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Lesbian, but turned on by straight porn...is this normal??
Q. Ok, hi people! I've been having some trouble trying to understand something, so thort you guys could help!?! i'll try keep this short, and i hope im not to explicit, or too confusing. Basically i know im gay, and have known like f...
A. 14 June 2009: You indeed may be homosexual, but based on several things said, you indicate possible bisexuality. In my experience, some apparent lesbians can be equally pleasured by a man who really knows how to perform cunnilingus at length - followed by vaginal ... (read in full...)
Guys, are erection (or lack of) cases like this common?
Q. My guy has had sex with only one girl before me. Lately he claims he can nolonger get erections for other girls other than me. Yeah, he realised that coz he has tried to cheat on me severally :-( While am happy he cant erect for others am worried ...
A. 14 June 2009: As we sometimes say in Texas, you are being played like a cheap violin.... (read in full...)
Wondering how people's 'first times' were?
Q. Okay so I've been awfully curious about how different first times having sex has gone. This isn't like an advice needed thing. I would just like to hear how male and female first times went. Did you regret it after? What made you feel like you were ...
A. 5 June 2009: Okay, here's truth from a much older American male. It was back in the day when drive-in movies were still very popular. I think it was probably in 1961 when I was 14 on a first date with a 15-year-old girl from Garland (near Dallas) Texas. We ... (read in full...)
Is having oral sex unprotected a risk?
Q. i have been having oral sex with a man for the last 4yrs regularly most days the reason for this is he is on medication so cant have intercourse i have been told this is wronge as i could get infected by not protecting our selfs during all ...
A. 1 June 2009: If you have been sharing oral sex for six months or more and no adverse symptoms have surfaced, then I would think that all is okay providing no additional sex partners are involved currently or in the future.... (read in full...)
Why do guys wake up with an erection?
Q. my boyfriend and i were chattin, and we got onto the subject and he said he often wakes up 'fully erected'. my question is, who knows why this happens? maybe its a stupid question but i realised i really dont know why. thanks for any answers!...
A. 1 June 2009: All I know is that, as an approximately 60-year-old man, I have frequently awakened with erections all my life since about seven or eight years old. Some I know are associated with erotic dreams, and I think that some are apparently related to a ... (read in full...)
I find oral sex incredibly boring!
Q. I have been with my partner for 5 years now..and recently he has been asking me to give him oral alot. I dont mind doing it, because i love him and want to satisfy him, but i find it incredibly boring (he says he enjoys it when i do it) but is there ...
A. 31 May 2009: Interesting issue. Allow me to turn the table. I can suggest that giving oral to a woman is equally boring - or somewhat tedious for me - but cunnilingus certainly seems to drive every woman I've ever sexually known up the wall. Many had their ... (read in full...)
Sex and virginity
Q. hey, ok I have a million questions, but ill ask this one question that I have had in my head for a while. im a virgin and I always think guys want to have sex with me because of that but I also think once I tell a guy im a virgin they don't want to ...
A. 30 May 2009: Essentially, I agree with the responders advising that you keep your sexual experience, or lack thereof, to yourself. For now, just be a young lady willing to accompany nice young men for dinner, dancing, a movie or whatever. You have no obligation ... (read in full...)
Orgasms and virginity
Q. i've had orgasms a couple of times before but no one ever touched me and i'm about to have the first sex , i dont know if im a virgin or not, so can having orgasms affect my virginity???? and if i am , will it hurt or bleed?????? im really scared ...
A. 28 May 2009: You are virginal until actually penetrated vaginally by a male penis. Prior orgasms will not hamper sexual intercourse, but may actually help. You quite possibly will not orgasm during first-time intercourse, and the process and enjoyment depends ... (read in full...)
One night stand now I'm afraid he's going to think I do that all the time!
Q. im just out of 41/2 yr relationship i have 2 kids,we knew a yr ago it was over but i thought he would change he didnt so i finally got the courage to ask him to leave.it was hard, 4mths later im moving on.i'v liked a friend of mine for a while now,i ...
A. 27 May 2009: Indeed, do not feel ashamed or anything such. You are a grown woman and we hope all works out well for you and him. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
18 year old girl sending me provocative texts...should I take her up on her offers?
Q. I'm currently 25yo but i've got an 18yo girl proposing all sorts of dirty things to me via text message. I've never even met her but she got my number after i allowed a friend who had no phone cred to use my phone to text her. Would it be wrong of ...
