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I can't imagine a life without oral ...
Q. i'm having a big problem with my fiance... he loves getting orals, even insists on it... but won't give me any. the main problem is that fondling and all the rest, including penetration give me orgasm, but not really powerful. my ex always gave me ...
A. 12 August 2009: I'm in total agreement with "pickles" who nailed it. Happiness throughout life is typically an equally shared partner relationship and enjoyment. It falters if one partner fails to nurture the other's needs.... (read in full...)
Do girls cum?
Q. Do girls cum? if so what is it? and how does it happen? i know guys cum but was just wondering if girls did to....
A. 8 August 2009: Certainly, most women in the Western world have orgasms if their partner is caring, loving and knowledgeable about such things. As usual, "satindesire" offers a great response. And I also think that you possibly mean "cum" to be an excretion of ... (read in full...)
Years of unprotected sex and never got pregnant?
Q. For a few years now I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend. The odd thing is I never got pregent once. That's always makes wonder is something wrong with me or is it him? I am thinking of getting myself checked out. You advice wou...
A. 8 August 2009: Of course fertility, of one or the other, could be the issue. In America, the testing for such in a man is not too expensive, but female fertility tests may be different. ... (read in full...)
I hate my clitoris being touched...is this normal?
Q. i absoloutly HATE getting my clit touched, i can't stand it. the only way i enjoy sex is when i'm fingered. is this normal?...
A. 6 August 2009: This is actually a good thing, and normal for many young women. After you mature a bit, you'll likely find that this sensitivity serves you well at your highest state of arousal. In those times, you will probably find that direct stimulation, either ... (read in full...)
How do you finish when your partner gives you a handjob?
Q. How do you finish when your partner gives you a handjob? Whenever I'm giving my current partner a handjob he will always grab his penis as he's about to cum I suppose out of some kind of courtesy so he doesn't get all over my hand or the sheets or ...
A. 4 August 2009: In my opinion, he probably does that because his personal experience with masturbation, thus far in life, is most effective. In other words, he undoubtedly enjoys your touch and attention, but men generally have refined the specific manipulations ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling bad about when he masturbates?
Q. So my boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship and the sex is extremely satisfying and frequent for both of us. I definitely have a higher libido than he does, but I can really easily coax a higher libido from him when I want it. We talk ...
A. 24 July 2009: The response by "Rogerramjet" is excellent, and you express plenty of logic as well. I'll add that, by your own admission to frequent masturbation, you would be a hypocrite to expect his behavior to be different than your own. In other words, with a ... (read in full...)
The guy I had an affair with has been cheating on his current girlfriend, so I sent an anonymous email. Do you think he might finally have learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I had an affair with a guy that works with me.We were friends for 2 years,then we started to have sex for 1 year then we stopped. Now we are friends again for 2 years. His last girlfriend left him because he cheated on her. Then he cheated ...
A. 23 July 2009: A user (of others) will always be a user. All of us do that to some degree, but some individuals are very callous about it. ... (read in full...)
Do some guys prefer drugs over girls, as in a relationship?
Q. I dated this guy for several months and he still wouldnt say we were in a relationship and kept asking for sex. I didnt do him any "favors" and one day, I got really fed up with all of it and left. The thing that I dont understand is that he has so ...
A. 21 July 2009: In my opinion, "hijacked_dignity" offered some excellent insight here, with emphasis on her statement, "You don't want to mess around with a guy who is into drugs anyway." I'll agree with some degree of reservation.
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Effects of masturbation?
Q. Does masturbation make your penis smaller or affect its growth??...
A. 20 July 2009: The simple answer to your two-part question is simply: no and no. About the worse thing that may more commonly occur is that you could rub yourself a bit raw during a long session, even swell up some.... (read in full...)
Is it really ED or does he just find me repulsive?
Q. my partner suffers from errectyle dysfuction and for the last 12 months he has not only totally gone of any sexual contact he has also stopped holding or cuddling me and kissing me if i try to get a cuddle or a kiss he pushes me away,he refuses to ...
A. 17 July 2009: Several things may cause erectile dysfunction, including age, health issues, blood pressure medication (beta blockers) or other meds, and psychological issues, but a sudden lack of affection may signal something more. The ED issue can often be aided ... (read in full...)
Changes in clitoral hood size - advice please!
Q. I used to have an extremely small clitoral hood and after having just one sex partner, it's enlarged to about 2X the size! Is this normal and how do I get it to shrink? I actually feel pretty self-conscious about it......
