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Should I stay unsatisfied for my marriage?
Q. every time we have sex I stay unsatisfied. I rather for him to make it quick just to get it over with. There is a time when its good but that's only when I can engage him to make it "rough" but he doesn't like to. What can I do cuz its really ...
A. 22 October 2009: That could destroy your family. The guy simply needs to learn how to please you, and he needs to know that it's a very important matter. ... (read in full...)
I feel as though I've lost my morals...what should I do?
Q. I hate who i am becoming and i can't stop myself. I used to be the classy girl with a lot of respect for herself, but in a month and a little it has changed. I lost my virginity three years ago now and in the space of three years i had only slept wi...
A. 21 October 2009: In my opinion, most of the responses posted thus far miss the point. The reason "why" you are inclined to succumb to sexual temptation is totally natural and simple: hormones.
At your age, and hopefully for the next 30 or 40 years hence (maybe far ... (read in full...)
What do the guys in porn movies do?
Q. Hi. I m 21. I have a simple question. P.E is a common problem nowadays. I want to know what do the guys in porn movies do? I mean they keep it inside the girl for a considerable time and stroke at 90 miles/hr. How do they do it? Are there some ...
A. 21 October 2009: Although some male porn actors may be able to perform amazing feats, you can be sure that many tricks of Hollywood filmmaking are at play, such as editing, frequent breaks and stand-ins. Porn does not represent reality.... (read in full...)
Why can't I cum?
Q. i am in a great relationship with my boyfriend..however when we have sex it's great it feels so good, however i cannot seem to cum ever! i've tried so many different things its unbelievable. i get moist when he plays with me and when we have sex...
A. 21 October 2009: Allow me to totally agree with "satindesire" that female cumming, also known as "squirting," is actually rare and unnecessary to female orgasm. However, as a man who has for more than 45 years been in intimate proximity to a woman's vulva during ... (read in full...)
My husband finishes too early!
Q. ok first off all i love my husband we've been together for two years, im 20 and he's 27. but lately he doesnt please me, he finish waay to early. im pretty sure he knows because he asks me if im mad. i dont know how to talk to him about this im sooo ...
A. 20 October 2009: Do not feel so far from normal. Although this kind of prob may not be usual at your age, it is very possible for various reasons. To cut to the chase, here are a couple of ways to possibly solve premature ejaculation.
1. Blow him off as a prel... (read in full...)
In the bedroom boyfriend just isn't interested
Q. Hey I was wondering if someone could help! I have been dating my new boyfriend for 2 months and we have a real problem in the bedroom...he just isn't that interested!! We waited a month before we had sex - he stayed over quite a few times and no...
A. 19 October 2009: Probably not gay, but I agree with others that he may not care much about being with you. Or it is certainly possible that he is simply not very sexual or passionate as you, which could prove a mismatch problem. ... (read in full...)
Golden Showers: I don't like it but my partner does!
Q. Okay so my problem is my Fiance likes peeing on me and to be honest I can't stand it as the smell just makes me want to gag, I just have this thing about urine to start with so I have tried it and every time now we even get close to having sex it ...
A. 18 October 2009: "Candleman" does a fine job with an in-depth version, while I strive to be succinct and to the point. Please forgive if I'm considered straight-forward or blunt. We both intend meaningful advice, as do all longtime responders on this Web site. S... (read in full...)
Golden Showers: I don't like it but my partner does!
Q. Okay so my problem is my Fiance likes peeing on me and to be honest I can't stand it as the smell just makes me want to gag, I just have this thing about urine to start with so I have tried it and every time now we even get close to having sex it ...
A. 17 October 2009: Well that is a perversion that I cannot understand, except that it must come from some kind of desire to degrade another person. Pee is a waste product of the body, and this guy you plan to marry wants to dump it on you. Think about it. ... (read in full...)
Are these actions normal for a man almost 30 yrs old?
Q. My boyfriend (29) and I (25) were really enjoying having sex the other night and when he wanted to have anal sex I said no because I knew that my stomach was not up for it. He knows that I really do not like it yet I have promised to continue doing ...
A. 17 October 2009: In my opinion, no woman would want this jerk.... (read in full...)
What would explain my husband's strange behavior and impotence?
Q. What can you do, if you have no way to find out what is causing your husband strange behavior, and impotence? I'm spending my last 4 years ,trying to find out why did he turned impotent, and why he seem to be much more distant ,he used to be. I...