A. 26 May 2009: Quite possibly just a teaser. Why would a girl who has never even seen you want a romp in the sack? But if legit and of legal age, proceed with precaution.... (read in full...)
One night stand now I'm afraid he's going to think I do that all the time!
Q. im just out of 41/2 yr relationship i have 2 kids,we knew a yr ago it was over but i thought he would change he didnt so i finally got the courage to ask him to leave.it was hard, 4mths later im moving on.i'v liked a friend of mine for a while now,i ...
A. 26 May 2009: Do not be so quick to assume what he might think. If he knows that you were previously in a 4-1/2 year relationship, then he should realize that you are not normally so promiscuous. Let him contact you first after this foray and, if you would enjoy ... (read in full...)
Why does vaginal flatulence happen? How can I make my vagina smell nicely?
Q. Why does farting sounds come from vagina even not during sex. will these sounds disappoint boys?pls suggest. also tell me how can i make my vagina smell pleasant?...
A. 24 May 2009: The vaginal flatulence sound during intercourse is fairly normal, perhaps especially in certain positions. In my experience, it occurs during doggy style more often. As a man, I have learned to avoid causing it by occasionally changing my angle of ... (read in full...)
How to make a good wife to my husband during sex time?
Q. How to make a good wife to my husband during bed or sex time?...
A. 22 May 2009: Yes, just enter "Double M on - just about anything on heterosexual activity." A good deal of experience to be shared if interested in a mature perspective.... (read in full...)
How to make a good wife to my husband during sex time?
Q. How to make a good wife to my husband during bed or sex time?...
A. 22 May 2009: Well, that's very much an open question that requires a book in response. Gina and Felina's recommendations are excellent, but the short answer to your question is: "to become increasingly adventurous at every opportunity." If interested, many of my ... (read in full...)
What do people think about casual sex?
Q. I'd like peoples opinions on casual sex (one night stands and friends with benefits). Do you think either are morally ok? I am trying to make my mind up on weither i think they are accetable and would like some opinions. ...
A. 20 May 2009: Well I'm 61-years-old and came of age during the so-called "Sexual Revolution" of the 1960s-70s in America, and of course, I've experienced a good deal of casual sex. After a 20 year faithful marriage, I'm back in the field and have experienced a ... (read in full...)
Why do I only seem to attract the jerks?
Q. I recently broke up with someone because he only wanted to have sex with me. I didnt do anything with him but he is one of many who just want to sleep with me. I dont know why I only attract the jerks because I dont dress like a slut or sleep around ...
A. 19 May 2009: True that I also evolved from immature to manhood. We all should.... (read in full...)
Why do I only seem to attract the jerks?
Q. I recently broke up with someone because he only wanted to have sex with me. I didnt do anything with him but he is one of many who just want to sleep with me. I dont know why I only attract the jerks because I dont dress like a slut or sleep around ...
A. 19 May 2009: Why do you "only seem to attract the jerks?" Simply because most young men in your age range are jerks of some kind - plus boyish, selfish and often stupid.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to just lie there? Do I need to do more?
Q. I’m 34 and my boyfriend is 56. He is only the second man I’ve ever been involved with. I think my first guy was impotent or non-sexual. We slept in the same bad a few times and he just cuddled. He never made a sexual advance nor do I think he ...
A. 19 May 2009: Just to add a bit to previous suggestions, it all boils down to being a passionate woman. It seems that you are fortunate to be with a man still sexually viral who pleases you well. Please him in return, and become increasingly more adventurous. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to just lie there? Do I need to do more?
Q. I’m 34 and my boyfriend is 56. He is only the second man I’ve ever been involved with. I think my first guy was impotent or non-sexual. We slept in the same bad a few times and he just cuddled. He never made a sexual advance nor do I think he ...
A. 18 May 2009: I'll go along with everything "misswalston" suggested.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman sits on your lap?
Q. I was sitting on a chair recently at a ramp party, and this girl sits on my lap. And she said she did it because her feet hurts. There are a few chairs. She proceeds to give a compliment like "your hair is hot." So, instead of trying to 'agree...
A. 18 May 2009: Well it that had occurred with me, I would approach that with a come-on and a hard-on.... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to give a good blow job?
Q. i've never thought about giving my boyfriend a blow job before until last night he asked me to give him one. i had no idea what to do. any tips on how to give a good blow job?? thanks xxx...
A. 17 May 2009: Perhaps have him sit back comfortably in a chair or on the couch and position between his parted legs. Begin by alternately stroking the shaft and gently massaging his balls until he is very erect. You are "teasing" him to start with, then grasp his ... (read in full...)
