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Why can't women have young lovers?
Q. I am an attractive 40 year old woman currently in a relationship with a 24 year old strapping young jock. We initially hit it off as friends while playing on a co-ed softball team together. Then went out with a group and ours eyes met and have been ...
A. 26 September 2009: This posting seems questionable as being entirely legit, but these days, any relationship that works for you, and your partner, is all that matters. ... (read in full...)
Guys: Is monogomy a myth?
Q. guys have you ever been completly faithful to a woman throughout your relationship-I'm starting to wonder whether faithful men are a myth,all my boyfreinds have cheated...
A. 25 September 2009: Yes, it can happen. I was totally monogamous for over 20 years during my third marriage, and had only one little diversion during a previous marriage in the 1960s. A good man can be faithful if he knows his wife is a good woman. ... (read in full...)
Men: Is sex 3-4 X a week too much?
Q. one for the guys here?? I am I would like to think quite a attractive women, I am a mum but still look after myself.. The trouble is my sex drive is sooo much higher than my partners, it's got too the point that if ever I mention sex he gets rea...
A. 25 September 2009: I'll agree that there is nothing wrong with you, and also that his proclivity for sexual activity is what may be right for him. Perhaps it is simply a mismatch in that particular category. If all else is great with the relationship, then it may be ... (read in full...)
How to get more pleasure
Q. Omg sooo me and my bf are very sexual i love given him b.js and stuff but when it comes to him doing itt to me like eating me out or just having sex ....i kinda dont even feel any of it at all i need help..i get wettt and horny and all of the above ...
A. 24 September 2009: Something isn't right here.... (read in full...)
Will a puppy heal my loneliness?
Q. Hey.. umm I have a question. Im 18 years old, i just started college and im about to go away to school next semester. i met this boy in school, and we got together. i fell in love with him and as my first love, i lost my virginity to him. when i was ...
A. 23 September 2009: A puppy may help, but I'll agree with "Old Guy" that you will need to devote yourself to the welfare of the puppy. Better advice is to also seek a man of quality. ... (read in full...)
Am I just over sexed or is sex just over rated?
Q. im 21, multiracial, mostly black female and my fiance is 31yrs white male we been together going on 3 and a half years and im frusrated because i just want him to have sex with me am i just a hornball because im young or is he just not into my sex i...
A. 23 September 2009: At your age, especially, and throughout your life, it is perfectly okay for you to have a healthy sexual appetite. It is up to your man to satisfy it.... (read in full...)
Who out there has orgasms in their sleep?
Q. I am going to just throw this question out there, who out here has orgasm's in their sleep? I do quite often, and its very pleasurable. I was just curious if anyone else out there has them....
A. 21 September 2009: Almost all of us, male or female, experience some degree of nocturnal sexual stimulation or pleasure most every night as we sleep. ... (read in full...)
Can good looking women make men insecure?
Q. Everyone tells me that i am a very beautiful women and i have a good personality. I was in an abusive relationship for many years, but finally got out. My ex even used to worry about other men looking at me whilst we were out shopping! I am not a ...
A. 21 September 2009: When and if you find a man you care about and love, and providing that he at least pleases you sexually and keeps you generally happy, then it is possible for a man to feel secure. This is a complicated topic. ... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on sex before marriage?
Q. Hey all. I don't believe in sex before marriage, or so I think. I'm 17 and never really been in a relationship with anyone so it isn't something that's really bothering me. I've been brought up as a Christian and I agree with no sex before marriage...
A. 21 September 2009: It's entirely personal and up to you. In my life, it has been personally okay with me since the 1960s, but of course, I did not marry most girlfriends.... (read in full...)
Oral... should I or shouldn't I?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to perform oral sex on him but I always refuse. I can tell he really wants me to and we have already had sex. Should I do it or not?...
A. 21 September 2009: If I were a woman, the decision would be at least partly based on whether the boyfriend provides oral stimulation for me. Better yet, does he provide oral satisfaction? Well, as a man, I have done so for most every woman who ever pleased me orally. ... (read in full...)
Is there a cure for impotency?
Q. Hello, I'm a 20 years old female, and I'm not happy with my sexual life. I have been married for a month now and i feel like my husband is impotent, because we haven't had a normal sex yet. He ejaculates after one min, and can not hold his erection ...
A. 20 September 2009: Your mate is the opposite of impotent, which means the inability to either desire, perform or participate in human sexuality. Me suspects that he is just so turned-on by you, and being sexual with you, that he ejaculates prematurely. This is much ... (read in full...)
