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Confusing eye contact question.
Q. Hiya! There's this girl I like at school. I caught her looking at me the other day. When I looked at her, she quickly looked away. She has done this a few times now. I don't know how to interpret this. Does she think that I'm checking her out and ...
A. 28 November 2008: I think that you should give her a wink and a smile, then see what happens. It can't hurt anything, even if nothing happens. And you should always be able to think of something to say . . .... (read in full...)
After taking birth control pills, would I be able to have children later in life?
Q. ok. I want to go on birth control because i have long periods, bad cramps and i'm sexually active. I've had sex before and i'm close to having sex again with a new boyfriend. Does birth control (after taking it for a year or more) really keep you ...
A. 27 November 2008: No, it does not prevent pregnancy at a later time. No medical professional is likely to say that it would never cause infertility, but that would be extremely unlikely. You almost certainly should be able to get pregnant after you discontinue use of ... (read in full...)
I want to remain friends, even though we have had sex, any suggestions?
Q. So I moved 1800 miles away from home to play a sport at a top college. At the begining I was quite lonely, only having my team mates for support, when I met some football players at our athlete-orientation. I found out they lived in the same dorm ...
A. 27 November 2008: It would seem that your friend got what he really wanted, and now you're just a check on his scorecard. Wish we could suggest otherwise, but if he no longer wants to even talk about things, then such is likely the case. ... (read in full...)
Too much pre-cum !
Q. I'm having trouble with producing lots of pre-cum when I get really horny! I'm not ejaculating just getting really wet (my boxers look like snails have been racing around in them) Is this a medical problem? Is there anything I can do to stop it? ...
A. 27 November 2008: No, this is not a problem. You are just horny as hell, and I well remember what it was like. LOL - Maybe that was why underwear was invented.... (read in full...)
Could the amount I watch porn be affecting how I get turned on with my boyfriend??
Q. Hi. I have been with my boyfrined for afew years now. Atfirst our sexlife was great but it has slowly gone downhill. Before we got togther I had watched porn with ex boyfreinds and loved it. However when we got together and tried to watch it I felt ...
A. 26 November 2008: Most pornography that I have seen appears to be directed to the male market, so it is interesting to me that females indulge on their own, but times have changed, I suppose, due to ease of availability. While I support the freedom of expression and ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of this whole sex thing, will having sex be the right thing?
Q. ok so i am 13 i have been going out with this guy and he is 16 i know that tere is a huge difference betweeb our ages but im just in love and i know that he loves me too. i really want to have sex with him we both want that really bad but then i ...
A. 26 November 2008: Be afraid, be very afraid!... (read in full...)
Realistically, what are the chances she could get pregnant from this?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been having sex for 3 months, we try our best to be responsible and use condoms but occasionally in the heat of the moment we don't use one (but I always pull out and she's been fine).. Well the other night we wanted to have ...
A. 26 November 2008: The chances are generally very high, depending upon the timing during her menstrual cycle. ... (read in full...)
Does my fantasy seem normal? Anyone else fantasise about this or similar?
Q. I'm a 22-year old male, and I often fantasize about having unprotected sex. I find the thought that there's a possibility of of fertilizing a woman with my seed and creating a new life inside her extremely arousing. Often when my ex-girlfriend and ...
A. 26 November 2008: It is the very design of nature to procreate. Whether or not one subscribes to religious beliefs, it is the primary biological goal of every living thing on Earth to propagate its species, whether plant, animal or insect. So, you are perfectly ... (read in full...)
How can I handle my feelings and save my marriage?
Q. I have a big problem doing the right thing. I really want to stay in my marriage, but I don't have good hope in this moment. I get so angry at my husband, that I feel like running away,but I know it would be bad, and nothing would get resolved. I...
A. 26 November 2008: You are apparently a mature woman, and you know that you have only one life to live on Earth. You should seek happiness, and perhaps your family members would be best advisors. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend use to get coldsores, does that mean I will get herpes if he goes down on me?
Q. My boyfriend is very used to getting coldsores but hasnt had one in a bout a year. We started to haave sex about 8 months ago and he goes down on me. As coldsores is herpes, and it never goes, does this mean i have herpes? can you tell?...
A. 26 November 2008: There are various "types" of herpes viruses. But even a yeast infection, which is fungal, can also cause coldsores- usually at the corners of the mouth. These are typically treatable within a few days with an ointment containing nystatin and ... (read in full...)
Am I a virgin if I have used "man like" toys during masturbation?
Q. This is something that has been plaguing me for ages . . . I have never had sexual intercourse with a man, but I have used man-like toys during masturbation and my hymen was ripped/broken. Am I a virgin? Sorry if this question is a bit g...
