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Multiple orgasms
Q. Ok, odd question here. For the last month or so I have been having multiple orgasms a lot closer together than before. I would always have more than one every time we would make love, but as I said for the last month or so, I have been having ...
A. 26 April 2009: You are a fortunate gal. Either you are naturally highly orgasmic, or your lover is unusually skilled and knowledgeable in pleasing a woman. It can certainly be accomplished, but most young men have little to no idea how to make it happen for their ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for clitoral stimulation to hurt?
Q. Is it normal for clitoral stimulation to hurt? It might sound weird, but I'll be totally turned on, and when my boyfriend starts messing with my clit it hurts to the point where I have to tell him to stop. ...
A. 25 April 2009: Preferred sexual stimulation of a woman requires patience and a degree of skill and understanding. A man who applies clitoral stimulation too soon may well cause irritation or pain. Read my posts on cunnilingus, clitoris or orgasm for descriptive ... (read in full...)
Why does he need porn if he has me?
Q. Iv'e just found out my boyfriend has been watching pornography and i feel betrayed and inadequate if he loves me like he says he does why does he need to look at porn?...
A. 23 April 2009: When I was coming up, back in the 1950s and 60s, porn was unavailable or difficult to access. Today, it is everywhere online and easily obtained. It can become addictive for a man, in particular, and in my opinion can affect relationships. If his ... (read in full...)
How can we be sure that sex helps in establish closeness and intimacy?
Q. I have a nice boyfriend. I want our relationship to become closer and establish intimacy. Is kissing and sex a good way of becoming closer in a relationship? Is kissing and sex a good way of establishing intimacy? How can be used as a way of esta...
A. 21 April 2009: In a nutshell, of course.... (read in full...)
If two virgins have sex, (and no protection is used), does that mean that neither will get a sexually tramsmitted disease?
Q. If you are a virgin, you can't have a sti, as you have never has sex, right?? So, In theory, if two virgins have sex, (and no protection is used), does that mean that neither will get a sexually tramsmitted disease? Please answer!!! I need t...
A. 21 April 2009: Well I'm again the social liberal here, meaning that despite my political conservatism, I'm unconvinced that the Western world is replete with disease-infected individuals. I've been screwing around for more than 45 years without contracting any ... (read in full...)
2 months dating too soon for oral sex?
Q. I am 20 and he is 23 and we have been together for a month and a half. We havent done anything sexual even though he really wants to. I told him that I am not ready to have sex because I have been really hurt in previous relationships because of it ...
A. 20 April 2009: Everyone is different - either ready to go a few days or a week later, or requiring a long-term commitment along with a ring. Such is the expanse of potential relationships. Do what you enjoy, and enjoy all your life. DoubleM... (read in full...)
Senior problems regarding ejaculation!
Q. I have just started a new relationship, we are both in our 60s. We are deeply in love and extremely passionate, however, he can't ejaculate. He is on mediction for hight blood pressure. So when we make love we just go on an on because nothing ...
A. 20 April 2009: Beta blockers, notably Atenolol, are blood pressure medications notorious for causing erectile or ejaculation problems. ... (read in full...)
Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love!
Q. Does the best sex ever mean he truly loves me? Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, or whatever you want, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love, and not JUST the physical stimulation. My current boyfriend is by far ...
A. 18 April 2009: Well, the guy sounds like a player to me, rather than totally in love with you. Totally in love means "only you" and that is obviously not the case here, based on your posting. How many others might there be? Or how much more often with his ongoing ... (read in full...)
Sex! Where can we go and not get caught?
Q. I want to have (protected)sex with my bf tomorrow. But we can't go to my or his house. Any suggestions to where we should go and not get caught? And if we do get caught by the police and since I am 18 and he is 19 will we get in troubl...
A. 18 April 2009: You are both apparently of consenting age, depending upon the state, but if your boyfriend cannot afford a moderately priced motel or hotel room, then you may want to reconsider your choice here. It is possible to be arrested for such activities in ... (read in full...)
Do people stop using condoms in a committed relationship?
Q. I am a foreigner dating an American and in the country I came from it is quite natural if you are in a committed relationship to drop condoms and using other types of birth control such as loop or pills. The other day my boyfriend said t...
A. 15 April 2009: Well my perspective may be different than most because I'm an older man and the majority of my exploits were prior to HIV and the big STD scares since the late 1970s and early 80s to the present. If one is involved with healthy, decent people, I ... (read in full...)
Regret and worry over one night in hotel room
Q. I tend to be OCD and I worry over everything. A year ago I met a guy online who seemed pretty cool. We got into some sexy talk and talked a couple times via instant message. He sent me a picture of himself straight away and usually that bugs me,...