A. 16 October 2009: Then I don't know, but psychological problems or divergent interests may be an issue. Best wishes to you. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay unsatisfied for my marriage?
Q. every time we have sex I stay unsatisfied. I rather for him to make it quick just to get it over with. There is a time when its good but that's only when I can engage him to make it "rough" but he doesn't like to. What can I do cuz its really ...
A. 16 October 2009: While I agree with the communication issues, I suspect that the root of your problem is that your mate does not really know how to please a woman. Actually, few men learn much about it prior to their 30s, and some never learn at all. Consider ... (read in full...)
What would explain my husband's strange behavior and impotence?
Q. What can you do, if you have no way to find out what is causing your husband strange behavior, and impotence? I'm spending my last 4 years ,trying to find out why did he turned impotent, and why he seem to be much more distant ,he used to be. I...
A. 16 October 2009: Is your husband on blood pressure medication? Beta-blockers, notably Atenolol, can cause the problem.... (read in full...)
Why can't I cum?
Q. i am in a great relationship with my boyfriend..however when we have sex it's great it feels so good, however i cannot seem to cum ever! i've tried so many different things its unbelievable. i get moist when he plays with me and when we have sex...
A. 16 October 2009: Well I think that oral stimulation (cunnilingus) would solve this issue if he learns how to do it.... (read in full...)
Will it be just as effective?
Q. This isnt actually a relationship question,but i cant seem to find any answers online about what to do if you miss the first pill in your birth control pack.I was late getting my new pack of birth control for the month.I was supposed to pick up the ...
A. 15 October 2009: Nobody here could possibly know about your specific birth control strategies. Only your doctor could have any useful advice, which you have apparently sought and received. But generally, depending upon your cycle dates, sexual activities may be ... (read in full...)
I do all the work and he gets all the pleasure!
Q. my live in b/f of two years won't touch me during foreplay or during intercourse. i do all the work, hell i'm the one that always makes the first move,and when i ask him why he says "i never give him a chance". i'm always sucking his dick until he ...
A. 15 October 2009: In my opinion, it is not necessarily correct that he is "not all that into" you, but he may be taking you for granted. In other words, a bit selfish - or possibly VERY selfish, based on your descriptions. Does he always make sure that you enjoy the ... (read in full...)
I'm married and I know I need to end this relationship
Q. I am involved in a emotional affair with a man that I have known off and on for 4 years. I have become very close to him and have fallen completly for him. I am married and I know that I need to end this affair. I have tried to just be friends with ...
A. 15 October 2009: To "anonymous," did you read the posting?... (read in full...)
12 years later and still clueless in the sack? Is it time to pack my bags?
Q. Here's my situation in a nutshell. Mr X and I have been dating for 12 years. We have never, ever, had good sex (for me). We have sex twice a week, he gets off every time and I get off once every six months only because I am so frusterated at that ...
A. 14 October 2009: Twelve years is a long time to be unsatisfied, considering the alternative if you can find him.... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy and he doesn't listen
Q. Should I stay or go?? I'll try and be brief with this, i met my partner 4 years ago, it was great at first we travelled the world together, and used to do a lot of things together. We moved into our own place but a year ago he decided we move bac...
A. 14 October 2009: Do what you have to do to be happy. You have this one certain life on earth and it is fleeting.... (read in full...)
Room mate is a male whore! Should I rat him out?
Q. My roommate will screw anything that isn't moving, which is why our cat never lies down. Right now he is juggling 4 girlfriends and yesterday a new girl showed up and he had sex with her too, only he said she wasn't a girlfriend. That makes 5 ...
A. 14 October 2009: What in hell did my generation (during the 60s) spawn? Yes, we promoted the ideals of love sexual freedom, but it had really some degree of meaning. At least I cared about and benefitted the girls in useful ways, such as purchasing needed furniture ... (read in full...)
Why can't I cum?
Q. i am in a great relationship with my boyfriend..however when we have sex it's great it feels so good, however i cannot seem to cum ever! i've tried so many different things its unbelievable. i get moist when he plays with me and when we have sex...
A. 14 October 2009: Well "satindesire" gets to the point and always offers great advice, but I'll cut closer to the chase here. Your boyfriend needs to learn a lot more about satisfying a woman, regardless of age. There is a tremendous amount of information about ... (read in full...)
Is playing hard to get a good thing?