A. 25 November 2008: In the Western World, you are a virgin until you have had heterosexual intercourse.... (read in full...)
Should I confess my feelings to my ex when I have a BF?
Q. should i tell my ex i still love him even though i have a boyfriend?...
A. 25 November 2008: What purpose would it serve?... (read in full...)
How do I make him go?
Q. My husband told me tonight that he doesn't give a s**t about me....I have wanted this to be over for a long time. When I spoke to him on the phone, I told him that if he feels that way, he should just go (he hung up). We have no kids, and the only ...
A. 25 November 2008: Just "require" that he move out as soon as possible. Tell him to "Get out. Go back home to mother," or whatever. He is supposedly a man and he should be able to take care of himself. If you actually own a house together, then you will likely need ... (read in full...)
Her first time with her ex he was really rough and hurt her very badly. How can I reassure her I will be gentle ?
Q. my gf has been giving me blowjobs in replace for sex since shes not ready but is prefectly fine with that but i know shes afraid because her first time with her ex he was really rough and hurt her very badly she soon broke up with him and fell for ...
A. 25 November 2008: Sure. Well you are very young, but so was I when my sexual experience began about 45 years ago. In my opinion, you are in an enviable position but it does need at least gradual improvement. I think you may need to begin by returning oral pleasures ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my girlfriend. she doesn't cook, doesn't clean, is messy...I want her out !
Q. i want to break up with my girlfriend. she lives with me and has no where really to go if i break up with her. she is a sweet girl. we lived together for about three months and things just aren't goin the way i thought they would. she doesn't cook, ...
A. 25 November 2008: While it is not my intent to sound flippant, "Welcome to reality." Some women will drain you, but not necessarily as you would prefer. Now, before anyone accuses me of slandering female gender, many male friends are just as likely to take such ... (read in full...)
I'm always thinking about what she would be like in bed, is this normal?
Q. Hi This is a serious question, I am a university student and there is a girl that goes there who is actually on my course, who i like alot she smiles waves and will stop and say hi, but for some reason i just think about having sex with her and...
A. 25 November 2008: Hey guys, you are not being abnormal to think about carnal knowledge with an attractive girl you fancy. But why don't you start conversing, rather than silently fantasizing, and see where it may lead? Hint: Ask her about school work, whether she ... (read in full...)
Could a large penis have done this to me?
Q. I recently started talking to one of my ex boyfriends from when I was younger. Having sex with him always hurt a little, because his penis is very large. It had been a long time since I had sex, I would say about a year, and we had sex yesterday. It ...
A. 25 November 2008: Sure, a forceful banging can bruise your privates - and perhaps you are correct that infrequency plays a part. You say that he was "more rough" than you expected. Could it be that this fellow is unconcerned with your well-being as long as he gets ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get wet like this?
Q. Ok so when me and my boyfriend talk on the phone and we start talking about doing it, i start getting a little wet or when i'm with him mackin i still do. Is dis normal??...
A. 25 November 2008: Of course that is normal.... (read in full...)
Will my hubby record me?
Q. Hi. I'm a 25 year old, married woman. For Christmas this year I have bought my hubby a digital camcorder with the intent of letting him film me pleasuring myself and the 2 of us together. We are both quite adventurous in the bedroom, but I a...
A. 25 November 2008: Why don't you let him take the lead? He may come up with the suggestion himself after receiving your gift.... (read in full...)
I need to locate an ex, any suggestions
Q. Dear cupid, Please help... 2 years ago I was basically date raped and ended up pregnant. I was 15 at the time and he was 25( I didn't know that until I told him I was pregnant and it slipped). I'm in a relationship now and I really am happy bu...
A. 24 November 2008: I think that you can continue to google or search other sites for the scumbag's name, or check with the police. Not certain about socialist France, but police and judicial records are generally public in America. I would hope such is true there as ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of her being pregnant?
Q. Hi, yesterday me and my girlfriend had sex.. we didnt use condoms. i did not cum. but there was a liquid kind of thing.. she said she felt something wet, but im 100% sure i did not cum. is she going to be pregnant? what are the chances? ...
A. 24 November 2008: The possibility of pregnancy exists any time you have unprotected sexual intercourse with a fertile woman, which is almost certain if she is under the age of about 50. Even if you "did not cum," as you say, there is very often some "leakage" called ... (read in full...)
I think I am ready, but he isn't...what do I do???