A. 14 April 2009: Hmmm, well, that sounds a lot like some of my encounters over the past two years as a single, older man in Texas. lol Just a few, though. Despite faithful marriages in the past, I'm socially permissive when not involved.
Possibly much like your... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?
Q. I'm 18 and still a virgin, but I live in a dorm and people here all just, they pretty much go after me and talk with each other about how I'm scared to have sex just cuz I havent ever done it. Is there something wrong with me being a virgin at 18?...
A. 14 April 2009: It strongly indicates that you are an intelligent woman with high personal moral standards, self-respect and discretion. Nothing wrong with that. ... (read in full...)
17 guys...do you think that's a lot?
Q. To my knowledge every female makes a list with every guy she's ever been intimate with. Well I was bored and decided to make mine. And over the course of 8 years I've been with 17 guys. Do you think that's a lot?...
A. 14 April 2009: To each their own. By societal standards, I'm probably a slut of a man considering the numbers, but as "bleedingheart" noted, there is often a double standard. I'm much older - my youth was the 1960s and 70s. Whatever, but some potential husband in ... (read in full...)
Was this a female orgasm?
Q. hey im 17 and i masturbate but havent been doing it for long. i get to urge to pee and then my feet start to tingle and i have small contractions around the stomach and every time i touch my clit it is very sensitive after this. by the way i am ...
A. 12 April 2009: It's undoubtedly getting very close. Crying out is not necessarily a prerequisite, and your description is quite typical of a near or small orgasm for a young woman. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him what I like? Or will that make me weird and slutty?
Q. Ok so this is kind of a weird question, but here goes. I'm about to have sex with my guy for the first time. I'm a virgin, but I've masturbated before, and I know exactly how to make myself have an orgasm. I want my first time to be pleasurable, ...
A. 12 April 2009: Hopefully, there will be plenty of foreplay prior to any attempt at intercourse. Foreplay can include the romantic atmosphere, massage, kissing, embracing, fondling, light teasing, breast nibbling, fingering, cunnilingus (oral) and more. Somewhere ... (read in full...)
Do guys behave like this when they want more than friendship or just friendship ?
Q. a guy flirted with me non verbal... but I did not give in right away. after some days he became my friend. but I would not speak to him. because he too would just look not talk to me. i then eventually backed off. certain days he would brush agai...
A. 11 April 2009: Okay girls. Let's try to settle this with an older man perspective. Most guys are a lot more insecure and shy than you may think. In my youth, when still nice looking (lol), the girls that got me were the ones who took the initiative. They ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my gf masturbates?
Q. Ok. I am 14 and I masturbate usually once a day or every other day. I have a girlfriend who I am crazy about. And I want to know if she masturbates. How can I find out?...
A. 11 April 2009: Most everyone does that. Nothing to discuss or raise concern. Assume it and move on.... (read in full...)
I feel I'm just a splat of paint in a white house. Everybody else is gorgeous but me!
Q. OMG, im soo insecure...i hate my self im soo depressed and it sucks!! yeh i have alot of friends, but the thing is, all of my guy friends are so much better looking than me...they're ruggedly handsome, heck they're freaking gorgeous!! why do i...
A. 11 April 2009: Well the "Old Guy" nailed it very well. You are actually too young to worry about such, but I understand. Just realize that there are many more plain, but sweet and wonderful, girls than those Barbie doll types. So . . . love and lust will be ... (read in full...)
Do guys behave like this when they want more than friendship or just friendship ?
Q. a guy flirted with me non verbal... but I did not give in right away. after some days he became my friend. but I would not speak to him. because he too would just look not talk to me. i then eventually backed off. certain days he would brush agai...
A. 11 April 2009: Sure he's interested. Just go along if you're curious. See where it goes.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him what I like? Or will that make me weird and slutty?
Q. Ok so this is kind of a weird question, but here goes. I'm about to have sex with my guy for the first time. I'm a virgin, but I've masturbated before, and I know exactly how to make myself have an orgasm. I want my first time to be pleasurable, ...
A. 11 April 2009: Well, I basically disagree with some of the other responses, "Zarathustra" makes a good point. In my opinion, it's good for a woman to simply let the man guide the experience the first time. After all, this is his moment to prove himself as a good ... (read in full...)
I don't know anything about having sex really. Can anyone help me?
Q. Okay, I'm 17 about to turn 8 in July. I dated my ex for 4 years and we just broke up in november.. It was really hard on me. I have become depressed and just broken. He hated me for the longest time and didn't talk to me, for reasons.. Well we talk...
