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What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 3 December 2009: Well if you are enjoying all the sex and doing it safely, do as you wish. My list exceeds 100 women in my lifetime and I regret none of it, but the more enduring affairs were always the best.... (read in full...)
I am new to the dating scene Please help me interpret this mans actions!
Q. Please help me interpret this mans actions: I am new to the dating scene and am terrified of it. I met a cute guy today and we were talking for a few minutes. In that short time, he told me I was hot two times and tried to hug me. This was the first ...
A. 26 November 2009: Happy Thanksgiving to you, fellow American. I'm just going to sleep until the football games begin. Go Cowboys!... (read in full...)
I am new to the dating scene Please help me interpret this mans actions!
Q. Please help me interpret this mans actions: I am new to the dating scene and am terrified of it. I met a cute guy today and we were talking for a few minutes. In that short time, he told me I was hot two times and tried to hug me. This was the first ...
A. 26 November 2009: Well I think that you are now cautious enough. Sure, give it a chance on neutral territory, such as at a restaurant or less advisable, a bar. He still requires more than a couple of meetings before you take him to your home.... (read in full...)
Why aren't you girls sexually protecting yourselves?
Q. This isn't directed to any asker in particular, but I am becoming increasingly concerned, and unfortantely, though I try to withold judgment, I do experience anger, in both my personal life and with askers on the site, who are both aware of ...
A. 26 November 2009: Okay a few more comments from the old man. First of all, you can simply ditch the idea that all young girls are going to suddenly become wise and cautious in every way sexually - it just ain't going to happen.
And you can throw out any pres... (read in full...)
"Water sports!"
Q. My boyfriend and I engage in watersports ie urinating on each other. He has asked me if he could pee inside of me and I wanted to know if anything could potentially harm me if we did engage?...
A. 26 November 2009: Do you mean in your mouth or vagina? If he is very healthy and not exposed to toxic substances, then probably no harm. While this is a fetish beyond me, just consider that urine is one of the body's way of eliminating waste, which can also mean ... (read in full...)
Help! I have sex with too many people.
Q. Hiya guys and girls, well my problem is that I have this sort of sex problem :S I have good sex but with too many people. I dont mean to sound slutty and i know thats how im coming across but i dont know how to put this in words properly. b...
A. 26 November 2009: Questions:
Why do YOU think that you do this?
Do you always (or ever) have full orgasms?
Do you not like any guy enough to have a relationship?
Would you rather have a good (monogamous) relationship?
Where do you find the guys with whom you h... (read in full...)
I am new to the dating scene Please help me interpret this mans actions!
Q. Please help me interpret this mans actions: I am new to the dating scene and am terrified of it. I met a cute guy today and we were talking for a few minutes. In that short time, he told me I was hot two times and tried to hug me. This was the first ...
A. 26 November 2009: Yes, it sounds like a guy looking for action (sexual) and a probable one-night or one-weekend stand. Too bad, since you think he is cute, but not all guys are such cads.
"CaringGuy" offers some basic good advice, and as an older man also back into... (read in full...)
Is it possible am I just not cut out to have a relationship?
Q. I'm at my wit's end! I would really like to have a boyfriend, I have never been fortunate to connect with someone in that area. I don't walk around desperately trying to find a guy nor do I declare it a horrible night if I didn't meet a guy, I ...
A. 25 November 2009: The initial problem I see is that your posting has contradictions. You say that you were "with a guy for two years," and another for three months, but state that you have "never even been on a date." Please explain how you could possibly have a ... (read in full...)
Was this a one night stand or should I take the lead in the next episode of our sexual encounter?
Q. Ok, I slept with this guy and we pursued each other not even 3wks. The pursuit was extremely intense and the sex was even more intense. However, he had sex with me, I held back a lot, because for me it way too soon. but he reaaaaaly went ...
A. 25 November 2009: Not a lot of information provided, but it sounds as if you might want to give it more opportunity. Especially considering that you "came alot." Still, we must wonder why he didn't.... (read in full...)
