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I was inappropriately intimate with someone. What now?
Q. I don't know what to do. I was inappropriately intimate with someone who has a girlfriend and the girlfriend works for me. I never meant for this to happen and still can't believe it. I'm not sure if she knows, but she hasn't returned my messages ...
A. 6 November 2009: Much as "Plexi" advised, silence is golden here, but abstinence from any further involvement may be a good idea. If the issue surfaces, it would not be the first time in history and don't worry about it. Just move on and seek a valuable and ... (read in full...)
Have I got a problem?
Q. Whenever i masturbate i use three fingers, is that a problem? and also i come in like 25 seconds i'm quite worried and i really would like some help....
A. 6 November 2009: Can't imagine why the number of fingers utilized would matter, but masturbation and rapid release might possibly cause a premature ejaculation issue in the future when having normal sexual relations with a partner.
Nevertheless, most everyone mast... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend watches porn!
Q. I hate that my boyfriend watches porn. I gave him many pictures of me, and he himself has taken several pictures of us doing stuff. But he doesn't use them at all, he just uses regular big tit porn. I have small boobs, and I'm not as perfect as ...
A. 6 November 2009: If your guy is addicted to pornography, which seems apparent based on your posting, and if he also resists pleasing you on a reasonably regular basis, then you may need another lover. Porn may be useful when a guy (or gal) is lonely without a better ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with my sister in law?
Q. Some background. About 10 months ago I started a relationship with my Sister In Law. Yes I know its messy. We just had that instant connection. Over the 10 months we realized so many things about ourselves and life in general. I have always ...
A. 6 November 2009: Yep, that's very messy, and in my opinion, you are asking for trouble.... (read in full...)
Read this email message and tell me what you think!
Q. I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...
A. 5 November 2009: Seems a bit strange to me. ... (read in full...)
What are the "three bases" people refer to with making out or sex?
Q. ok so i feel really dumb for not already knowing this but what are the 3 bases? i mean i feel that i rally should know but for some reason i dont and i think its just cause when i was younger i just kept telling myself i will know later and now i ...
A. 5 November 2009: In my opinion, first base is kissing and petting (which may include some breast massage). And may include the female rubbing a guy's genital area without direct exposure.
Second base may be the male massaging or feeling the girl's exposed geni... (read in full...)
I want help to get over my inhibitions about performing oral on a man.
Q. Okay, I've never givin a blow job, and im kinda nervous on it cause well i think its kinda nasty to put ur mouth on the guys dick, if u think about it.....anyways i want to but im to shy, and idk how to get over it, i mean part of me wants to but ...
A. 5 November 2009: There is nothing "nasty" about putting "ur mouth on a guy's dick" providing he is healthy and maintains good hygiene. Good guys make sure to clean up anyway. Even ingesting sperm is considered quite nourishing and harmless if the man is healthy. All ... (read in full...)
My brother asked me to look at his because to judge its size
Q. My older brother asked me if I could look at his erect penis and tell him what I thought about its size. I know he is really self conscious about it and I just wanted to help him out. I've seen his dick before when we were really young. But never ...
A. 4 November 2009: Inappropriate for sure. Tell him to apply a ruler in private, and if he measures anywhere near five inches, it's about normal. ... (read in full...)
If you lose weight can it make your penis bigger?
Q. So, my penis isn't really that big. I'd say maybe 4 inches when erect. I know that 4 inches is long enough to satisfy a girl, but I would rather be average of maybe 5.5 inches. That would make me feel more confident with myself. I'm also a bit on ...
A. 4 November 2009: Yes, I've heard that it's true to a degree. It makes sense that too much extra padding in the lower abdominal area would limit penetration to an extent. Extra fat on either partner affects the depth of penile penetration, but depth is not all there ... (read in full...)
19 and never had a girlfriend. Please help!
Q. Ok, so i am 19 but i have never had a girlfriend, and its to the point that i have never properly kissed a girl. I have friends that are girls, and i am told i am a nice person. I play sport, do music, lots of different things, but i havnt met any ...
A. 4 November 2009: Girls are attracted to confidence. You must act it whether you are or not. Above all, be bold and say hello to every gal in your vicinity - and smile.... (read in full...)
Does my former one-night stand not want to see me again?
Q. I had a one night stand with a man i thought i would never see. But today I ran into him and the wierd thing is that i asked him for his number, and i sent him a txt, but he hasnt replied. i really like him and after that night i regretted not ...