Q. ok what does a guy mean when he says "your playing hard to get"?is that a good thing?...
A. 14 October 2009: Well, I have not really figured this out after about 45 years since reaching legal age. In order to avoid stuck-up women, I therefore have shared life and love with the friendly ones, and in each case, we've had great fun and meaningful ... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with anyone they can?
Q. In your average friends with benefits situation so obviously we're talking frequent sex here, do you think a guy would sleep with just anyone? I mean if a guy is good looking and he knows it surely he would choose someone that he finds attractive? ...
A. 13 October 2009: Okay, I still think this is an interesting question. As I have indicated, there were quite a few times that sexual offerings by young (or now much older) females were declined. It was because I have always maintained fairly high standards. It is ... (read in full...)
I'm married and I know I need to end this relationship
Q. I am involved in a emotional affair with a man that I have known off and on for 4 years. I have become very close to him and have fallen completly for him. I am married and I know that I need to end this affair. I have tried to just be friends with ...
A. 12 October 2009: You must decide. It may be difficult if sexual. We hope that no young children are involved.... (read in full...)
I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!
Q. Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...
A. 12 October 2009: What the heck is an "unreal aunt?"... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with anyone they can?
Q. In your average friends with benefits situation so obviously we're talking frequent sex here, do you think a guy would sleep with just anyone? I mean if a guy is good looking and he knows it surely he would choose someone that he finds attractive? ...
A. 12 October 2009: As an older man, I have certainly turned-down many opportunities. Some offers were later somewhat regretted in retrospect, but I think that each man must speak for themselves. Men are not all the same. ... (read in full...)
I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?
Q. I awoke in the middle of the night last night wet and horny. I must have cum in my sleep, although i don't remember what I was dreaming about. But I'm female and I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?...
A. 12 October 2009: Sexual arousal and release is something like 70-80 percent mental, according to my readings and experience, which may help explain. ... (read in full...)
Does this happen to you??
Q. has this happened to you??? on several occasions my wife and l have had fantastic morning sex before l go to work. i mean fantastic sex and not just a quickie. my wife always climax's during intercourse. on several times this has happened she has ...
A. 12 October 2009: No, I do not think this scenario ever occurred in my relationships, but I wouldn't know. In any case, my advice would be not to worry. Her extracurricular activity may simply be residual arousal triggered by being with you. No harm there, if such be ... (read in full...)
Our sex life has slowed to a crawl since her best friend moved in. They sleep in the same bed!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years now. I'm turning 22 soon and she just 20 now. Recently, we have undergone some struggles and although we are still very much in love with each other, we are losing our intimacy and I feel ...
A. 11 October 2009: In that case, no, you should not be upset about the nurturing relationship with her best friend. It is her home. You possibly should work harder to improve your relationship with her by being the best boyfriend you can be. ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me if I don't enjoy oral sex?
Q. So I have a boyfriend and we've been with each other for just over 7 months now. We've been having oral sex for a little while now as I'm not really ready for sex yet and he's fine with that. But, the problem is when he gives me oral sex I don't ...
A. 10 October 2009: Nothing wrong, and you are still way too young to worry about such things. Please trust me that most everyone has troubles and doubts all along the way in life, but especially throughout the teens and early 20s. I remember. ... (read in full...)
Our sex life has slowed to a crawl since her best friend moved in. They sleep in the same bed!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years now. I'm turning 22 soon and she just 20 now. Recently, we have undergone some struggles and although we are still very much in love with each other, we are losing our intimacy and I feel ...
A. 10 October 2009: This post seems suspicious, but first problematic because the gender of the "best friend" is consistently avoided. If the friend be a he, then I think you're the loser here.... (read in full...)
How can I acheive an orgasm?
Q. I am a young woman, and a lesbian, and I've never had an orgasm. I have tried with both just myself, my partner, and even with a vibrator to see if clitoral stimulation would work, but I get no pleasurable feelings from it, it only feels weird, in a ...
A. 9 October 2009: Well, the lesbian part takes away much of my thunder, but the techniques are very much the same. Still, I must post my input from a man's point of view. Certainly a woman could achieve similar result with another woman so inclined.
All that a man ... (read in full...)
Is a runny nose normal when giving a blow job?
Q. I am 20 and finally have a serious b/f that I really like. We have been dating 2 months now and see each other every day. About two weeks into our relationship I told him that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex for the first time ...
A. 9 October 2009: Comment #1: Two months should not be considered a very serious relationship, but if it suffices for you to provide oral sex, fine (and also assuming, with some doubt, that this is actually a serious question).