Q. I am 16 and my boyfriend is almost 15. I got to thinking about sex and thought i might be ready, but my boyfriend has already told me he just isn't ready yet, that he wants it to be special and when it's right. So, what do I do if I think I am ready ...
A. 24 November 2008: Well, respect him and his admirable wishes, but talk about whether some heavy petting might be okay. There are a lot of things you can do together that stops short of sexual intercourse, which if unprepared and not properly informed is likely to ... (read in full...)
Something "special" for my birthday........
Q. My girlfriend said she wanted to give me something "special" for my birthday which is in a week and when I went to her house she had left her computer on so I checked some websites and while on google I typed in the search bar and some searches said ...
A. 24 November 2008: If that actually turns out to be the case, be assured that your physiology will respond appropriately providing you are mentally receptive. Whether your girlfriend is experienced or not, you will reach a point at which you are going to release ... (read in full...)
Does giving blowjobs make a girl a whore?
Q. If I like giving bj's does that make me a whore...? I give my bf plenty of them cuz in my opinion I find it fun, my friends say that girls who do it a lot are dirty... and even though I try to ignore it, it always comes back... is it bad for a girl ...
A. 24 November 2008: While I must agree with "Johnny Bananas" that you are very young to be so explicitly active (my words), I too will avoid being judgmental. Allow me to offer you some valuable advice: Keep your private life to yourself. You do not need to tell even a ... (read in full...)
It itches and burns,(down there). What is it ?
Q. kinda personal but need help figureing this out. so for the past week or so my vagina has been very itchy and burns. it has got to where when i go to the bath room it burns and hurts to even wipe. and after sex it burns twice as bad. i was wondering ...
A. 23 November 2008: Yes, it could be harmful, but you are going to get treatment and adhere to it. Worry is not good either.... (read in full...)
I think I've screwed up our sex life!!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend's sex life has gotten strange lately. We used to have sex like twice a day for the past few weeks and then accidentally while we were having sexing my finger rubbed past her anus while I was grabbing her butt, and she freaked ...
A. 23 November 2008: This should be no problem - let reasonable time pass and be more careful next time. Apologize if necessary, but continue to maintain it was accidental if true. Some of both genders are a bit sensitive about our rectal areas in youth, but many also ... (read in full...)
My husband is obsessed with a threesome - but even the guy he wants it with thinks it's a bad idea!
Q. Recently my husband has become obsessed with having a MMF threesome after reading various magazines and online sites about it, and he insists we should have it as it will make our marriage stronger. He also wants me to sleep with his best friend ...
A. 23 November 2008: Stick to your "guns" about this, as we might say in Texas. A threesome would be extremely destructive to your marriage because your values are good and true. Personally, I have always declined any kind of similar offers - many of which were more ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to feel this way please help !!!!!!!!!!!!
Q. What should I do? I’m 22 years old and married for about 4 months my husband and I have a 1 year old and another on the way. When I was pregnant with my son he wouldn't touch me. When I asked him to have sex it would be I’m tired. He would ...
A. 23 November 2008: In my opinion, "temptressofdreams" and "dearkelja" are right on - your man is addicted to pornography. As a citizen and patriot of the United States of America, I fully support freedom of expression, but many men have become overwhelmed by this ... (read in full...)
Lately my GF has been really sexual and I'm not sure what to do next...
Q. lately my gf has been very sexual....always feeling my private area and im not sure what i should do should i ask her if she wants to see it? or do something to it? or is it just a tease....? lol im so confused and i wouldnt mind if she wants to do ...
A. 23 November 2008: You guys are a tad young to be getting very sexual, but I remember what it's like and you are probably going to start feeling each other up no matter what anyone says here. Given that, a bit of petting (feeling and playing around) is reasonable, but ... (read in full...)
It itches and burns,(down there). What is it ?
Q. kinda personal but need help figureing this out. so for the past week or so my vagina has been very itchy and burns. it has got to where when i go to the bath room it burns and hurts to even wipe. and after sex it burns twice as bad. i was wondering ...
A. 22 November 2008: Likely a yeast infection as others suggest. First of all, no more sex until cured. Both you and your partner(s) will probably require treatment, which may involve a medication called Nystatin and/or other medications. Be comforted that the condition ... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex at the end of her period. Could I have caught something from doing this?
Q. Hi, something troubles me. Earlier this week me and the girl I recently started dating had sex. We'd used a condom the first few times we had sex, but we've been together for a month now, and so have recently started doing it without protecti...
A. 22 November 2008: If your girlfriend is disease-free, then you are not going to "catch something." A bit of menstrual blood is harmless unless the woman is infected with a sexually transmitted disease.... (read in full...)
