you and appreciate being ... (read in full...)
I seem to have lost all my friends...
Q. Hi everyone hope you can help me. 2008 was a particularly hard year for me, I split with my husband with all intents and purpose of the relationship ending. We have got back together and are working on our marriage its going really well now. I h...
A. 21 January 2009: Friends and lovers come and go - that's just the way it is as time goes by, but there will also be good times. Know that there are others similarly estranged from past friends and out seeking new relationships.... (read in full...)
How can I regain my libido?
Q. I had sex for the first time quite recently. It hurt a lot the first time, but I feel it's getting better. Before having sex I though once I start, I will want to have sex all the time. But I have found out it's not the case. I have a feeling maybe ...
A. 21 January 2009: You were quite likely traumatized by your experiences thus far - a natural reaction to something painful. Now, evidently, you are associating sex with pain, which is unfortunate. My suggestion would be to simply abstain for awhile - perhaps a few ... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive
Q. I am a 46 year old male. Happily married for 25 years. I love my wife and she loves me. Sex was great until 3 years ago, when I first started to experience erectile difficulties, then loss of sex drive, and now I have no desire for sex, not even mas...
A. 21 January 2009: Good grief ! Please let us all know if you figure this out. You seem to have eliminated all the usual factors, and attempted most if not all the remedies with the possible exception of cock rings. But I have not yet had to go that route.... (read in full...)
Why do girls always fall for the bad guys?
Q. im having girl trouble and i need your help..i have to questions... 1-ok there this girl i really like and we're really close friends and i think she likes me too..but tthe thing is she has a boyfriend and she's always flirting with me and seem...
A. 21 January 2009: The advice from "Irish49" hits right-on. The young girls are attracted to strength, confidence and that danger factor I mentioned. At least part of the reason is the huge surge of hormones that causes them to want sex. Period. It is totally natural, ... (read in full...)
Why do girls always fall for the bad guys?
Q. im having girl trouble and i need your help..i have to questions... 1-ok there this girl i really like and we're really close friends and i think she likes me too..but tthe thing is she has a boyfriend and she's always flirting with me and seem...
A. 21 January 2009: It is because they like the danger. It's kind of a self-destructive urge that is hard to understand, but it tends to go away sometime in their 20s. Unfortunately, this is after many young women have been badly mistreated, often impregnated and ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to orgasm during pregnancy?
Q. Is it safe to orgasm during pregnancy? I was advised not to have sex for the first trimester (by my doctor) due to a previous miscarriage. I'm now in my 12th week of pregnancy, does no sex mean no fun on my own? Is masturbating still ok? Ple...
A. 21 January 2009: This seems the same poster who asked, "Is it ok to have sex & orgasm when pregnant?"
For most pregnant women, unless otherwise advised by their medical professional, sex of all kinds including orgasms is fine with the possible exception of roug... (read in full...)
I really want to orgasm while having actual intercourse.
Q. Basically I really want to orgasm while having sex and as funny as it seems I'm finding it hard, I need some tips on how to, because when my boyfriend goes down on me or uses his fingers I do within minutes but never through sex???...
A. 21 January 2009: Nobody should bash another for having five intimate partners in six years, which is really rather tame these days or at any time since World War II. But to the 18-21 anonymous poster, it would seem that you are more fortunate than many about your ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have sex & orgasm when pregnant?
Q. Well you see i am 20 and i just got marries and i am having my first baby i am 13 weeks pregnant and i am as horny as hell. I want to have sex more than ever but my partner says he doesnt want to hurt the baby. is it safe to have sex and an orgasm ...
A. 21 January 2009: Yes it's okay unless your OB/GYN says otherwise. It will not hurt the baby, but when you get past about seven months, check back with the doctor.... (read in full...)
Do most men lose interest in sex over 40... or just with their wife?
Q. Do most men lose interest in sex over 40... or just with their wife? I didn't feel like having sex for a long time. I haven't tried looking at other woman but sure I never think of having sex with my wife, or nobody.. What happens to man? Do they ...
A. 20 January 2009: Well, I woke up one day not long ago and discovered that I had turned 60-years-old. But there are days that my libido and sex drive feels as good as when I was 25, despite some problems with high blood pressure medication. There are plenty of ... (read in full...)
Sex is boring & I want him to stop
Q. ok so ive been having sex for 2 months now and i dont seem 2 enjoy penetration like i get bored and just want him 2 stop... can anyone help me with this.. and also why is it when i get this feeling i dont think its a orgasim but im not sure ...
A. 20 January 2009: Based on your posting, I highly doubt that you have experienced a skilled lover, but you are not the least bit unusual. Few men up until about the age of 25 or 30 have much of a clue about pleasing a woman, and apparently a majority never know. If ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men lose their sex drives?
Q. Why some middle aged husbands losing their sex drive? Are most marriage lose sex at the middle? What turns man off, and why?...
A. 20 January 2009: While my friend "satindesire" adds introspective thoughts about declining desire, I must interject that such has really not been much a problem for me thus far in life (I'm about 60). Oh, I suppose there was some degree of decline during my fifties, ... (read in full...)
He's masturbating more than I can count!
