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writes:I am jealous of sex because, I have not had sex yet. I am 17 years old and I never had a girlfriend before, or even kissed a girl. I am forced to lie to everyone that I have had sex so I will not be embarrassed of my virginity. I don't want to wait till marriage. What can I do to just have sex to get it over with? Should I hire a hooker, or have a one night stand?
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reader, RobL  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Mate, relax. I'm almost 21 years old, still a virgin, I'm currently in my only proper relationship in my life, and that's online, I haven't met her in real life yet, and the only kisses I've ever had are from games of truth or dare.Yeah it's a bit embarassing I guess but so what? You're 17 years old, it's not even legal to have sex in some states in the US until you're 18. When you find someone you care about, and who cares about you, they will understand that you're a virgin, have never been in a relationship, and have never even kissed a girl. Hell, I'm worried about kissing my girlfriend for the first time when we meet, but that's another story ;)In short, there is someone out there for all of us, you just have to wait, and keep looking, and when you find them, they'll understand anything you tell them if they truly care for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm always depressed that I have not had my first kiss and it sucks, I don't know where I can find any girl that is 17 that will like me, since the majority already have boyfriends.
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reader, davidcruse +, writes (15 August 2009):
just wait for right girl to come in your life,but if you cant then don't waste time and just go out and have sex with any female....not with a gay ok..........enjoy your life.......do what you think is right......
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (13 August 2009):
 duuuuuude!!! why are you so bothered?
i'm 20 years old female still a virgin and not been kissed and to be honest i am really not bothered! you're feeling pressured by your friends or anyone!
when it's right you'll know it's right and i bet the majority of your mates regret there first times i know some of mine do and there first kisses i've spoken to alot of guys who regret there first kiss and wish they waited for someone special!
you've got that chance you can make ALL your mates jealous by finding someone you know you'll be really happy with and have a nice long life with and not regret anything you've done with that person!
you need to chill out and relax more!
sex is more than just sex! it's meant to be a strong connection and bond with two people whom are so in love with eachother and get to know eachothers bodies and likes and dislikes but all you kids nowa days just see sex as something to do when it's not there are STRONG consequeneces! STD's pregnancies that are unwanted you should just wait until it's right don't just do it because you're mates have!
what if all your mates decided to slit there wrists?
would you do it too to be "in" with them?
i don't think so!
you really need to think about this your friends shouldn't think anything different of you they should be proud of you! if anything.. and would probably be jealous the fact you're being sensible and respecting women and yourself and they aren't there just opening themselves up for diseases and impregnating girls.
that's not what you should do you should just wait for it to happen.
when it does you'll be glad you waited :)
hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Dude, I'm a much older man who began having sex with young women at about your age - actually earlier once - and in my opinion, you should not be getting quite so hyper about this. You do not need to even consider a hooker these days, because there are plenty gals out there just as horny as yourself. Get out there and hang around, wherever your classmates or peers happen to congregate, and be consistent about it. Become a regular somewhere cool.
Here's a very important set of clues that have worked throughout history: 1. Stand straight. 2. Exude confidence as a man. 3. Lock eye contact with any woman that interests you and say something to her - no excuses. Always say SOMETHING - even if clumsy. 4. Smile a lot when you do that. 5. After a few moments of good conversation, tell her that you want her phone number or email address because you think she is really cool, interesting, really rad or whatever seems appropriate. But then say you've gotta go join some friends (now) and promise that you'll get in touch with her real soon. And do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Personally I wouldnt be embarrassed and just so you know there are plenty more guys out there who are the same as you, saying they have had sex when they havnt(ALOT OF GUYS LIE ABOUT IT), so I wouldnt rush it especially cause your only 17.Also dont worry cause most ppl dont have serious relationships till there older, think about it you'll start going out and meeting girls soon in bars etc. Trust me you wont be a virgin for ever soon youll be at uni or working and you will meet a girl that you'll like and then it will happen. But If you are going to do it Use contraceptives its better to be safe than sorry and you dont wani get a STD or get a girl pregnant cause it can happen the first time you have had sex. Also I dont mean to be mean about it but dont get a hooker, its kinda sad when a man pays for sex and then any future girl may not take it too kindly and also there is probably and increase risk of catching an STD there and also its alot more dangerous.(I personally would rather be with a virgin that someone whoes paid for sex) If your gna have a one-nite stand also make sure the girl is up for it and you get consent. Dont take advantage of a drunken girl either cause that also will also bad on your character and maybe get you in trouble. Respect the girl maybe it dosnt have to be a one nite stand maybe it can be a relationship if you show a girl respect it will happen in time when there ready and it will be a nicer experience. At the end of the day its up too you, im not saying wait for marriage or anything but give it a year or two and it will happen on its own. Trust me when your older it will happen, probably alot more.By the way I am virgin (This is by choice as I have had plenty of oppotunity to be with many men but i chose not too) and at the end of the day like most girls we would judge if a guys a virgin, at the end off the day if you choose to be a virgin you look more mature to a girl and thats far more attractive as you have respect for girls. Hopefully this gave you alot to think about, and also it dosnt have to be in a years time why dont you get out there and get the girls attention there is probably girls out there that fancie you and wani be with you but a girl wont make the first move. So go to partys etc and just flirt and you'll get your first kiss and probably a whole lot more Good luck X
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reader, Securityoutlaw +, writes (13 August 2009):
I was 22 when I lost my virginity. I went threw the same thing lying to people and telling them that I was not a virgin. I desperately wanted a bf and felt like there was something completely wrong with me. I went out to a bar and started to mess around with one of my friends' drunken male friends that had just gotten out of a relationship. All of the hype that I had and everyone telling me how great sex would be for the first time if I waited and then all the sudden it was over. I had sex and had it as a one night stand. It wasn't even fun. So, moral of my story is that you should do it when it comes to you and not worry about what your friends think and should not be embarassed of not having sex yet. However, you are a male and I know thats not what you wanted to hear...but I ask that you think about these few things first, if you were to have it with a hooker or a stripper, yes they will be very well knowledgeable in the subject but how do you know that they really are clean from AIDS and etc besides just by their words. Also, if your friends or even one day your future children ask you when they are ready what your first time was like, do you want to say I had it with a hooker? Are you going to lie to them and tell them it was with some named person that just pops in your head? Either way to me it seems like you are to busy worrying about what other people are going to think of you as a virgin when the ONLY person that does matter is what YOU think. Really do you want to have sex just to prove your a "man" or do you want to one day show that one special female that she was the one that you waited for. A female that truly cares for you will want to hear that more then being interested that you lost your virginity to a stripper....hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I guess I can understand that. I'm still a virgin but when I was that age, I wanted to get it over with too. I wanted to see what the big deal was. I wanted to know what everyone already knew about sex.
A secret I could sense but never know. And honestly, because it didnt happen, I was happier. I figure when the time is right it'll happen. Whether it's as random as lust at first sight at a party or after dating someone. Thinking about when I'd lose it only made things worse.
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