A. 9 July 2009: You are probably just maturing sexually and physically. Both genders should accept that changes will occur throughout a person's life cycle. Be prepared younger ones: Anything can happen ! Live your life fully but be cautious. A small physical ... (read in full...)
If a guy loses erection during sex, is it the woman's fault?
Q. Guys and ladies please I need your pespective! My ex bragged that it was my fault he lost his erections while we had sex. Lets keep in mind that all this time he teased me by saying that I am a saint to others and a horny bit*ch in bed. Guys, can a ...
A. 3 July 2009: This is mostly childish stuff you mention regarding he and his girlfriend. Lots of issues can cause a loss of erection during any given opportunity. I'll just say the following: An enthusiastic female partner has never considered a turn-off to most ... (read in full...)
Daughter feels its ok to masturbate in the open?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 41 years old single mother. My daughter is 15 years old and I was single ever since her father left me when she was 9 years old. She's a very bright student and scores very good marks at her exams, excels in sports a...
A. 1 July 2009: While 18-year-old "iLoveBillieJoeArmstrong" claims never even masturbating, which is apparently noble and fine with her, I think that your very open and understanding relationship with your daughter is monumentally commendable. You should not now or ... (read in full...)
He kept groping me while I tried to sleep! Why didn't I stop him?
Q. Hi Well I'm in two minds about this event and I hope someone can help me... I had a party the other night and was putting friends to bed in spare rooms at the end of the night when a guy friend of mine insisted he sleep on the floor in my room....
A. 30 June 2009: It was certainly inappropriate and a breach of the friendship, but as "satindesire" said, not rape. Your apparent limited lack of protest possibly led him to push, and he may again if given the opportunity. If you absolutely abhor any sexual ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girlfriend to go down on me?
Q. okay so I love eating out my girlfriend, I do it on almost a daily basis BUT she rarely ever goes down on me. i'd say i get oral once every 3-5 months. i've tried doing the whole "I go down on you, you go down on me" thing and it never works, ive ...
A. 30 June 2009: Withhold the oral goodies from her. No announcement or anything - just stop doing it and wait to see what happens. If or when she mentions the sudden lack of licking, just tell her that its supposed to be a two-way street - a give and take. ... (read in full...)
Hurting blow-job. tips please..
Q. My girlfriend gave me first blow-job recently. It was not so nice. I was getting kinda pain. I don't know whether it was her teeth causing that problem. Can anyone gimme some tips to get a nice blow-job ? ...
A. 30 June 2009: Teeth are typically the problem. It may result in some redness or swelling, usually about two or three inches down on the shaft from the tip - and it takes a few days to heal. Sometimes, the girl's teeth may actually cause a sore, usually on the ... (read in full...)
Do girls ejaculate?
Q. Do girls ejaculate? and how, does ejaculation fluid "squirt" ?...
A. 30 June 2009: It is rare that a girl squirts any amount that is very apparent, but I believe many women emit a small amount if they have an intense climax. Just my opinion based on experience providing oral orgasms. ... (read in full...)
Why does this sound happen? It's so embarrassing!
Q. Me and my boyfriend were having sex, and we've recently tried doggy style and the most EMBARRASSING thing happened.. I had a vaginal fart?!?! It was so embarrassing, I didn't know what to do! I just laughed and he laughed too but he continued. It ...
A. 29 June 2009: It occurs to most of us, especially with doggy-style, so laugh it off and don't be embarrassed at all about it. It's just a release of trapped air that often happens in that position. ... (read in full...)
DO men like to be woken up to a blow job?
Q. My friend said she gave her boyfriend a blow job in the morning just as he was about to wake up but she didn't tell me about his reaction and I was too scared to ask because he might think I was being too nosey. Is it annoying to be woken up to a ...
A. 29 June 2009: I'll vote for love it and always did.... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that I couldn't maintain an erection?
Q. Lost my virginity last nite. I could not sustain an erection while inside her. i felt as though the condom started to slip at times due to this. I may have been the virgin in the situation, but she wasn't much for foreplay (wouldn't let me go down, ...
A. 28 June 2009: No, not your fault that you were having a "hard" time staying hard. This sounds more circumstantial, plus the fact that "losing virginity" is a bit of an ordeal to begin with. It sounds like you just need another opportunity, and preferably with a ... (read in full...)
How can I make sex more enjoyable for her?
Q. Hi, lemme just cut to the chase. When me and my GF have sex, I usualy give her a clitiral orgasm before the penetration, so to speak. But I feel like i wanna do something more... special to her, so i searched the net about the G-spot, about wh...
A. 28 June 2009: You can find my descriptions about G-spot stimulation in this Web site's archives, including how to locate it and possibly induce a combined clitoral and G-spot orgasm. The degree of stimulation, whether rough or more gentile, depends upon the ... (read in full...)
