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How can I maintain a healthy relationship?
Q. So me and my ex girlfriend have been together for 3 years now. We split up recently because our relationship went downhill, mainly because of me. At first, our relationship was perfect, about halfway, I started letting things that happened in my ...
A. 15 November 2009: We did not suggest that you "stay away completely." Nobody said that. You may be someone who overreacts to suggestions. Just cool it a bit, okay? ... (read in full...)
I'm confident in life, but shy with men
Q. I'm not shy around people - I'm actually very open and loud. People tell me I'm funny and I have a lot going for me. I feel like I have a lot going for me! I don't think there is anything wrong with me. Most importantly, I think I'm friendly...
A. 13 November 2009: Some of "guys" are actually the passive type, particularly if some women consider us to be fairly attractive. Just being honest here. It is often the more gregarious women that some desirable men end up with. It usually just takes one good come-on ... (read in full...)
Why do we watch our loved ones sleep?
Q. What do you think is the reason why people will watch their loved one sleep? I think it's sweet, but I was wondering why they do that?...
A. 13 November 2009: I'll bet something like 90% of the folks who spend much time watching lovers sleep are female, and yes, it is sweet. In my opinion, guys probably spend very little time watching their wife or girlfriend sleeping. We have to get things done, don't ya ... (read in full...)
How can I maintain a healthy relationship?
Q. So me and my ex girlfriend have been together for 3 years now. We split up recently because our relationship went downhill, mainly because of me. At first, our relationship was perfect, about halfway, I started letting things that happened in my ...
A. 13 November 2009: Well, we are not there , don't know her or you. My advice is as stated. Stay as close as she will allow and never be pushy or even jealous. That will not be easy, but she is in charge now. ... (read in full...)
What do men find most attractive about women?
Q. what are men really attracted to? now as a young woman i am curious do men like skinny women or do they like a woman with some meat? what is the most attractive aspect of a womans body? do men like curvy or a stick? ...
A. 12 November 2009: Allow me to add comment a bit more specific to your question, which seems to be more about physical appearance or physical nature. Generally, I think that most men are least attracted to obese or overweight women, which is likely the same preference ... (read in full...)
How can I maintain a healthy relationship?
Q. So me and my ex girlfriend have been together for 3 years now. We split up recently because our relationship went downhill, mainly because of me. At first, our relationship was perfect, about halfway, I started letting things that happened in my ...
A. 12 November 2009: Well, it seems that you have learned a great deal about life and relationships. For that, you are to be commended. But apparently, there are wounds that are difficult to heal. It has been said that time heals all wounds. It can, but time takes time. ... (read in full...)
I'm waiting till I find the one
Q. Some of my friends have already have sex- some have boyfriends, others are married. I'm waiting until I find "the one." I don't necessarily have to be married, I just want it to be special. I don't know if it's the way I was raised or what, but it ...
A. 12 November 2009: There is absolutely nothing wrong with your decision to wait. It is quite admirable. But if you are nearing your 30th birthday party, as indicated, it may be good to begin seeking a mate. As to your question, "Is having sex really a big deal?" Well, ... (read in full...)
Why does he prefer masturbation over a beautiful loving wife he says he loves?
Q. I need some good professional or exact advice from a professioal or from someone that has gone through what I am going through! I have a no sex marriage, when I no sex I mean no sex, in any way, touch or any form at all whats so ever. My husband ...
A. 12 November 2009: First of all, it is true that men in their 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond may masturbate, as do women, but usually in addition to sexual relations with their wife or one or more girlfriend(s). While normal to some degree, it is usually more of an addition ... (read in full...)
What are the views on poligamy?
Q. I see nothing wrong with it as long as the one that is married to the two or more is spending equal time between them and not playing favorites or compairing each other or trying to force one to act like the others. In other religions or cultures ...
A. 12 November 2009: Illegal in America. What more to know? But if your wife does not mind you having a mistress (girlfriend), then what is the problem? You simply cannot legally be married to both of them. You can legally live with five or a dozen women in America if ... (read in full...)
How do I find a safe sex buddy?
Q. Bit of a strange question. I am a divorced woman and have been single for about 12 months. I have a healthy sex drive and masturbate regularly. I have not had sex with a man since splitting up from my husband and is really missing it. ...
A. 12 November 2009: Well, I would not entirely rule out the Internet, but I'm age 62 and in America. More specifically, in Texas, I have scored with several quality ladies, some of whom were seeking the same kind of arrangement you mention. Or perhaps it was they ... (read in full...)
What do men find most attractive about women?
Q. what are men really attracted to? now as a young woman i am curious do men like skinny women or do they like a woman with some meat? what is the most attractive aspect of a womans body? do men like curvy or a stick? ...
