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female
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anonymous
writes:My parents and I own our own company as partners. We run a little restaraunt. A long time ago I dated one of our employees and my parents flipped out and suspended me and my ex wound up quitting over the whole thing. Recently, I have become sort of involved with another man who happens to be an employee, but obviously I am very scared of the same outcome happening again. I just don't see what the problem really is. It's not like it's sexual harassment or anything like that. It's a completely consensual relationship. Yeah, it would be a crime if I were saying this person had to date me to keep his job or something, but I'm obviously not. Am I really doing anything wrong here? I'm only 21 and so is he. I just don't feel like it's that big of a deal, but I know my parents would freak if they found out. What do you guys think? And what should I do?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 September 2009):
 It is probably a better idea to keep employees, and customers as well, out of your romantic involvements.
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reader, melanie0083 +, writes (15 September 2009):
 ok...I dated one of my cooks, and we are still happy today. We have been together for almost 2 years and have a baby together. But here IS the problem. By us getting involve with our employees, we open up a HUGE risk of being sued! If I was in your parents shoes, I would do the same. Think about it, You have just jeopardized the whole company for thousands of dollars! What my boyfriend had to do was quit his job so that my position was not threatened anymore. Truth is, they have all the way up to one year (state of florida) to file a law suit from the time he quits. Be smart about this, and in the future, (I have learned my lesson) draw that line between you and your employees and keep it that way. It's sometimes hard when your young,(i became a supervisor at 22) but to be a "good" manager/supervisor, you need to act like one. So what I'm saying is, I'm not condoning what I have done, I'm saying it was wrong. We found a solution (him quitting) and now we are both very happy. But trust me, I would never risk it again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): you are an adult now, and the choice is yours. I can see where it could be a problem if not handled correctly, or if the relationship sours. However, if it what you both want...talk about the potential problems, be responsible, dont 'date' on the job, and go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): I know you probably dont want to hear it but just the fact that your a owner of the company and he is an employee it will only end bad. if things dont last or you have problems in the future its all bad and drama complicated and since your parents are partners i see their concern and why they get upst with you..u have to be mature enough to view your employees in a bizness way ONLY and have the self control to not get involved..show respect and they will respect you.Dont ever discuss your personal life with them and dont hire people you think you might be attacted to or want to date in the future..you need to end it and there will be drama and funny feeling just from this but take it from someone who has been there done that and has seen it happen many many times..dont be foolish
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