A. 4 November 2009: Some guys may want to extend a one night stand to see where it goes, and we can suppose that many do not. In my life, I've usually wanted to try for a relationship if attracted to the woman from the start. The sex usually just gets better. But ... (read in full...)
How can I Deep Throat a boy without gagging?
Q. Okey my problem isnt a really big one but a good answer will really help me in my situation. i want to give my boy friend the best blowjob ever and i kno this question has been asked alot but i need some tips on how to deep throat with out feeling ...
A. 4 November 2009: The anonymous reader offered good advice. You are very unlikely to deep throat during a first attempt, and it really does not matter. As mentioned, using your hands in addition to lips, mouth and tongue is enough to bring most any guy to a huge ... (read in full...)
I want to be sexually active but put my defences up before anyone can get close. Help!
Q. I'm eighteen and I still haven't lost my virginity. I want to become sexually active but I freeze up whenever a potential opportunity arises, and just feel really nervous and uninterested. I always assume guys are just after one thing, and put up my ...
A. 3 November 2009: In my opinion (as an older guy), you should look at this situation differently. Instead of wanting to lose your virginity and become "sexually active," please concentrate on finding a worthy partner who will respect you, and who may prove to be a ... (read in full...)
I just can't STOP looking at porn! Help!
Q. So I've tryed to stop looking at porn and porn videos ill stop but then go right back. how could I stop it?...
A. 3 November 2009: In my opinion, a partial solution may be to get a girlfriend and maintain a healthy sexual relationship. It may not eliminate your visual consumption of porn entirely, but real sex is much better and rewarding than fantasy. ... (read in full...)
He's too big for me to give him oral sex!
Q. I love my husband very much and want to do whatever I can to make him happy. He does NOT try to make me does this, it's just I want to be able to do for him as his wife. I have gave other guys head and never had a problem untill my husband came ...
A. 2 November 2009: It should be no problem for a man to shoot a load without full oral penetration. Some of my fondest climax moments were from tip sucking.... (read in full...)
I am messed up here...what does this guy want from me?
Q. Hi there, I am so confused about a guy i am seeing. We have known each other about 3months and have met up a few times for casual sex. but he says he wants more than this, and is depressed about not being in a relationship. he usually says this by ...
A. 2 November 2009: It simply sounds like he is not as "into you" as you may wish.... (read in full...)
Does alchohol consumption change cum?
Q. heyy quick question, trying to settle a debate :) haha. if a guy drinks alcohol a lot is his cum more bitter or sweet or what? does it change the texture of it? thanks! lovee, Laceyyy....
A. 2 November 2009: Based on reports from ladies (because I'm a man and do not know), excessive alcohol does make cum more bitter than it already tastes. That is why I usually eat more fruit or drink pineapple juice a day or two before such activity. ... (read in full...)
Is it bad for a Christian girl to masterbate?
Q. im a 15 year old qirl. i am christian. in i have several questions. is it bad for a christian qirl to mastrubate?is it bad for a girl to mastrubate? can you loose your virginity? please help...
A. 1 November 2009: None of your concerns are valid, and some previous responses, notably by "rhythmandblues2," are excellent. It is ok, and preferable for your own good and future, to do a bit of masturbation and avoid a much more risky sexual relationship with some ... (read in full...)
How do I stop blaming myself for masterbating?
Q. Hi Cupid, i feel blame whenever i masturbate and am trying to stop this but is hard. i feel sexual sometimes. i masturbate in order to to get satisfaction. is there any way i can stop this. i don't want to wasting my sperm and I don't want to have ...
A. 1 November 2009: It is a perfectly normal thing to do, and actually healthy because, in lieu of sex with a woman, your biological system is nevertheless being utilized. Do not worry about wasted sperm because you will create trillions and trillions of them during ... (read in full...)
I like the manly smell down there, am I weird?
Q. I just found this web site last month and think its great. I like sitting in this coffee shop, sipping a caramel coffee, and reading about real people and what others think about their problems and hang ups, without the fear of being embarassed. ...
A. 1 November 2009: Everyone's natural body fragrance is distinct, male or female. I think that we sometimes find a mate particularly favorable to our senses, notably taste and smell. When that happens, it is a delight.
Sometimes, we may hook up with someone we like... (read in full...)
Am I addicted to sex? What's wrong with me?
Q. I feel like I need to have sex or i'm going to go crazy. with each passing day i get more urges (especially at school with the hot teachers, etc.) and it's very distracting. i'll be trying to do calculus work and suddenly envision a man's arm, whi...