Guys only: Wonering about the G spot
Q. "GUYS ONLY!!" I would like to read stories of your guys stimulation of the G-spot and how you pleasure it. Where is it located? How do you reach it? Tell me yah stories!!...
A. 18 September 2009: Just enter the following in the search field atop each page on this Web site:
Double M on G-spot... (read in full...)
How soon into a relationship should I reveal I'm a virgin?
Q. Hi cupid people, I know another 40 year old virginity rant but ah well - tis unique cos its all about me this time :) Basically I am a 24 (and 3 quarters) year old virgin although I'm not terrible looking and I have had ex's who have offered to ...
A. 16 September 2009: In my opinion, you are doing just fine, and all you need to do is hook-up with a man who truly cares about you and shows it in many ways. Basic romance novel kind of stuff, but not quite so intense or perfect as usually portrayed.
R... (read in full...)
Penetration is painful, is it because I'm a beginner?
Q. So I've always been really tight down there. Like before it hurt to put one finger in. So I bought a very skinny cheap vibrator to help stretch Me out a bit. It worked. And soon enough I could put two fingers in with very little pain. So I decided I ...
A. 16 September 2009: Yes, and this problem will disappear. Are you a very small woman? If so, this issue will still not persevere because most every woman's vagina is extremely accommodating. ... (read in full...)
Is it true that anal sex is illegal?
Q. Is it aganst the law 4 a man 2 screw a woman in the butt? ...
A. 15 September 2009: Check your statutes in Georgia, because some southern states still have such restrictions. A more serious consideration may be the long-term consequences to the woman's rectal health. ... (read in full...)
Am I really doing anything wrong by having a relationship with my employee?
Q. My parents and I own our own company as partners. We run a little restaraunt. A long time ago I dated one of our employees and my parents flipped out and suspended me and my ex wound up quitting over the whole thing. Recently, I have become sort of ...
A. 15 September 2009: It is probably a better idea to keep employees, and customers as well, out of your romantic involvements. ... (read in full...)
Since we had sex for the first time last week I keep getting sexual urges!
Q. My girlfriend and i have sex for the first time last week, the night before I went on holiday. Ever since ive been on holiday I get sexual urges and every girl I see looks like my girlfriend, why is this? Also Ive never been able to give my girlfrie...
A. 13 September 2009: Just type the words "cunnilingus" and "orgasm" in the search field to find writings about providing female orgasms. Then try other searches. The library is quite extensive.... (read in full...)
I don't like sex, it's despicable, what do you think?
Q. I don't like sex, I never have and I don't think I ever will. I'm not asexual, I'm anti-sexual. For me, sex has a negative impact on a relationship not a positive. I think as a man, if you have a sexual relationships with a women they ...
A. 13 September 2009: There exists some women with whom a platonic relationship is preferable. All you need to do is find one and befriend them.... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much - a blowjob whilst driving?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have benn married for 20 years, 2 great kids. I love my wife very much, but I want more when it comes to sex and foreplay. When it comes to iniating sex, it is always me who iniates, and I feel like when we do have sometype of sex,...
A. 13 September 2009: I'll have to agree with some of the other responders that a blow job while driving might be dangerous, both to the partners involved and others on the road. A very pretty young woman and coworker once offered such a service to me along a major Texas ... (read in full...)
Am I asking for sex too much?
Q. I am a newlywed (20 years old) to a wonderful husband (25 years old). We got married in May, and we have always had a great sex life. Before we were married, he wanted sex every time we were together and I was sometimes hesitant, but would still ...
A. 12 September 2009: There is nothing wrong with you. You said that your young husband is "wonderful" and "meets ALL your needs," but now you are claiming something less. You are a young woman with normal carnal desires and obviously in love. That's great, but sometimes ... (read in full...)
He has gone off sex, but masturbates all the time. Help guys!
Q. So I need advice from all the guys out there please... My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half - and have lived together for nearly half of that time - he's 27 and I'm 25. Our sex life is pretty inconsistent I would say - ...
A. 11 September 2009: He is quite possibly becoming more and more addicted to masturbating to outside stimuli, such as video or Internet pornography - or even imagination. It is common to some degree. But when it begins to negate or reduce partner sexual activities, such ... (read in full...)
What does she mean by slow?
Q. My girlfriend told me she wanted to take things slow and I wanted a few opinions from other women on what that means. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two months and we haven't done anything sexually intimate other than kissing and making ...