Why aren't you girls sexually protecting yourselves?
Q. This isn't directed to any asker in particular, but I am becoming increasingly concerned, and unfortantely, though I try to withold judgment, I do experience anger, in both my personal life and with askers on the site, who are both aware of ...
A. 25 November 2009: Well I agree with you, from a man's point of view. Most of my experience is from years ago, but at least most girls were on "the pill" back then, or said that they were. And there was not nearly so much threat of sexually-transmitted disease in the ... (read in full...)
How do I get back my 9 inch penis?
Q. When i was a youmg man i was blessed with being well endowed with a 9 inch penis. I had no complaints and lots of complements on its size. A couple weeks ago i overheard my wife over the phone to her phone say that she missed my 9 and thinks it had ...
A. 24 November 2009: It is true that penis size can somewhat diminish with age, but most noticeably with weight gain. If you have put on even ten to 20 pounds of weight since your heyday, some of that weight collects around the lower abdomen, essentially creating a pad ... (read in full...)
How do I get sex from him?
Q. I initiated the sexual fun and for 4 months things were on then off then back on. now we are just friends no benefits. how do i get him to want me again? i have tried everything from: talking dirty to saying i want sex all the time, how horny i am, ...
A. 24 November 2009: You've heard of the television show, "He's Not That Into You," or something like that? Never watched it myself, but I suppose this fellow just does not want to be with you sexually, or perhaps he's not heterosexual. Advice from "Tisha-1" is ... (read in full...)
Could he have a subconcious fear of having sex?
Q. My boyfriend cant seem to get all the way hard before we have sex. He is a vrigin and I am not. And he tells me that it is not because he scared or anything, he just cant get all the way hard. I mean I have tried to do just about everything to help ...
A. 24 November 2009: Yes, I think that anything is possible regarding sexual angst.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has a 20 year history of being a serial cheater. Will marriage change him?
Q. Boyfriend has 20 year history of serial cheater. Will marriage change him? Will he change his cheating ways if we get married? Hi, I am 32 and with a man who is turning 40 soon. We have been together for a year and a couple of months. On ave...
A. 24 November 2009: Habitual cheaters do not change. What are you thinking?... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 24 November 2009: I'll add the following: One of my one night stands back about 1977 turned into a 20-year-marriage. Perhaps it depends on the nature of the man, and maybe my approach to dating was and remains somewhat different.
In other words, I very rarely cons... (read in full...)
Why are men generally more secure in themselves than most women?
Q. Why are men generally more secure in themselves than most women? I mean, I myself am a very insecure female, especially regarding appearance. I always have a bit of an internal freak out when I'm watching TV with my boyfriend and a naked, big bre...
A. 24 November 2009: Well, whether you are male or female, there is not much you can do about your appearance beyond good grooming, nice attire and exercising to stay fit. And obviously, many guys do not even waste much time with that.
On the other hand, women have all ... (read in full...)
What do you all think of 'one night' stands?
Q. I'm sort of on the fence about one night stands and would really like other peoples opinions on them, both men and women.. I've had about 5 in total now and they've all been mainly when i'm drunk. Each time we have been careful and used protect...
A. 24 November 2009: Well, many of us have had a share of one night stands, but it's not going to get you anywhere, such as into a good relationship. It is more likely to get you into a bad reputation, and I at least hope that you of legal age as well as properly using ... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest some exercises I can do to make me last longer next time I have sex?
Q. I really need help. I've suffered from premature ejaculation for ages. When I was with my girl we'd have sex about 3 times a week and that went on for 2 years until she broke up with me. I literally last about 10 seconds when having sex. As s...
A. 23 November 2009: A technique called Kegel Exercises may help over a period of time, and you may benefit by cutting back on the masturbation. Kegel exercises strengthens the muscles that control urination in both men and women. You practice flexing (squeezing) your ... (read in full...)
Do men feel the same way about dating as women do?