A. 31 October 2009: Natural hormones are at work, and at your age, masturbation is the wisest solution to at least ease your urges. Consider studying more of the female masturbation techniques online and in this Web site's archives. Please just consider it a little ... (read in full...)
My man masturbates on a regular basis but won't do it in front of me...
Q. Dear Cupid, my man masturbates on a regular basis but he won't do in front of me. He claims its something he has to do in private. And when he does it he has to watch porn to perform it usually oral sex clips. My question is I wouldn't mind him ...
A. 31 October 2009: Being quite impressed by the input and insight by "quiet-echo," apparently female, I must agree that most men continue to masturbate throughout life, even while in a great marriage or relationship. And yes, it is kind of a release of tension much ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your guy ejaculated inside you?
Q. My question is for the column: How do know if your guy ejaculated inside you? I recently had sex with my guy and we finished and he said "I came." I wasn't sure if he was telling the truth or not. 1 because I didn't feel it. 2 I didn't feel an...
A. 30 October 2009: Some girls claim to actually sense the warmth of an ejaculation, which is at least at body temperature. But above all, the evidence should be obvious, because much of it flows or dribbles out following sexual relations. Consider "Uncle Phil's" ... (read in full...)
Whats happening?
Q. Does sex make your areola darker and bigger? Cuz mine are darker and bigger......
A. 30 October 2009: Based on the experiences of past wives (three in my case), and numerous girlfriends, the only things that obviously affected breast size and appearance were pregnancy, aging and weight gain. The results were varied. I'm of an older generation, but ... (read in full...)
Do girls pre cum?
Q. hey, i got 2 questions.. 1.do girls pre cum? is that like the wetness u get when someone is pleasurin u before u actually orgasm? 2. i always thought my area down there was a bit smelly but iv realised dat as i go thru the day, i get lots of d...
A. 29 October 2009: Any excessive odor is a good indication that your vaginal environment is either out-of-balance, or evidence of infection, most notably vaginitis (a yeast infection). Simply taking antibiotics may cause it, and a doctor visit is advisable. But as ... (read in full...)
How do I handle inappropriate questions from guys?
Q. Im 14 and at this age guys are complete pervs..They are always asking you to go down on them or to let them fingure you.,,and it feels so weird because sometimes you like the guy thats asking you but u dont know how to say yes with out sounding all ...
A. 28 October 2009: For your own good, please just say no!... (read in full...)
What is the difference between pre-cum and cum?
Q. what is the difference between pre-cum and cum?...
A. 27 October 2009: OldGuy has is about right, but here's the skinny:
The purpose of precum is to help lubricate, and yes, it can contain some sperm. And as OldGuy said, it is usually clear and slippery, due to its purpose. It typically appears at the tip just prio... (read in full...)
Advice on having sex with an older man?
Q. i always enjoyed hav sex but now am married with really old guy an we dont have sex for a year now and i also dont want to cheat on him,we love each other very much,we enjoy each others company but i really want to have sex any advice...
A. 26 October 2009: You do not say how much older your husband is, but unless he is something like 80- 90-years-old, his age should not be much of an issue. Men up to 70-80 years can certainly have plenty sex with a younger wife in most circumstances, unless there are ... (read in full...)
I already know he's a womanizer. Should I go for it?
Q. I am in a relationship with a divorced man who is well educated. I love him and had sex with him. Recently he has been saying about his past relationships and it appears that he had sex with two other women when he was married just because he had a ...
A. 25 October 2009: Proceed at your own peril.... (read in full...)
Why can't I relate to so many of my friends that are already settling down?
Q. So my 2 year dating anniversary with my boyfriend is coming up. Unfortunately I don't know how to feel about it. I'm acting kind of unstable but I don't know why, and it's confusing my boyfriend. The background is that both of us are in univer...
A. 25 October 2009: Everything you say answers your own questions. ... (read in full...)
Is masterbating once a day too much?
Q. Hello everyone :) i have a question about masturbation. I am a 17 year old lad and i find myself masturbating at least once a day. I usually jus turn my pc on download some transexual porn and have a wank, i was jus wondering if wanking at least ...
A. 25 October 2009: Not a problem, but someday you should strive to replace most of that with regularly making love to the great young woman, or a string of them, of your choice. At least in "my" youth - and you may feel likewise - there was enough going on that I ... (read in full...)
Stamina problem
Q. I really hate having sex with my girlfriend because I have... stamina issues where i uh finish early. I really love her though and don't want to disappoint or lose her. What can I do?...
A. 25 October 2009: My friend "Tisha-1" chimes in with more great advice, although the excellent book that she referenced is likely "She Comes First," by Dr. Ian Kerner.