A. 10 April 2009: I'm not sure that it would be wise of you to surrender your virginity to an ex-boyfriend who now requires sex for hanging out. You will not likely harness his attention very long after you give in to his demands. ... (read in full...)
Her past FWB, it's killing me...
Q. Hello. I'll cut right to the chase. I am falling in love with this girl i've been dating for 5 months. She told me she is falling for me. She is everything I'm looking for in a woman...elegant, smart, driven, charming, sexy, successful. One nigh...
A. 10 April 2009: Much ado about nothing. I must agree with the other responders that your lady seems quite reasonable in these times. Perhaps she would be better off with a man who would not hold her fairly tame past against her. ... (read in full...)
Cant get my boyfriend to come...what am I doing wrong?
Q. No matter what I do it takes my boyfriend ages to come or he doesn't come at all. We do every position known to man, heaps of foreplay (at least half an hour of mutual kissing, touching masturbation), I give him oral sex for ages but I just canno...
A. 9 April 2009: Well, I must agree that you should ask him about this. He knows why and should explain.... (read in full...)
Selfish one night stand. Could I get pregnant?
Q. Ok the other night I decided to go to out with my sister and ended up finding a cute guy.So anyways took him back home was drunk and horny and slept with him using no protection and I am not on any type of bc,I told him that. He never came in me a...
A. 7 April 2009: Consider that a lot of couples have trouble conceiving even while trying. On the other hand, it does not take a lot of sperm to fertilize. Supposedly, pre-cum can possibly contain some early risers, but you should probably not fret over this unless ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cum during sex, the intense feelings scare me and stress me out.
Q. I've been having sex for the past 2 years and as far as I can tell I think I've only came once or twice. The other night he was fingering me and it felt nice for a bit, then it seemed to get a bit intense and I couldn't tell if it was hurting me or ...
A. 6 April 2009: Well, I think that you are still very young and that you are not very comfortable with this boyfriend nor the surroundings. You may be fixating on squeaky bed and such. You will do fine under better circumstances. ... (read in full...)
I'm 56 and searching for the right answers!
Q. i was married 27 yrs, divorced, regret it. remarried, a man that is an alcoholic and smokes about 3 packs a day. he shows no interest in me but that i bring home my paycheck and he has someone to keep the house from feeling lonely when he comes ...
A. 6 April 2009: Well, I'm about the flipside of you - long married, but not remrried. Anyway, it's simple - if not happy, you probably have to move on. ... (read in full...)
Questions on porn and sex... Guys? What am I doing wrong?
Q. GUYS! I have a question... or two. I am a very attractive girl, I'm thin, tall, awesome legs and a great body, I'm in shape, but not crazy gym rat style. I think that the only down side I have is I'm small chested, but it fits my frame. My boyfr...
A. 4 April 2009: Well as usual, "satindesire" said just about all needed here, but it seems your guy is hooked on his personal form of sexual existence, possibility excluding you much of his available time. That porno trash can be very addictive. Generally, do not ... (read in full...)
How do I blow my new man's mind in bed?
Q. I'm starting a new relationship, and I want to know how to blow my mans mind in bed. He is always on top, and I want to go on top and show him a good time. Any tips?...
A. 4 April 2009: Okay, well why be self conscious? If it feels good and doesn't hurt anybody, just do it.... (read in full...)
I'm loose. Will my future husband be put off by this?
Q. Dear Angony Aunt, I am a 17 year-old high school senior. Last summer I lost my technical virginity. Since then I have had sex with six guys.I start college in the fall and I expect to bed a different guy every Friday and Saturday night.Do you thi...
A. 4 April 2009: In addition to the substantial risks mentioned by "satindesire," your intended sexual activities would certainly paint you as a slut to most men. You are free to conduct your lifestyle as you please, but the reputation and eventual past you describe ... (read in full...)
How do I blow my new man's mind in bed?
Q. I'm starting a new relationship, and I want to know how to blow my mans mind in bed. He is always on top, and I want to go on top and show him a good time. Any tips?...
A. 4 April 2009: Well, my advice is to just do it. If you have previously done woman-on-top, then you know what to do. If inexperienced that way, it's really quite easy and natural. Several variations are possible and experimentation is encouraged. ... (read in full...)
What does a casual relationship mean?
Q. Hi, i would just like to know if someone says they what a causal relationship, what do they mean by this?...
A. 3 April 2009: These days, I think that "casual relationship" tends to mean something like "friend with benefits," usually meaning a "no strings attached" sexual relationship of some sort. In some cases, the relationship may begin purely sexual but may evolve into ... (read in full...)