Q. I have enjoyed reading the posts on this site. I am wondering in the dating world, do men or women have an easier time finding a mate? I am curious what men and women think on this topic? Personally, I have always found it hard to meet a man, I f...
A. 23 November 2009: Perhaps it is an equal challenge overall, but I certainly think that women may have the upper hand most of the time. It always seems to be a case of the man coming forward to express his interest, which usually takes plenty courage, then all the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me and I'm still devastated
Q. Im so hurt! My ex gf broke up with me on Nov 4 after dating for almost 2 yrs. I always treated her like a princess and loved her like crazy. I found out on a txt msg she sent me by "accident". It devastated me bcuz even though we had been fighting, ...
A. 23 November 2009: You're extreme disappointment is understandable, but this is an excellent lesson in living and loving. Something similar may happen several times during your tenure on earth. Sometimes, you may be the dumpee, and at other times the dumper. You ... (read in full...)
To blow or not to blow?
Q. Ive done alot of cyber sex in my day (not too proud either) and lately a guy that i have been talking to for several months now is talking pretty seriously with me as in a relationship...we've never cybered but we do talk openly about sexual ...
A. 23 November 2009: That is too weird to even think about doing. Say nay.... (read in full...)
I smell bad and I don't want sex because of it!
Q. I'm 17 and have currently been in a 1 year relationship with my boyfriend. Only recently i have noticed and increase in the amount of discharge i am producing, its a white colour and is very think with an off putting smell which puts me off having ...
A. 23 November 2009: "Aunt Sal" may be correct, possibly what we call a yeast infection in the U.S.A. If such is the prob, consider taking some reliable probiotics and daily yogurt to help stamp it out, along with any additional physician's advice. I'd recommend ... (read in full...)
How do you know when your hymen is no longer there?
Q. Okay so my question is pretty simple, how do you know when your hymen is no longer there? I mean I've been fingered before and I've managed to get like a 5 inch dildo up there so that mean it's gone right? I know it's an odd question but I was just ...
A. 23 November 2009: Probably gone. Don't worry about it. It is simply not a big deal anymore in America, nor much anywhere else where you could ever want to reside.... (read in full...)
Not attracted to obese boyfriend.
Q. I have been with the same guy for three years, we are both in our 40s. When I met him he had just lost 140 lbs through diet and exercise and was running marathons. A big part of my attraction to him was admiration for having lost all that weight and ...
A. 23 November 2009: Can you consider moving him from "front burner" to simmer or warm? I'm a man, and therefore probably less qualified to advise a woman in this case, but such an extreme story obviously points in just one inevitable direction.
That may mean that your... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and never had sex!
Q. hi guys I am 25 years old and still I had never gone through female sex.Whenever I tried to make sexual relationship with my gf she always ignored me.So pl z I feel myself ashamed right now.Can anyone suggest what should I do?? ...
A. 23 November 2009: Not really enough information here to offer any significant amount of thoughtful advice.... (read in full...)
I need sex advice.
Q. hi i am 20 years of age i want to know wat can i do to make him nut more than once and moan as muvh as i do i also dont know how to ride or give oral sex please help me...
A. 22 November 2009: There is plenty of advice about sexual positions, oral stimulation and much more in the Web site's archives above right. Just anything in the search field.... (read in full...)
How can I have better luck with girls?
Q. Something which has been troubling me lately: I've been going to a few parties, raves, social gatherings, etc recently, and usually i'll get a bit wasted and just have a good time, chill with friends, rave a bit, etc. The thing is, in the last...
A. 22 November 2009: I'll agree with "Emilysanswers" and add that you make your moves more decisively. Confidence is always important, as is humor, but make it known to them that you would like to explore the possibility of being their man. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I kissed two guys in one night. Does that ruin my chances with one of them?
Q. I met this guy who's a few years older than me, and we hung out once and he seems pretty cool. we both went to the club with different people but we ended up talking that night and when we were dancing he kissed me. i kissed him back to a bit i ...