Q. Recently for past 5 months my husband masturbates more than i can count. Our love life had been really awsome and try to play out fantasys! I accidentally caught him one morning with my underware before getting in shower. Tried to over look it but ...
A. 20 January 2009: Do you not masturbate? Most of us do, at least occasionally, but I understand your concern if his activities seem excessive. I think this may be an indication of viewing too much pornography online. This can become an addictive fantasy for many ... (read in full...)
Messy sex!
Q. Hi everyone Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 3-4 months now, and I've just recently started taking the pill. The first time we did it without a condom and he came inside me, I was on top... But I completely didn't realise it would...
A. 20 January 2009: It should not be considered embarrassing because it happens with us all. Simply keep an old towel or wad of tissues handy to mop-up a bit after. Sex is a little messy but worth it. ... (read in full...)
Why do middle aged men lose their sex drives?
Q. Why some middle aged husbands losing their sex drive? Are most marriage lose sex at the middle? What turns man off, and why?...
A. 20 January 2009: I'm going to cheat here and paste my following answer to a previously posted question - but this also applies, at least in part, to your posting.
"One more thought that comes to me is that younger men and women in the early phase of a marriage (fir... (read in full...)
Confusion about God
Q. well i gots an issue... im usually a very religious person but now im so confused about god and life and everything i love the most (acting,singing,ect) i cant take anything any more... now to my real problem. I have one person telling me on thing ...
A. 20 January 2009: In my opinion, "SebastePistis" provided good insight, notably that being "spiritual" is different than also being "religious." It can be assumed that many religious types, like your antagonist at church claims, are also spiritual, but in my opinion, ... (read in full...)
Do men have sometimes have really intense orgasms and sometimes just normal, mild ones, like women do?
Q. I dont want this to sound dirty or perverted in any way but I'm just curious. Do men have sometimes have really intense orgasms and sometimes just normal, mild ones, like women do? And do they produce the same amount of semen every time they ...
A. 20 January 2009: Basically, I agree with "pvtguy" -
My thoughts. No orgasms are bad but some are mind-boggling while some are quite average or small ones. The volume varies, and volume definitely can increase intensity. It's pretty much the same with thro... (read in full...)
I'm 16 years old male and I think I'm a pervert and I hate myself for this.
Q. Hi all, I'm 16 years old male and I think I'm a pervert and I hate myself for this. Sometimes everything is ok, you know Ii just want to kiss a girl more than other things. But sometimes I want to do stuff you see in porn movies, girls never want ...
A. 20 January 2009: No, you're normal, I agree. But I think that the easy availability of porn is causing young people to do and think things that would have been unusual in my heyday. Fifty years ago, the closest thing I ever saw to pornography were the lingerie ads ... (read in full...)
I rarely get head but she REALLY doesn't want it herself either...
Q. I have a question regarding variety of sex dropping off in general, and cunnilingus in particular. My wife and I have been married nine years, been together for fifteen. No kids. When we were first got together we were quite open to most "stan...
A. 19 January 2009: One more thought that comes to me is that younger men and women in the early phase of a marriage (first 10 to 15 years) probably do not realize that, almost inevitably, an insidious factor will begin to affect the relationship. It is called ... (read in full...)
I gave him a bj, haven't heard from him, should I text him?
Q. ok so.... this is my problem... on new years eve i was really wasted and texted this one guy ive crushed on for a few months, it was like 1:30am and i told him to come up because i didnt feel well.. suprisingly he came up and we somewhat hungout,...
A. 19 January 2009: That was indeed - what's the word? - IMPULSIVE to the extreme. If a girl does that with me, and a only a couple have done anything so like that over the past 45 years of my life, I did not and would not consider them to be anyone with whom to have a ... (read in full...)
My wife and me have been married for 3 weeks now. But a little problem I never saw her breasts.
Q. My wife and me have been married for 3 weeks now. But a little problem I never saw her breasts. Even when we were dating she wouldn't let let me see them. She said they'll gross me out (she has a long scar one of them) and also she thinks she ...
A. 19 January 2009: As often the case, "satindesire" offered you good advice. Absolutely do NOT disrespect your wife's current desire to protect, and even conceal, something that is apparently very embarrassing to her, although I agree that it is a bit strange. I think ... (read in full...)
I rarely get head but she REALLY doesn't want it herself either...
Q. I have a question regarding variety of sex dropping off in general, and cunnilingus in particular. My wife and I have been married nine years, been together for fifteen. No kids. When we were first got together we were quite open to most "stan...
A. 19 January 2009: If I was in the situation as described, I think it might be a good idea to go along with her for a good while and back-off on any demands. In other words, if she prefers "vanilla sex" then so be it. Offer nothing else, and although you may miss it ... (read in full...)
My husband has ED and wants me to have a child with his brother!
Q. my hubbie suffers from ed and cannot get an erection. he has given me permission to find a lover as long as he knows about. i am 32 years of age and i have not had any children and i am desperate to have a child. my hubbie knows i want a child and ...
A. 11 December 2008: Considering your explanation about the unfortunate reason for your husband's inability, I tend to agree with "Uncle Phil" for the most part, but on the other hand, you should not be denied the opportunity of motherhood at your age. Nor should you ... (read in full...)
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