Why does having sex with someone make me start to have feelings?
Q. Why does having sex with someone make me start to have feelings? I've been having a sexual relationship with a guy I hardly know off and on for a year and sometimes I feel like I love him I know this can't be true just wondering why sex causes that ...
A. 14 May 2009: Gee, I think that is quite naturally a human inclination to develop fond feelings for another person with whom one shares the most intimate of interactions.
Personally, and as a man, I cannot imagine having NO fondness for a woman who pleases me a... (read in full...)
No sex with me but looking at porn
Q. Hi. I've never done this before, but then again...I've never had the sort of problem that I have now. I am 26, and have a bf that is 28. When things started out, they were good. My bf seemed really into me. Lately, (and we've been together a ...
A. 13 May 2009: Your happiness must be your priority. It is not at all selfish to discard what makes you unhappy. It may be difficult to find a man today who does not occasionally view porn, and that can be acceptable to some degree, but not when the man prefers ... (read in full...)
No sex with me but looking at porn
Q. Hi. I've never done this before, but then again...I've never had the sort of problem that I have now. I am 26, and have a bf that is 28. When things started out, they were good. My bf seemed really into me. Lately, (and we've been together a ...
A. 12 May 2009: Well I'm a much older advisor who did not have the ubiquitous access to pornography of today, but it seems that porno addiction is now rampant among young adult men, in particular. It also seems the reliance affects sexual relationships with wives ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to swallow?
Q. Hi, I am 19, and my boyfriend is 21. We have been dating for a long time (almost 4 years) and we have recently started experimenting orally. He says that the sexiest thing would be if he could watch me swallow afterwards. I do enjoy perform...
A. 11 May 2009: Well, as "niki20" suggests, fruit and fruit drinks help improve flavor, but sperm and semen is typically rather salty and sometimes bitter, I'm told. I've released thousands of times for ladies over some 40 years or so, and only one ever complained ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty about losing my virginity?
Q. Hello. I turned 16 in April. i lost my virginity summer of '08. i was 15. i am so confused on whether or not to feel guilty or pleased or secrative or URGH i just don't know. i told my mother today that i've had sex. the thing is- when it happ...
A. 10 May 2009: You cannot change it. What is done is done, so feeling negative or worrying about it does you no good whatsoever. Just be selective in the future and try to keep your business to yourself. ... (read in full...)
Guys: What does it mean to you if she wants to swallow?
Q. Question for the guys. If a girl wants to swallow your cum, what does it mean to you? Is is special in an emotional way or purely sexual? ...
A. 9 May 2009: There are always opinions of course. As one of the older advisors here, I can only offer about 35-40 years of experience receiving oral to climax since about 1967.
But you ask whether a man's enjoyment with a cum-swallowing female is emotional or s... (read in full...)
Did she just use me for sex?
Q. Ok This is really bugging me now so I despratley need some help please. I'll try cut a long story short. Basically I have been mates with this girl for 9 years and we met up back in March and she was engadged to get married but then she said sh...
A. 9 May 2009: My best advice would be to avoid becoming too emotionally involved quickly with any young woman these days. Although you have have been friends for a good while, the sex was apparently recent and short-lived. So . . . you have enjoyed her ... (read in full...)
We have been together for 20 years and I am looking for something new in the sex department, any suggestions?
Q. I have been having a sexual relationship with this guy for over 20 years. I know he is totally happy with what I do, but I am really kinda looking for something new to do. I love giving him oral sex, but I need something new. I've tried different ...
A. 8 May 2009: If you have not tried it, and you said you love giving oral, then you might add a prostate rub. It usually causes a bigger and more intense ejaculation and climax during oral. Respond if more detail needed.... (read in full...)
What does a climax feel like?
Q. Can someone explain to me what climaxing and orgasming feels like so i know if it has happened to me...
A. 7 May 2009: Naturally, I agree with the previous responses. When you get there, you will know how it feels, and you will then know why we "do it." Best wishes.... (read in full...)
Dating over two years, left without a word, should I let him go or find out why?
Q. What does it mean when a guy you been dating for 2 years and couple of weeks left without saying goodbye? Should i let him go or find out?...
A. 4 May 2009: Probably let it go.... (read in full...)
I think he's faking it and I don't know how to approach this with him
Q. Help here please I am in a relationship with a man and we are both in our mid 60.s we have sex on a regular basis but the last couple of times we have ,i think he has been faking it and i'm wondering if i should say something to him about this or ...