A. 22 November 2009: Do not worry about the kisses. If you really like the guy who continues to communicate with you, then go for it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't achieve orgasm through penetration
Q. From the 1st time my partner met we hit it off and from the 1st time we had sex we just knew we were made for each other but the 1st few times I spotted that he can't come from penetration and I'd have to wank him off or give him a blow job for him ...
A. 22 November 2009: Well this one really hits home.
Will try to explain. Let's begin with the assumption that any sexual relationship between partners should at least include mutual satisfaction. With mutual agreement, that should include "whatever it takes." If part... (read in full...)
Will he 'fit' when we have sex tomorrow?
Q. I really need help . I am 18 and i going to have sex with my boyfriend of 4 years tomorrow and i am worried that my vagina is to small for his penis.like stretching wise and i was wondering how can i make it fit if it doesnt? and some advice f...
A. 22 November 2009: Read this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/embarrassed-about-sex-because-im-too-tight-how.html... (read in full...)
Bf has had a lot of girlfriends and one night stands... how do I get over his past... or should I not even get involved?
Q. Hello. I need some advice. I just started seeing this guy, I mean, we've been on a few dates and seem to get along very well. However he's self confessed to having had a lot of girlfriends, and a lot of one night stands. He's 28. My question is ...
A. 22 November 2009: Sounds a bit like an early me to some degree. You will likely be just another, but if you are adventurous and fairly sexually liberated, go ahead and have some fun. You would not be the first young woman to enjoy some sexual freedom, but if you are ... (read in full...)
How long can sperm be active outside of body? Can I get pregnant if he doesn't cum inside me?
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend have sex, and i was just wondering is it possible to get pregnant even if he doesnt cum directly inside of me? how long can sperm be active outside the body???? ...
A. 22 November 2009: Even pre-cum, which neither of you will even know was released during unprotected sex, may contain plenty of sperm to get you pregnant. You are tempting the fate of early motherhood if you have unprotected sex at your age, and for years to come, ... (read in full...)
He didn't "cum", did I do something wrong??
Q. Ok everyone, this is actually going red writing this but i need to know, i recently slept with this guy i meet about 2 weeks ago we slept together on a sat and on following monday, and both times he didnt cum, in fact i did loads and with other se...
A. 22 November 2009: Okay. I Googled it out of curiosity, and now understand both terms. Neither of those would be cause of this problem at his age, in my opinion. Hell, I was doing all that though the whole late 60s and 70s . . . ummm, okay, 80s and 90s, or . . .
W... (read in full...)
How do I give him the best blowjob he's ever had???
Q. Me and my boyfriend were talking about what he likes and he tells me that he doesn't care much for blow jobs because in the past his now ex's weren't good at them... So I'm now keen to change his mind, the only thing is that it would be my first ti...
A. 22 November 2009: One of many other postings on this subject:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/tips-on-how-to-give-the-perfect-blowjob.html... (read in full...)
He didn't "cum", did I do something wrong??
Q. Ok everyone, this is actually going red writing this but i need to know, i recently slept with this guy i meet about 2 weeks ago we slept together on a sat and on following monday, and both times he didnt cum, in fact i did loads and with other se...
A. 22 November 2009: What is "the snip?" And what does "the odd spliff now and then" mean? Sorry, I don't think we know about those in Texas.... (read in full...)
I don't want a relationship but a one night stand might be ok, how do I tell him?
Q. I am in love with a guy who I dated best friend of him I desire him so much we were just friend at the beginning but some emotional reactions started and he ran away I am thinking it is because of his best friend that he doesn't want to be in a ...
A. 21 November 2009: Some men, and I have always been one of them, absolutely will not cross a friend to have ANY kind of sexual relationship with the friend's woman, as long as the friend is still involved with her. For instance, I would never mess with a friend's ... (read in full...)
What could be the reason for very bad luck?
Q. What could be the reason for very bad luck? Like you do everything right in life, it is really not your fault, but you get the worst luck of day, after day. I'm talking about really bad stuff here.NO ,I don't think it makes sense to go into details ...