A. 12 November 2009: Lazy Guy, we're not supposed to admit that. LOL... (read in full...)
Does a man NEED sex to be healthy?
Q. Want to know if a man can do without sex and be healthy?...
A. 12 November 2009: In my opinion, sexual activity is a normal, healthy human (and animal, insect, etc.) activity that does indeed contribute to overall physical health. It appears that only "Vintage64" mentioned the "getting the heart racing" factor, and others ... (read in full...)
High Maintenance...
Q. i need some advice mainly from men.. but women please can you give your opinions too.. are men really put off with high maintenance girls? and whenever they classify a girl as high maintenance what exactly do they mean? Personally i always like my...
A. 12 November 2009: In my opinion, high maintenance does not refer to women who, as you say, keep themselves looking the best they can or "care about what way they look."
In my mind, the term implies a woman who requires their man to provide the most expensive meal... (read in full...)
I would already be engaged to her if it wasnt for her past! How do I overcome this?
Q. I'll try to keep it short. In June 07 I met a girl at a party and ending up sleeping with her that night. Both of us were sober. For the rest of the summer we hooked up here and there - f buddies. About a month after we first met my good friend told ...
A. 11 November 2009: Wow. Great question and some intelligent thinking, and I can understand your dilemma. At your age, however, these considerations are much more important than they may be later in life.
Let me offer one simple example. This year I turned 62-y... (read in full...)
What do men find most attractive about women?
Q. what are men really attracted to? now as a young woman i am curious do men like skinny women or do they like a woman with some meat? what is the most attractive aspect of a womans body? do men like curvy or a stick? ...
A. 11 November 2009: We are all different. To each their own, but attitude is sometimes more important than appearance or physical stature.... (read in full...)
Do men enjoy giving women oral sex?
Q. Right then... 'kay. I am sixteen and my bf has just turned 17 and is 11 months older than me, and we are just getting into the whole sex thing, and I was wondering: Do guys actually like going down on girls? because I've got a friend and he said...
A. 11 November 2009: One additional suggestion, and past studies have supported the notion that a rather high percentage of women actually go through life never experiencing a full organism via vaginal intercourse alone. While they may experience some degree of ... (read in full...)
Do men enjoy giving women oral sex?
Q. Right then... 'kay. I am sixteen and my bf has just turned 17 and is 11 months older than me, and we are just getting into the whole sex thing, and I was wondering: Do guys actually like going down on girls? because I've got a friend and he said...
A. 11 November 2009: Some men love doing it for several reasons, and I've enjoyed providing oral satisfaction to wives or girlfriends (when not married) for some 47 years. Why? I'll try to explain, although I do not pretend to speak for all men. 1. For most women, a... (read in full...)
If a man "bucks" during sex, what does it mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy bucks durning sex? Probbly a stupied question and one I should know but i'm just curious....
A. 10 November 2009: Huh?... (read in full...)
What should I do next with this co-worker?
Q. Where should I go from here. I have never had a boyfriend but I have been having some fun kissing a guy I work with, for experience really, we have both decided that we want to date but as I have never dated anyone before I am scared because we ...
A. 10 November 2009: Accept a weekend dinner date at your convenience and near your residence first, and preferably with no further commitment than a goodnight kiss. Do not admit him to your home. A gentleman with true interest in you will accept those terms. Meanwhile, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with a girl when we'd just started dating. Is this an issue?
Q. my bofriend and i have been dating for a little over 8 months now and i recently found out 3 days after he asked me out on a date he slept with another girl should i confront him about it or leave it alone since me and him are living together now ...
A. 10 November 2009: Totally in agreement with "CaringGuy." ... (read in full...)
What other rational explanation is there other than cheating???
Q. Hi Aunts, I have just discovered that my husband has had a 'relationship' with a co-worker. I found out from phone bills, texting and calls. He swears that it was not physical but I also know that he bought her some jewellery (a heart pendant)...
A. 10 November 2009: Unless you guys are very wealthy, I cannot imagine any other situation for a married man providing a coworker jewelry and other goodies than sexual favors or a deeper relationship. Even if I was filthy rich, I would not help an employee or coworker ... (read in full...)
I know nothing about sex! Help
Q. hi. i'm 15. the problem is that i know actually nothing about sex. i know very little about girl's body, no clear idea about sexual intercourse. i'm not easy with girls at all. it seems that most of my friends masturbate, but i don't, in fact i ...
A. 10 November 2009: Being innocent is good, but curiosity is understandable. There is plenty of information online, including on this Web site. Check out the sites suggested by
"Legioness" and then keep going. It's better to know than stumble forward without a clue... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is the only woman I've slept with. Will I regret having missed out when I'm 50?
