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writes:Ok. I'm really embarrassed. Have been all my life. It's just i have a really small penis. Its 10cm erect, and I HATE myself because of it. I recently got my first girlfriend, and i have done 'stuff' for her, but she hasn't for me, because i keep putting her off. I know she will care, it would kill me if we split up, we love each other. What i want to know is, is it a big deal? and dont hold back, I need to know the truth. Why would she won't to have sex with me with that size of penis! I know she'll want to cause she's experienced. Thanks for the help =]
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reader, haley92  +, writes (16 August 2009):
it aint the size of the ship its the motion of the ocean!!! it dont matter if you're small its how you used it!
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reader, Swt Txn +, writes (15 August 2009):
Please don't say you hate yourself because of what nature gave you. Don't be embarrased... Be honest. Talk this over with her & include other means of greater stimulation. There are many toys, positions & things that will make this comfortable for the both of you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I have to answer this one!! Sexually, every-one has different preferences. And every-one has different priorities of what they want in a relationship and in the bedroom. The stud because it is above average or because he is a father, is what I as a woman do not understand. These ideas were created by men, and not women. So, no, these are not confirmed statements by the women they are meant for. There is a lot to what people do in the bedroom and that area is just a little part. A guy showing a girl he is really into her and excited of her would be more important than penis size. No the size most definately does not matter. Things like physically putting her into positions matter, as she has to move herself and to let her do what she wants occasionally. And put down or concerning comments of her matters. And being gentle, not rough. There is a lot more to do than just focusing on that area too. It benefits you as guys who are too big bruise, so you get to do it more often
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reader, sydney montieiro  +, writes (14 August 2009):
the size doesnt really matter for sexual ecitment. d only thing that matters is how u can sexually stimulate her.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 August 2009):
 The truth is that some women will rate - and size will matter. But it's more about how you use it and what else you have to offer. As others say, learn other stimulation techniques, notably cunnilingus, and most ladies will be totally satisfied - no matter your hang.
Chances are that you will yet grow quite a bit. You are just a teen and nothing wrong with being about normal, is it? About half of the full-grown men on the planet reportedly average 5 inches, which you may yet achieve. Don't worry, just also read about clitoral, G-spot and cunnilingus advice in the Web site archives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I've been with guys smaller than you (you're hardly below average, 4 inches is fine!) and some that were really big, and I get the same pleasure, the only difference I notice is that I feel a bit inadequate for not being able to fit the bigger ones in my mouth. And I orgasm from vaginal stimulation, regardless of size. You honestly shouldn't worry about it. My current partner is on the biggish side and has slept with a lot of women. He says I'm the first who could climax without clitoral stimulation. So when you sleep with her, it's no reflection on your size if she doesn't come without you playing with her clit, it's normal.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (14 August 2009):
 If it will make you feel better, the average size is shy of 6 inches erect or thereabouts. Its not the size its what you do for the woman you love. If she loves you, the size of your penis won't matter. Think of the guy who has a baseball bat for a penis. Most women recoil in horror worried that it will tear them up inside.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (14 August 2009):
Honey you have to suck it up and just deal with what god has given you, yeah size might matter to some but it is how you work it and that she can get off on what you have. You can always go and buy a bigger dick for ya'll to fool around with so that she can reach her maximum pleaser I think you are selling her short and assuming just because your dick isn't falling out of your pants that she wont want you and that is wrong. You need to go to the Dr and see about getting something to help you along they have all type of stuff now and days for things like this. To say you hate yourself is a little extreme because there is more to life than having sex and you will find this out later in life. Don't forget you may grow some more on your own but check out your options before you put your relationship on the back burner. She is not going to wait forever to have sex so you need to deal with this now good luck honey and don't be so stressed there is always something that can be done. You learn how to work that thang to boy and I am positive you will be fine ......
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): Honestly, yes, size does matter. Not length, but girth. There is a LOT more to sex than a penis though. I never orgasm or even come close through sex with my well endowed boyfriend, he always has to use hands or mouth. If she loves you, you two can work around it.
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reader, searbear +, writes (14 August 2009):
 4inches isn't that bad, i don't know why you're worrying so much.
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (14 August 2009):
 its not always about size. If your under confident try and talk to her about it and maybe if she finds you "inadequate" (for the record i don't think she will) then maybe learn to use other parts of your body. For me its not about size but the person its attached to i went out with a guy for 5 years who had an 10" cock and if im honest it was too big. My most recent x is the love of my life and is probably only 6" and it never stopped me loving him or having a good time. Just be yourself and try and relax if she really likes you it wont be a problem at all. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): well as im sure alot of people will say " its not the size, its what you do with it that counts" . and really that is the truth. i have had ten boyfriends in my life of all shapes and sizes, some big some average.
my current boyfriend is not on the big side, but he is the one i have had the best sex life with so far.
i wouldnt worry too much about what size you are, because she wont.
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