What do you do when she tells you she had sex with a stranger?
Q. what do you do if you break up with your girlfriend of 8 months then you date someone else for only a month no sex then get back with your ex then she tells you she needs a break after a week and you get back together and after a month passes in the ...
A. 22 November 2008: What would I do? Well first, I would come to the realization that I was screwing up the relationship myself, or at least contributing. It matters not at all whether you engaged in sex while the two of you were "broke up" - simply because the ... (read in full...)
Hard, soft, hard, soft... why are my erections doing this?
Q. I was hugging up to a girl this past weekend and a friends get together kind of thing and I kept getting an erection but a couple minutes later it would go flaccid, I wasnt really interested in having sex with her but it was kinda frustration. ...
A. 22 November 2008: You answered your own question here with, "I wasnt really interested in having sex with her." In addition to your youth and inexperience, this indecision or wavering interest would interfere with the physiological. In other words, sexual desire and ... (read in full...)
How many years of a sexless marriage should be enough for divorce?
Q. After years of sexless marriage, is there a hope that sex will come alive again, or is it over forever? How many years of no sexual desire from my husband should be enough for divorce? Or most marriages will end up with no sex? I wonder so much, wh...
A. 22 November 2008: Little to go on here. Who knows? Sex may never "come alive" between you if neither are willing to initiate or be receptive to doing something different. There is no way for amateur advisors to suggest what that may be given the limited input, but ... (read in full...)
I don't have the courage to give him head, what do I do?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and we've had sex and everything but i cant seem to get enough courage to give him head. hes fine with it but i really want to. iv only done it once before, im just scared i will be shit! help me?...
A. 22 November 2008: If you want to, and you have once pleasured someone this way, it is hard to imagine that you would "be shit" at it. There is little that can go wrong. Even if he has previously received 10,000 excellent blow jobs, a new woman giving it a go is ... (read in full...)
Help me reprogram my wife!
Q. My patience is wearing thin, so I figured I’d ask the readers here for some advice. First, let me start out with some facts: I’m 32 and married. My wife is 26 and pretty awesome. I have few complaints about her. She’s warm, kind, and genuinely lo...
A. 22 November 2008: The question(s) is/are a bit daunting. While I do not have time to study in depth, I did not read anything about an attempt to give her (perhaps) something that she has never experienced. An orgasm - or multiple orgasms. Maybe it's there, please ... (read in full...)
An anyone tell me what it means when a guy has "blue balls"?
Q. Dear Cupid - I'm in this wonderful relationship with my boyfriend (I'm a virgin, he's not, but it's not a problem for either of us). Although we're not having sex yet we often do things like dry humping, fingering me etc. And I just heard abo...
A. 21 November 2008: "Blue balls" or "stone aches" really only happened to me once, long ago, and that was enough. I make certain to never let it occur again. The ladies basically have it right - if a guy is aroused almost to the point of ejaculation, but for some ... (read in full...)
Can a married woman love a man for 51+ years and not see him?
Q. Married in 1956, yep that long ago. Now after that long ago, I found out that my wife called a guy she dated and was intimate with prior to our marriage. First she said she loved this guy and was keeping in contact, after a lot of talking she then ...
A. 21 November 2008: It is absolutely possible that anyone can carry an infatuation throughout their lifetime. I have no idea what you can do about it, but I still cherish lovers I knew nearly 45 years ago. If only I knew where they are today . . . ... (read in full...)
Are there any good websites for sexy positions that aren't completely trashy?
Q. I was wondering if anyone could suggest a good website that teaches different sex positions. I want to read something sort of informational, and all I keep finding is kind of nasty websites. Thanks for the information!...
A. 21 November 2008: "aunty rach" suggested a good one, although there are a number of positions missing the last time I checked it out. ... (read in full...)
Technique for going down on her
Q. Hey, I am sexually inexperienced and my girlfriend has given me head and I have fingered here and I want to go down on her, but any advice on how to get that going without it being awkward. I mean the first time for that will be a little awkward ...
A. 20 November 2008: Well, if you want to orchestrate a memorable session, you begin with a full ten minutes or so of arousal (foreplay), including kissing, petting and all that. Lets presume that she is laying naked and either prone or reclined on a sofa with her legs ... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity even though it was just his finger?
Q. if i am a virgin and someone sticks there two fingers into my vagina like a shove almost and i bleed afterwards is that losing my virginity? because i have been very close to losing my virginity before. like one time i thought i lost it because ...
A. 19 November 2008: You are a virgin until you have sexual intercourse, which is vaginal penetration by a male penis. It is as simple as that. ... (read in full...)
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