A. 3 May 2009: Yes, older men (I'm 60-something) can have issues, such as erectile dysfunction and inability to ejaculate at times. For some the issues may be chronic, but I think that most men with such problems can still enjoy sexual activities.
The causes can ... (read in full...)
He had sex with me and I haven't heard anything from him!
Q. Hello. I have been seeing a guy for three months. He is 38, divorced with four children (they don't live with him)I am 35 no kids. I like him a lot, he told me that he really liked me and said he wanted to take things slow (despite the fact that he ...
A. 3 May 2009: As usual I fairly well agree with "satindesire" and others that you are very likely a "conquest" and possibly one in a string of his post-divorce affairs to generally enjoy freedom and get-some on occasion. That's pretty much a synopsis of my own ... (read in full...)
Is he tired of "us" already?
Q. My partner and I used to have such fun together, but it very quickly went quiet. He's very busy and has a lot of pressure on him with his work. We have a new baby together. We're nice to each other and very rarely rowe. We had a break for 10 months ...
A. 1 May 2009: How can we possibly know? With all due respect, only you and he can know whether happiness prevails in the relationship. But you possibly should give the man some slack here. In Texas we call that "standing by your man" when times are tough as well ... (read in full...)
Recently self conscious about my labia
Q. I'm a female in my late 30s who has recently noticed that my labia looks different from others in adult movies or pictures. My lips hang down a bit. I'm not tight like those I've seen in pictures. Before someone asks if it's from excessive use ...
A. 29 April 2009: Must totally agree withe anonymous poster that men generally do not care about that. Just don't worry anymore and best wishes.... (read in full...)
I just found out about my boyfriend's threesome! I'm shocked!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and we are very much in love. we have our ups and downs like most relationships but we have gotten through bad moments and are enjoying time together. we've recently been away and had the most amazing ...
A. 29 April 2009: It is entirely possible that your boyfriend's threesome was just the two guys having at the girl, as he told you. There indeed may have been no contact between the guys. Forty seven years ago, I also shared a gal with a friend in a tryst of ... (read in full...)
School friends pressuring me to have sex!
Q. Just began a relationship with my boyfriend to weeks ago. We were mucking around and he lay on top of me. I was fine with it when it happened. Afterwards, I started thinking that he might get the wrong idea. :S Everyone at school is trying to find ...
A. 28 April 2009: You should wait as long as you wish, and I totally agree with "HereToHelpx," in that it is not anyone else's business. ... (read in full...)
Worried he won't enjoy oral sex
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently tried performing oral sex on a new guy I'm seeing. Having never been with a guy that takes TOO LONG to orgasm, I'm worried that he's not enjoying it. Eventually he ends up climaxing, but it seems to me like he's forcing ...
A. 28 April 2009: It is quite possibly just nerves and newness, as "Ginalolabridga" suggests. As a man, I have occasionally been unsure about a new girlfriend's expectations when she begins performing oral. And now, as a much older man who has experienced thousands ... (read in full...)
Where is his G spot???
Q. Ok, i need help with helping my boyfriend to find that all elusive g-spot - i dont think its that elusive but there we go. We've been together about 2 months and the sex is great apart from i havent cum yet. I have absolutely no troubles by myse...
A. 26 April 2009: The G-spot is quite real, and part of the clitoral complex. Although most of the sexually sensitive nerves in the female are located in the clitoris, the matter is much more complicated than that. Sensitivity exists throughout the vulva, including ... (read in full...)
Some sex questions!
Q. A few questions. First of all, my boyfriend has never been able to bring me to orgasm, either through masturbation, oral sex, or penetration, although I frequently bring myself to orgasm by masturbating. It's not like he isn't trying or doesn'...
A. 26 April 2009: One of your comments says it all. "He just doesn't know what he's doing down there." Not unusual - most young dudes are equally clueless. My suggestion, similar to that of friends "satindesire" and "Ginalolabridga," is to be a bit more insistent ... (read in full...)
Multiple orgasms
Q. Ok, odd question here. For the last month or so I have been having multiple orgasms a lot closer together than before. I would always have more than one every time we would make love, but as I said for the last month or so, I have been having ...
A. 26 April 2009: You are a fortunate gal. Either you are naturally highly orgasmic, or your lover is unusually skilled and knowledgeable in pleasing a woman. It can certainly be accomplished, but most young men have little to no idea how to make it happen for their ... (read in full...)
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