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writes:My boyfriend wants me to perform oral sex on him but I always refuse. I can tell he really wants me to and we have already had sex. Should I do it or not?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 September 2009):
From a male.
You should not have to do anything you don't want to, and if he likes you that much, he'll accept it. Instead, see if you can spice your fun up in different areas.
Just don't be forced into anything you feel isn't right for you. Hope that helps.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (21 September 2009):
 Coming from a man whose two previous girlfriends refused, I can say it hurts to be denied. NO, you do NOT have to give him oral. And YES, even if you do, he'd better be EARNING it (I hope he's giving you oral too). But I gave both previous girlfriends oral on a regular basis, spending significant time curling their toes, only to be denied when it was my turn. It made me feel ugly, untouchable, and unloved. She said she cared, but even after I spent 30 minutes or more on her, she couldn't spend 5 on me.
If you're having vaginal sex, you can mix it up and show you care in other ways: lingerie, role playing, strip tease, etc, but oral is something that every man wants, and if you CAN get over your inhibition, it WILL make him feel more loved.Don't feel you HAVE to, but the more you can give of yourself, the more he'll realize how important he is to you.
Just don't do it like it's a chore, like this is something you HATE to do and is only for him. If you do, he won't even be able to really enjoy it. If you do decide to give him this, try to enjoy it. Try to make a game out of it, or stare into his eyes and feed off of his pleasure, or just close your eyes and listen to his breathing. If you can enjoy it, he will enjoy it more, and it can become a valuable part of your lovemaking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): If you've already had sex with him, we assume that you've allowed him to put his penis inside your vigina. I'll also assume that he's worn a condom...If you're having sex inside a relationship and trust that your partner is clean (and learn how to visually CHECK), then yes, you should probably prepare to give him oral. I assume that you may not have experience in this arena, but you're going to need to learn. The vast majority of the men out there are going to expect some oral attention. My first wife was not a big fan, and she'd go down on me to make me happy, but more times than not finish me by hand or beg to to climb on her... My wife is very skilled at oral, and swallows. The "skilled" part is that she knows how to use her hands so that I can't tell where her mouth stops and her hands start. Every BJ feels like a deep throat, which is WONDERFUL, but I can tell you for a fact, that she's not taking my entire length down her throat AND I DON'T CARE... the sensation and loving feeling is what it's about... and I don't have any reservation of going down on her...
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 September 2009):
 If I were a woman, the decision would be at least partly based on whether the boyfriend provides oral stimulation for me. Better yet, does he provide oral satisfaction? Well, as a man, I have done so for most every woman who ever pleased me orally. It's only fair.
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