A. 9 September 2009: Well, that can mean simply not being pushy about sex in general, or perhaps, not being too aggressive about sex once that it is taking place. In other words, most women are quite willing, but do not appreciate a rough encounter.
The other scen... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy not to masterbate?
Q. Is it unhealthy not to masterbate? Well, i've been somewhat involved with this girl lately, and I just haven't felt the need to masterbate, i've gotten horny and stuff but doing something about it hasn't crossed my mind. I'm suddenly worried because ...
A. 9 September 2009: Normal, regarding the pre-cum aspect? Certainly. A full ejaculation will be quite different and pleasurable, you may be assured. But to reply to your question, it is absolutely acceptable NOT to masturbate. The vast majority of us do, however, and ... (read in full...)
Exercises for tongue strength during oral?
Q. Does anyone know what i can do to help strengthen my tongue so i can give oral to my girlfriend for longer? right now i have to take breaks every few minutes and just keep going without the aid of my tongue, which i presume wouldnt help get her an ...
A. 7 September 2009: It is true that you have to relax the tongue on occasion when giving oral for more than about 10 minutes or so, but "satindesire" again has it right. Mix it up by providing various forms of finger massage, along with my favorite technique (as the ... (read in full...)
Is this kind of blowjob practiced?
Q. bj a novel method my girl friend does felatio in a fantastic way.she keeps half of it and gives rhythmatic sqeezing with her lips unlike toand fro usually performed.this literally rips me off to come within few minutes.is this kind of bj descr...
A. 7 September 2009: Some girls devise some unique ways to provide oral stimulation. Perhaps you should share the description yourself, with a bit more clarity.... (read in full...)
Can you harm yourself by masturbating too much?
Q. Hi. I enjoy masturbating and find myself doing it perhaps 2 or 3 times a day. I am 16 years old and i'm extreamly horny all the time. I am worried if i masturbate too much then something might happen to me. Will anything happen and have i got ...
A. 7 September 2009: You might occasionally rub yourself enough to cause swelling, redness, soreness or other irritation, but generally, masturbation is entirely normal and harmless. When you reach adequate age for sexual relations, however, it is good to direct more of ... (read in full...)
Why do we have to watch porn every single night?
Q. Unique porn problem ~ married very sexually active and outgoing have or will try anything at least once. My husband has always liked porn when we were younger it bothered me but, I have 5brothers and I know what boys do :) - but, now the porn is ...
A. 6 September 2009: It is probable that he will always, or eventually, revert to pornography for much of his sexual pleasure.... (read in full...)
Why do we have to watch porn every single night?
Q. Unique porn problem ~ married very sexually active and outgoing have or will try anything at least once. My husband has always liked porn when we were younger it bothered me but, I have 5brothers and I know what boys do :) - but, now the porn is ...
A. 4 September 2009: Hope you will consider my opinion:
Point 1: Video pornography can, and often does, become so addictive that most any man may unfortunately begin to shift his solutions for sexual release from reality to imagination - facilitated by hand via visu... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 still get hard ons?
Q. I want to know if man over 40 will still have hard on. My husband lost it, and went limp. What is going on?It is hard to know, how common is that,when it happens to you.. You can't see others bedroom life. He also don't care about sex, and he used ...
A. 3 September 2009: In a nutshell, of course older men perform quite well, except in certain circumstances as previously suggested. ... (read in full...)
I'm straight but hooked on gay porn! How can I stop watching it?
Q. Im 15 and I have a porn problem. Im straight I believe I am, but I looked at gay porn once just to see how it goes and I got hooked to it. I belive thats why I have gay fantasies and stuff because I like girls but when I first hit puberty and star...
A. 28 August 2009: You are still very young and curious. More experience with women may help validate your proclivity one way or the other. My only suggestion is that one homosexual episode may lead you in that direction, just as activities with the opposite sex may ... (read in full...)
I want him to know I'm inviting him over sex. How should I say it?
Q. If you ask a man you have started dating over to your house for dinner , will he think that's a euphamism for come on over and we'll have sex? I'm kind of hoping it will because I've been on two dates with a guy but they were just coffee/ movie an...
A. 25 August 2009: Hmmmm. Well as an older male who has been around a bit, I'll have to partly disagree with previous posters. Sure, invite your prospective lover over, but give him the opportunity to make the move. He should be man enough to realize that your ... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy the sex with my date and I can't figure out why?
Q. I broke up with my one month ago , and I feel better because we broke up Because he wasn’t nice to me , he didn’t appreciated me and he wasn’t the ideal partner Unluckily, I still see my ex, we work in the same place, and we have to talk I...
