A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've tried lots of stuff with masturbation (fingers, objects, talking dirty with my boyfriend etc.) but nothing seems to be screaming orgasm good. I've tried rubbing my clit, or where i think it is, but its never.... Hmm... What i think it should be. Please help! All my love 3
View related questions:
orgasm Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 January 2009):
 You are very hasty to expect orgasm at your age. Many women never orgasm, but you probably will when you reach a more mature age - and if you eventually hook-up with a man who knows quite a bit about pleasing a woman. You would be very wise to refrain from serious sexual activity, at least a couple more years, and wait until you settle down with a really good guy who loves you and who knows a lot about sexuality. Meanwhile, continue masturbation if and whenever so inclined and you will learn more about your body and what turns you on physically, and then when you find a compatible friend and lover, you will be able to impart those things to him. That's the way it works.
A
female
reader, elisa_lee +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Honey, your clit is the lovely little bit right at the top, tucked in the middle... take a look at it, it should be a sort of "bud" with very soft skin, sort of wrinkly, shape and size varies. I suggest you take a mirror and become familiar with how that part of you looks, if you haven't already. While the boys always get to see theirs, females become sadly estranged from their own bodies. And while it might look odd to you, trust me lots of people would go mad with lust in visually beholding the beauty of your female parts. People are all different but for me strong pressure does the trick... I lay on my belly and squeeze my legs together while pressing hard against the general area with my hands. Others like very light pressure, a better practice if you can make it work because that is more like sex so you won't become reliant on self-stimulation for orgasm. So.. try varying pressure if you haven't already. and rhythm or timing.And yes relax! A focus on orgasm sometimes makes you nervous, unable to come. Just do what feels good and don't worry about whether it "works" and things will just get better over time until you suddenly explode with pleasure when you least expect.... wait, not when you LEAST expect it! - when you masturbate.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): Sorry i figured i'd add some stuff :) i haven't been masturbating long... A month max. But from the begining it didn't feel fantastic. It didn't feel bad but it didn't feel great. I feel way better when i'm kissing my boyfriend. Little stuff like that then when i'm masturbating.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): relax. You'll never reach orgasm if you're worrying so much about it.
...............................
|