A. 21 November 2009: Well, I certainly feel unlucky at times, like for most of the past few years. But I found a penny on the ground the other day. First I took a step or two by, then stepped back and picked it up.
I know it's silly superstition that, if you find a pe... (read in full...)
Why do women sleep with married men?
Q. Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...
A. 21 November 2009: All this banter makes me wonder why I once stayed married and faithful to one woman for 20 years. Guess I missed out on all the fun . . . and yes, I did have to resist quite a number of temptresses. Where are they now?... (read in full...)
I'm in love... with a dead woman!!!
Q. Ok people...this might sound insane but i cant help it. About a year back i saw a picture of a girl and read her life story and i think i am falling over for her. I think i am in love... but the catch is... she died way back during the second ...
A. 21 November 2009: No problem mate. I'm still in love with Eve . . . and apples.... (read in full...)
How to approach the subject of giving and receiving oral?
Q. Hi i need some information on how to approach a girl whilst in foreplay and to either give or recieve oral?? Because im too shy to ask for a blowjob and im scared to pull her pants down and give her orar due to she might freak out and run off or hit ...
A. 21 November 2009: The anon poster on Nov 19, with all due respect, is totally clueless. Just as many men absolutely treasure applying oral satisfaction for their woman, many a woman equally enjoys pleasuring their man orally, even sometimes without reciprocation.
S... (read in full...)
Calas solved the erection, but now I can't climax!
Q. Hi from time to time i have had problems getting a full erection and staying hard. i have seen the doctor and he says everything is normal and as given me calas. i take about 1/2 a tab. and it fixes my erection (it does however give me a bad he...
A. 21 November 2009: I think you mean Cialas, the chemical name for which is sedenafil citrate. Perhaps you should try Viagra instead, which is just slightly different with same results. Everyone is different, but Viagra just gives me a minor headache for a short while ... (read in full...)
Ex still wants sexual favors... WHY?
Q. my bf and I live together but have just recently broken up. He asks me for hand-jobs, why? We are broken up but he asks me for hand jobs and also asked me if I still want something from him. I said I don't want anything sexual from him because we ...
A. 21 November 2009: This story has more twists than a pretzel.... (read in full...)
Should I come clean and tell him the truth?
Q. Ok, I need some general help here, I am really into this guy, who says he's into me but nothing too heavy, I didn't want a FWB but it's what we have, all we have done is kissed and some oral, he now wants sex but I have told him I am not ready yet ...
A. 20 November 2009: The truth is always best, and 27 is very young. Yes, the guy would be thrilled.... (read in full...)
How can I explain this to him so we end on good terms?
Q. I met my ex boyfriend through work although i didn't want to start anything in the beginning because i had just broken up with someone and he lived a very long way away from me. After around 6-9 months we started talking every day on the phone, ...
A. 20 November 2009: As usual, I must agree with "satindesire," a young but very wise advisor here. Sometimes, it is best to let some relationships dissolve. Put this in your past and chalk it up to experience. You have a future, which hopefully will include a loving ... (read in full...)
Ex still wants sexual favors... WHY?
Q. my bf and I live together but have just recently broken up. He asks me for hand-jobs, why? We are broken up but he asks me for hand jobs and also asked me if I still want something from him. I said I don't want anything sexual from him because we ...
A. 20 November 2009: Why? Because he still thinks that he can have the fun without commitment, as long as you are willing to provide it.... (read in full...)
How to approach the subject of giving and receiving oral?
Q. Hi i need some information on how to approach a girl whilst in foreplay and to either give or recieve oral?? Because im too shy to ask for a blowjob and im scared to pull her pants down and give her orar due to she might freak out and run off or hit ...
A. 19 November 2009: Well I understand that the age of consent to sexual activity is 16 in the Isles, so I'll try to advise. Foreplay, as you say, usually includes a lot of kissing, fondling and that sort of thing, but may advance to such activities as sucking breasts ... (read in full...)
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