A. 23 August 2009: Some men are good lovers, and many are just average or less. Being fit and gorgeous does not have anything to do with being a talented lover, but it is also not pleasant to be with a good lover who treats you badly. Perhaps you should simply keep ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't last long enough
Q. help my boyfriend cums too soon. we have tried everything to slowing down to less foreplay he cums in less than 4 mins no joke. any ideas on how to help me? thanks...
A. 21 August 2009: In my opinion, "Nightingale" and "q1605" offered good advice, especially the part about the man first pleasing the woman. This pertains to the apparent worldwide predominance of unsatisfied wives and girlfriends.
Based on numerous studies over deca... (read in full...)
He watches porn but he won't have sex with me!
Q. i have been in a relationship for almost 2 years and getting more and more frustrated with our sexual relationship. we have not had sexual intercourse for the past year. he blames it on his high blood pressure pills. i know he watches porn at ...
A. 19 August 2009: Unfortunately, this is unlikely to get better because he may have become addicted to pornography. It is possible that only a major shake up in the relationship can lead to resolution. It can be true that blood pressure medication causes erectile ... (read in full...)
I'm in great shape... so why doesn't he french kiss me or give me oral?
Q. my husband won't french kiss me at all or perform oral sex on me. He just wants to have sex. I am in good shape and have great grooming. Is there something wrong. I am sure he does not run out on me. We have been married for 33 years and he has...
A. 18 August 2009: It's a two-way street, quite naturally. If you give and he does not, then stop giving. The truth is that providing oral pleasure is a bit laborious for either giver, but lovers do it to provide joy, relaxation and happiness to our partner. Some of ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself tighter
Q. I feel like my vagina is looser than most womens even though I do kegel exercises everyday and exercise plenty. How can I tell if I am loose? I think I am because I can not feel when my boyfriend cums inside of my vagina, but I can feel him cum ...
A. 17 August 2009: It is very unlikely that your vagina is all that expanded at your age. Unless you are extremely large, obese or exceptionally active sexually, you should be perfectly normal. Feeling your partner's ejaculate releasing inside, other than a sense of ... (read in full...)
Is having an interest in female feet normal?
Q. Hello, I've recently noticed myself having an interest for female feet, my friends say that I'm sick or it's gross or all that, I keep my opinions and everything, but it hit me "Is it normal?" That's my question, and many thanks in advance....
A. 17 August 2009: Interesting question. In my opinion, an interest in looking at a woman's feet is quite normal. In my life, there was no apparent proclivity for admiring pretty feet until my older years (now about 60). But I think that the current trend for women of ... (read in full...)
Why would she want to have sex with me with a penis that size?
Q. Ok. I'm really embarrassed. Have been all my life. It's just i have a really small penis. Its 10cm erect, and I HATE myself because of it. I recently got my first girlfriend, and i have done 'stuff' for her, but she hasn't for me, because i keep ...
A. 14 August 2009: The truth is that some women will rate - and size will matter. But it's more about how you use it and what else you have to offer. As others say, learn other stimulation techniques, notably cunnilingus, and most ladies will be totally satisfied - no ... (read in full...)
I just want to have sex to get it over with.
Q. I am jealous of sex because, I have not had sex yet. I am 17 years old and I never had a girlfriend before, or even kissed a girl. I am forced to lie to everyone that I have had sex so I will not be embarrassed of my virginity. I don't want to wait ...
A. 13 August 2009: Dude, I'm a much older man who began having sex with young women at about your age - actually earlier once - and in my opinion, you should not be getting quite so hyper about this. You do not need to even consider a hooker these days, because there ... (read in full...)
I want sex but I'm afraid to put myself really out there.
Q. I'm a shy girl. I wouldn't say i'm a prude because i'm open minded to everything, but i just don't put myself out there. And if i do it's trace amounts. Well just recently i have had this intense craving for a sexual encounter. I've been having ...
A. 12 August 2009: Of course this is normal. Hopefully, young people still learn about physiology, biology and stuff like that in school, and in the process of maturing. It's totally normal, but as others suggested, be careful and play safe. ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine a life without oral ...
Q. i'm having a big problem with my fiance... he loves getting orals, even insists on it... but won't give me any. the main problem is that fondling and all the rest, including penetration give me orgasm, but not really powerful. my ex always gave me ...
A. 12 August 2009: I'm in total agreement with "pickles" who nailed it. Happiness throughout life is typically an equally shared partner relationship and enjoyment. It falters if one partner fails to nurture the other's needs.... (read in full...)
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