He only has sex with me when he's drunk. What's going on?
Q. My fella and I have sex only when he’s drunk and I’m beginning to wonder if he’s gay. He’s a lovely guy, but makes no attempt to touch me when he’s sober. We don’t kiss, cuddle or hold hands. Some nights we sit and watch TV at either ends...
A. 28 June 2009: Possibly he has more of an alcohol problem than a sex problem, which may also explain the brief duration of some previous affairs. My opinion, based on your description, is also influenced by personal experience. ... (read in full...)
Sex music?
Q. Me and my girl have got this list going of really good songs to have sex to...i was wondering if anybody can suggest anything else in the lines of rock, metal, or goth. Here's what we got (not all, but some): "Poison" by Alice Cooper "Cou...
A. 28 June 2009: Well, it's not quite within the genres you mentioned, but any compilation of "songs for sex" absolutely must mention or include "Bolero" by Maurice Ravel.... (read in full...)
Penis size: Small, big, or average?
Q. im 13 and im worried if my penis is average for my age or under average it 3-4 inches flop and on eceration its 5-6 inches is this average or below average or over average...
A. 28 June 2009: You're perfectly okay. Don't worry at all.... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex on your menstrual cycle?
Q. is it safe to have sex on 5th day of menstrual cycle...
A. 28 June 2009: Safe? Well it is certainly the very optimal time during a woman's cycle when conception is least likely, regardless what some of the fear-mongers say online.
While it is true that pregnancy CAN occur at anytime as a result of unprotected sex, the... (read in full...)
How do I get her to warm up to me but at the same time keep it casual?
Q. Hi i'm asking this question because i'm in a situation that i've never been in before and i'm not too sure on what to do or steps to take. I met this girl, who I took to my formal and she took me to hers, we were just friends, and had a mutual ...
A. 28 June 2009: Well, I've heard about folks with love relationships that begin (usually) in school and go for a year or many more before ever becoming the least bit sexual, but I've not experienced anything like that in my life. One marriage lasted 20 years, and ... (read in full...)
My porn use and cyber sex obsession ruined my marriage! How do I get my wife back?
Q. I have been married 19 years. For 8 yrs I watched porn and engaged in cyber sex, and even Emailed women. This became an obsession. My wife found out about it and I tried to lie my way out of it. I did stop eventually, but she left me anyway. How can ...
A. 27 June 2009: We make mistakes in life, some of which are irreversible. This may prove to have been a major one for you and I've had similar difficulties. All we can do is move on when things don't work out, but from now on, try to always be truthful. Just tell ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to warm up to me but at the same time keep it casual?
Q. Hi i'm asking this question because i'm in a situation that i've never been in before and i'm not too sure on what to do or steps to take. I met this girl, who I took to my formal and she took me to hers, we were just friends, and had a mutual ...
A. 27 June 2009: Sounds like some game-playing going on to me. In my day, I'd simple take the gal out one more time and "put the move on." If no go, then I'd be movin' on. Well, that was back in the (my) day, but I'll bet it works today. DoubleM... (read in full...)
I always feel as if I need to pee when I have sex... why is this?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex 1 month into our relationship and we were both virgins. It really hurt the first time but we didn't use any foreplay and I was pretty nervous so I think these are the main reasons. We have now been going out for over 8 ...
A. 26 June 2009: Many young women experience what they sense as a need to urinate when becoming sexually aroused. Young men also feel a similar sensation when approaching ejaculation, but in reality, it is almost impossible for either gender to urinate during a high ... (read in full...)
I seem to be constantly aroused sexualy, is this normal?
Q. I was wondering if its normal for me to be seemingly constantly aroused sexually, im almost 19 and have never had sex of any kind. I have to literally masturbate at least once a day otherwise it just causes me to get stressed out. I can stop and ...
A. 24 June 2009: Agreed, at your age, perfectly normal. In fact, you will likely masturbate throughout life, albeit with a bit less frequency as you age. Most everyone else does it too, even occasionally when married, so no worries.... (read in full...)
Has he been using me for sex all this time?
Q. I've known this guy since middle school. I'm sixteen and so is he. We've had sex eight times without protection, which I now realize was very stupid. I've been stupid and so has he. A couple of days ago I had a pregnancy scare. Luckily, I ended up ...
A. 24 June 2009: Based on your description of his attitude, and in my opinion, you are primarily being used for sex. Hopefully, he also has amorous feelings for you and spends all his available time with you. If not, then you may be wise to reevaluate the ... (read in full...)