Comment #2: It is quite common for oral... (read in full...)
Is being attracted to a different race wrong?
Q. im 13 and i wondering if youre this race and your more attracted to a different race, is it wrong? like a chinease but im latino. help...
A. 8 October 2009: To the anonymous reader and "TasteofIndia," whom I highly regard, I have on many occasions seen the results of pigmentation and other problems as suggested, but I agree that it only happens occasionally.
Also, I've read detailed studies, but I do n... (read in full...)
Is being attracted to a different race wrong?
Q. im 13 and i wondering if youre this race and your more attracted to a different race, is it wrong? like a chinease but im latino. help...
A. 7 October 2009: No, not wrong, but in certain cases, genetic differences may result in birth defects or unsightly skin blemishes for any children produced from some relationships. It is not being racial, but factual, to acknowledge that this more often occurs ... (read in full...)
He never reaches orgasm with me. Is this normal?
Q. This guy I've been casually seeing and sleeping for a while with has never been able to cum with me. He says that it's been a long time since he's been able to finish with a girl, whether it be actual sex or oral. He says that I do a really good ...
A. 6 October 2009: Presuming that your "guy" is anywhere near your age, and apparently healthy, then his problem is quite abnormal.... (read in full...)
If I had came inside her is there a high risk of her getting pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend has just gotten off her period 6 days ago, and has been on birth control for 5 days. (5 pills taken) We had unprotected sex but I pulled out. I am not 100% sure I pulled out in time though. If i had came inside her is there a high risk ...
A. 5 October 2009: Maybe not a "high risk," but anything is possible. You are certainly risking the possibility of youthful fatherhood there.... (read in full...)
I don't understand how people have sex
Q. This is kind of a strange question, but i don't really get how people have sex. Like, I understand the penis going into the vagina, and there are different positions, but then how can you tell if some one is good if that's all there is? also, i h...
A. 4 October 2009: Your question is very elemental. Heterosexual activity is intended and necessary for promulgation of the human species. It is typically fun and feels good, even when pregnancy of the female is not the goal. To attempt a simple and clear answer to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to date a 19 yr old?
Q. i am 15 im currently dating a 19 year old we stay friend and arent intesrested in sex until were married but i have been told it is illegal to be four years of age to date but in two montshs i will be 16 and he had just turned 19 is it wrong because ...
A. 3 October 2009: Yes, it's ok but do keep sex out of the relationship until you are of legal age in your state. When early in life, the difference in age is more important than in our later years. ... (read in full...)
Should I try and initiate sex?
Q. Hi, So I have to admit, I'm 23 and when it comes to dating, sex, relationships and love I'm a complete and utter rookie/noob. SO here's my question. I'm dating a fantastic girl and she says in one conversation "Its desperate times" (in refere...
A. 1 October 2009: I'm a bit embarrassed by my prior "older-man typing." Meant to write:
"Most anyone in the 20s, then or now, get laid if they work at it a bit. The simple answer here is: 'Yes, go for it, but know that you can't win 'em all. Just be good to any girl... (read in full...)
Should I try and initiate sex?
Q. Hi, So I have to admit, I'm 23 and when it comes to dating, sex, relationships and love I'm a complete and utter rookie/noob. SO here's my question. I'm dating a fantastic girl and she says in one conversation "Its desperate times" (in refere...
A. 1 October 2009: Wish I could say that I was so much wiser back in the mid-1960s, when I was about your age today. It was a somewhat different world, in my opinion, but in many ways, not much different. Most anyone in the 20s, then or nor, get laid if they work at ... (read in full...)
When it comes to sex I'm never pleased! Any suggestions?
Q. Well, me and my boyfriend are emotionally intimate and everything seems perfect but when it comes to sex im never pleased. I can only have an orgasm when im on top but im so tired of pleasing myself. I love having sex with him and even tried telling ...
A. 30 September 2009: If you can orgasm when on top, as you say, then I'd suggest that you include the "Cowgirl" position every time. But you contradict yourself when you claim "im never pleased." Seems confusing.
In my opinion, many women are better pleased with "wom... (read in full...)
Why can't women have young lovers?
Q. I am an attractive 40 year old woman currently in a relationship with a 24 year old strapping young jock. We initially hit it off as friends while playing on a co-ed softball team together. Then went out with a group and ours eyes met and have been ...
A. 26 September 2009: This posting seems questionable as being entirely legit, but these days, any relationship that works for you, and your partner, is all that matters. ... (read in full...)
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