Is it true that 45% of women hate having sex?
Q. is it true that some woman dont have any sexual feelings?? as some men off course my wife doesn't like sex she is sexually dead. i am afraid i couldn't find a better word. the problem is that i love her, i am not naif and i know how to turn ...
A. 2 April 2009: In my opinion, your figures are bogus. Most every woman treasures and appreciates sex, or better stated, the art of making love. All simply need a loving and knowledgeable partner who sill has energy and capability.... (read in full...)
I feel like I ruined my life and disappointed everyone
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend on and off for 4 years. I THOUGHT we had a great relationship until a few months ago. We had alot of unprotective sex (he knew I wasn't on the pill but said sex felt beter with out a condom) I'm now 18 weeks ...
A. 2 April 2009: You have not "ruined your life." Perhaps you made mistakes, including picking a lousy young man for a boyfriend. You have a lot of life ahead and plenty of time to gain wisdom and improve. We all make some mistakes. ... (read in full...)
He won't give oral unless I shave and I really don't want to!
Q. For a while when my boyfriend and i started dating i went down on him almost everytime we had sex and in between, expecting to get some oral lovin as well, but i got nothing. When i finally asked him to go down on me he said he doesn't really like ...
A. 2 April 2009: In my opinion, oral pleasures should go both ways, so I support your feelings. I think his attitude is way over stated and he possibly is just selfish. All a guy has to do is spread the lips (labia) with his fingers and trimmed pubes are not a ... (read in full...)
How many women actually orgasm during vaginal sex?
Q. I've heard it's possible, but that it doesn't happen very often because it's hard to stimulate the clitoral complex this way. I've still never had sex, though I've orgasmed before through fingering, but I'm just wondering, are fingering and oral sex ...
A. 1 April 2009: It is highly possible to help most any woman orgasm just with hands (fingers). Adding tongue and lips must raise the probability to about 95 percent or better, in my opinion. It just takes some degree of attraction toward the man, and quite a bit of ... (read in full...)
When do you stop while having oral sex?
Q. i would like to know some more about oral sex. when giving a blowjob, do you stop when he cums? after he blows his load, and i swallow. is it done ? like, am i suppose to stop? ive never known, and it just feels weird. someone help !...
A. 1 April 2009: Yes, it is pretty well done once he ejaculates, and as "damluvaam" mentioned, the penis tip may be extremely sensitive immediately afterward. Personally, I prefer a woman to back away for ten or 15 seconds, then stroke me and lick up the extra few ... (read in full...)
How long does sperm stay alive?
Q. Ok, I need to know the real answer to my question.. I keep hearing different things and I'm unsure. If a couple uses the pull-out method (cum in your belly and around the vajina). You go to the restroom and wipe but it goes in and around your vaji...
A. 1 April 2009: Sperm can survive up to about three days in the perfect environment, such as inside the uterus, but dies rapidly outside. Nevertheless, your method is very high risk. As others mentioned, pre-cum usually contains sperm although it is primarily a ... (read in full...)
Handjobs instead of oral sex?
Q. okay 1st off idk if this is weird but i love giving my boyfriend blowjobs. not just bc i know he wants it but because i just love doing it and it massively turns me on. but anyway what i want to know is, how often is it "normal" to give them? cause ...
A. 31 March 2009: As long as your boyfriend is also pleasing you with orgasms, then pleasing him with your blowjobs is fine. As "Cerberus" mentions, he will probably never get bored with that, and there are a variety of ways to perform fellatio. But you should also ... (read in full...)
He's never done oral on me..he doesn't want to?
Q. i give my boyfriend oral and he always comes but he hasn't done it for me - we haven't had many chances to do it since i started giving him oral so maybe that's why. but assuming he never does it back, would this be unfair? because i've never ...
A. 31 March 2009: Of course it is unfair, and probably selfish. I'll agree with "satindesire" as usual, you should talk with him about your sex life, which seems mainly "his" sex life, but oral pleasures are a delight that should be both given and received.... (read in full...)
Why do women prefer being on the top?
Q. Well, i have a simple question which i couldn't find the answer by myself. I hope your answers will help me... Do the women have more pleasure and have orgasm when they are dominant? I mean when they are riding or when they are controlling the ...
A. 30 March 2009: It's s great ride for her and i've never had any problem with it. Do you?... (read in full...)
Is this what orgasm feels like?
Q. i was wondering if i had an orgasm. last night my boyfriend was giving me oral and half way during it felt like the room was spinning and my cheeks got hot and i felt like i had to pee and then i got this amazing sensation in my stomach and vagina ...
A. 30 March 2009: Yep.... (read in full...)
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