All we do is have sex! Is he serious about me?
Q. Does my man really want to really get serious... all we do is have sex....... what should i do?...
A. 23 June 2009: Not much information here. Whenever two are attracted, a lot of sex can be the result, and trust me, it can happen at any age level. That could or should be a good thing, but we all hope that the relationship includes more than that. If there is a ... (read in full...)
Too wet to enjoy sex
Q. I have too much vaginal discharge and it's got to the point that I don't want to have sex with my boyfriend. It doesn't come out onto my pants (most of the time) but it is there inside me all the time and as soon as we start anything it's ...
A. 23 June 2009: Even douching with water rinses away beneficial bacteria that help keep the vaginal environment in balance. You might add yogurt to your diet on a daily basis to help restore this important balance, and begin using a pH-neutral soap for cleansing ... (read in full...)
Is something wrong with me when he touches me?
Q. hello, this is quite a personal question but i really need 2 know. me an my boyfriends have been together for 6 months now an we're really happy. we're 18 and we r both still virgins and are planning to lose our virginities to each other soon. ...
A. 22 June 2009: If there is actual pain associated with gentle insertion, then I think you need to be medically examined. Something is wrong, but probably something minor or easily corrected. Best wishes. ... (read in full...)
Too wet to enjoy sex
Q. I have too much vaginal discharge and it's got to the point that I don't want to have sex with my boyfriend. It doesn't come out onto my pants (most of the time) but it is there inside me all the time and as soon as we start anything it's ...
A. 21 June 2009: If, indeed, you are douching to rid yourself of natural lubricant, then it may be part of the situation or at least a factor. However, what you may consider to be excessive wetting is not necessarily all that unusual when a woman is in a desirous ... (read in full...)
Is something wrong with me when he touches me?
Q. hello, this is quite a personal question but i really need 2 know. me an my boyfriends have been together for 6 months now an we're really happy. we're 18 and we r both still virgins and are planning to lose our virginities to each other soon. ...
A. 21 June 2009: It is rather doubtful that there is anything "wrong" with you. Perhaps you are merely afraid of the pleasurable sensations that result from sexual stimulation. Your inquiry could have included much more information than "kinda weird nice feeling" ... (read in full...)
His penis stinks!
Q. I just can't take my husband's penis in my mouth as it stinks. He washes it before we begin but it still does. What should he/I do about this?...
A. 19 June 2009: My first question must be: Has his member always smelled bad?
Because if not, then something must have changed, such as the possibility of an STD (sexually transmitted disease) as suggested by others. Otherwise, I think it must be either gene... (read in full...)
Will this heal on its own, or should he see a doctor?
Q. i was giving my boyfriend a blow job, and must have got a bit carried away, and now he has a sort of.. scab on his mister, like you would get on anywhere on your body after a scratch. he complains its sore but didnt hurt at the time, in fact he ...
A. 19 June 2009: This can sometimes happen when teeth get in the way during all the excitement. With more experience, a girl can learn how to keep those teeth off the shaft even during his ejaculation, which is when it usually happens with a new or inexperienced ... (read in full...)
I used to last just 5 minutes now I last for hours?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been sneaking into my house my while my mom isnt home for some seriously hot sex. When I first met her, I wouldnt last for more then 5 minutes, but find myself lasting almost 1-2 HOURS! This isnt right, she's had multip...
A. 19 June 2009: In a way, this can be a nice problem to have, but at your age I think it is a bit unusual. As a man, the ultimate goal is to provide your woman at least one big orgasm (preferably more) before you get your jollies. I've long fulfilled that purpose ... (read in full...)
How do I help her orgasm?
Q. Hello! this is my first post here, and I'd really appreciate some help. I've had a hard time getting my girlfriend, whom i love very much, to orgasm. we haven't had intercourse (she's very religious and we aren't anywhere near likely to marry ...
A. 17 June 2009: Okay, try the following: Begin with all the romance you can muster, and plenty of whatever foreplay is permissible (massage, kissing, fondling, etc.) - then when the vulva becomes involved, move very slowly.
With heavily moistened fingertips (I p... (read in full...)
Lesbian, but turned on by straight porn...is this normal??
Q. Ok, hi people! I've been having some trouble trying to understand something, so thort you guys could help!?! i'll try keep this short, and i hope im not to explicit, or too confusing. Basically i know im gay, and have known like f...
A. 14 June 2009: You indeed may be homosexual, but based on several things said, you indicate possible bisexuality. In my experience, some apparent lesbians can be equally pleasured by a man who really knows how to perform cunnilingus at length - followed by vaginal ... (read in full...)
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