In my opinion and that of many others, Kerner's book is the finest modern, written expose abou... (read in full...)
If he ejaculates quickly does that mean he is cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and i use to be sexual active but no longer... Well if we do.. he ejaculate very quickly (in seconds). I kno he feels back but i always told him it was alright. Dont worry its not a big deal, it can be fixed. I just love him so much ...
A. 25 October 2009: Premature ejaculation can be for a number of reasons, but probably the least of which is cheating.... (read in full...)
What makes up the juice from a squirt?
Q. I would like to know whats makes up the juice from a squirt. some of my friends says its pee, other say its plain water and sweat, and my gf asked her health teacher and the teacher said its regular body liquids. I need to know! so what exactly is ...
A. 25 October 2009: First of all, it rarely ever happens. Therefore, don't concern yourselves, but it is supposedly a female form of ejaculate similar to semen, but lacking sperm. In porn movies, which you should avoid at your time in life (because much is unhealthy ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am a slut?
Q. Do you think I am a slut? I have been flirting with this guy for years, he likes me because I am shy, we have kissed a couple of times, we get on really well and very recently we were kissing and as we were kissing he asked me to make him cum, wh...
A. 24 October 2009: No, you are absolutely not a slut, according to the given description. But you did not offer any explanation regarding his relationship status. I think that any man who flirts with a young woman should be single and available. If he is not, then the ... (read in full...)
Sex hater.
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my bf for 2 years. before we got together i enjoyed sex alot. but now i hate it we start and after a few min i ask if he is almost done. i hate oral sex and i hate for him to touch me. i thought maybe it was him ...
A. 24 October 2009: How unfortunate, because sex is (or should be) one of the great gifts in life. This situation must have something to do with your partners, or their skills. You are still very young and may yet learn to enjoy with the right partner. ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my husband because his sex drive is non-existant, do you think it could be due to his high blood pressure?
Q. I have been cheating on my husband, only because our sex live is virtually non existence - try no sex for 2 yrs and before that lucky if I got it every 3 months. We have been married for coming up 8 yrs now. I have asked him a numerous of times why, ...
A. 23 October 2009: High blood pressure medication, such as beta-blockers like Atenolol, are notorious for causing erectile dysfunction (documented), and may also reduce sexual desire. ... (read in full...)
How does a female tell when she is coming?
Q. Hello I Was Just Wondering? I Know Girls Cum Too! But How Can They Tell If They Are Cumming? And Is It Normal If You Can Not Tell When Your Cumming As A Feamle?...
A. 23 October 2009: According to my experiences with women, they have said that a sensation for a false need to urinate often precedes orgasm. Interestingly, but less reported, the sensation is similar for men, but as we all become more experienced, we learn to discern ... (read in full...)
I am a horny virgin but I don't think I am ready for sex!
Q. im 15 and i keep feeling horny, but i havent had sex before what do you think i should do? i want to have sex but at the same time i dont think im as ready as i think, but i keep feeling horny. Help me please....
A. 23 October 2009: Masturbation is ok and will help you safely develop your sexuality.... (read in full...)
Should I stay unsatisfied for my marriage?
Q. every time we have sex I stay unsatisfied. I rather for him to make it quick just to get it over with. There is a time when its good but that's only when I can engage him to make it "rough" but he doesn't like to. What can I do cuz its really ...
A. 22 October 2009: That could destroy your family. The guy simply needs to learn how to please you, and he needs to know that it's a very important matter. ... (read in full...)
I feel as though I've lost my morals...what should I do?
Q. I hate who i am becoming and i can't stop myself. I used to be the classy girl with a lot of respect for herself, but in a month and a little it has changed. I lost my virginity three years ago now and in the space of three years i had only slept wi...
A. 21 October 2009: In my opinion, most of the responses posted thus far miss the point. The reason "why" you are inclined to succumb to sexual temptation is totally natural and simple: hormones.
At your age, and hopefully for the next 30 or 40 years hence (maybe far ... (read in full...)
Should I stay unsatisfied for my marriage?
Q. every time we have sex I stay unsatisfied. I rather for him to make it quick just to get it over with. There is a time when its good but that's only when I can engage him to make it "rough" but he doesn't like to. What can I do cuz its really ...
A. 16 October 2009: While I agree with the communication issues, I suspect that the root of your problem is that your mate does not really know how to please a woman. Actually, few men learn much about it prior to their 30s, and some never learn at all. Consider ... (read in full...)
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