Q. I have been with my GF since I was 18. Now I'm 28. I've never had sex with anyone else. Lately, I'm finding myself very tempted by many women I see and finding myself capable of getting their attention. When I'm 50, will I regret never being wi...
A. 10 November 2009: So . . you're thinking of jeopardizing a ten year relationship due to a few temptresses. Whether married or whatever, we men will always be tempted. If you're perfectly comfortable losing what you've had, go ahead. That's why I think she says that ... (read in full...)
How long after hooking up should I wait to contact her?
Q. Last Night I went out with this girl and after some drinks we came back to my place and had amazing sex. In the morning I drove her home and she gave me her number. Now I'm wondering when I should contact her again. Two female friends of mine say...
A. 9 November 2009: Give her a call within a day or two. If she somehow expresses that she is happy to hear from you, then the relationship may continue. If you like her, why not? ... (read in full...)
What does first time sex feel like? Are you nervous?
Q. Just curious is all....my girlfriend and I have been going out for two years and the topic of sex was brought up, something we talk about alot, but never actually plan to do it for a long time. So, anyway, what does everyone feel the first time? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Sure, I was nervous the first time! However, that was about 48 years ago. My suspicion is that little has changed, and that first-time sex remains somewhat intimidating, as it should, in most cases other than on a honeymoon. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to masterbate after sex?
Q. I was wondering if it is normal for a man to masturbate after sex, even if he cums? also if a man tells me he loves me dring sex, what does that mean? he only said when we were in the act....
A. 9 November 2009: In my opinion, it would be "unusual," particularly if frequently.... (read in full...)
How can I tell?
Q. dear cupid, I want to have sex with my soon to be husband but the problem is that I dont know if he wants to have sex with me. How can I tell if he wants to have sex with me before the weding? ...
A. 8 November 2009: Dear "Mrs.McMeow,"
Your opinion on men is possibly valid and insightful, but I think we are really quite simple and similar in needs to most any woman. All of us possess a drive to seek satisfaction, in whatever fashion it can be achieved. With... (read in full...)
Embarassing vaginal odor - is this normal?
Q. Ever since I was probably 15 (I'm 19 now) I've had a distinct smell from my vagina. I know it's normal for girls to have an odor or scent down there, but sometimes its strong enough that if I just sit with my legs apart I can smell it. Along with ...
A. 8 November 2009: No, I do not think that a very strong and persistent odor is normal. It sounds like it may be some form of vaginitis, which is typically a yeast infection. Consider it to be a bacterial imbalance, which can often be caused by too much attention to ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be sexually active at 15 years old?
Q. Is is ok to be sexually active with your boyfriend at the age of 15 if you two have only been going out for about 4 months or so??...
A. 8 November 2009: Is it ok to be sexually active at 15 years old?
Well, to be truthful as I strive to be, I was sexual by age 15, but I cannot say that it was all good. I think that early sex can be detrimental to later relationships.
When we are teenagers, and ever... (read in full...)
How can I tell?
Q. dear cupid, I want to have sex with my soon to be husband but the problem is that I dont know if he wants to have sex with me. How can I tell if he wants to have sex with me before the weding? ...
A. 8 November 2009: To "q1605," it will not be all too long for me here, and I'll hope to meet your grandmother. She sounds like my kind of gal.
To the anonymous female poster, why don't you just ask him? Or jest wait til "soon" and let it be special for each of you.... (read in full...)
Are we too young for sex?
Q. my boufriend keeps wanting to have sex w/ me. my problem is that #1 i think were too yong. #2 i dont know how to have sex HELP!!! [mod note: poster presents an age of 21]...
A. 8 November 2009: You are too young if you have any doubts whatsoever.... (read in full...)
I lost "the one". What needs to be done to win her back?
Q. My girlfriend of a couple years recently left me. I have come to realize that it was because of my inability to share feelings and connect with her on a emotional level. We had a house together, we had shared everything, financially things have ...
A. 7 November 2009: Talk with her and tell her what you told us, and more.... (read in full...)
Is there a risk of prostate cancer if you don't masturbate or have sex?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...
A. 7 November 2009: Physiologically, a male body is constantly producing semen following puberty. But "PeanutButter" and "pinktopaz" were about right. The constant production is moderated because the body reabsorbs the sperm and semen, if not ejaculated, before they ... (read in full...)
Is there a risk of prostate cancer if you don't masturbate or have sex?
Q. Hi Cupid,I asked this question here last time about the word masturbation. this question confused me sometimes, i want to be sure of it. my question is, a person that still a virgin whether a boy or a girl. like a boy that still a virgin. if the ...
A. 7 November 2009: I have read about that as a possibility. However, I would think that any detriment would only apply after many years. You might consider that sexual activity is a very healthy function that, if not exercised, may eventually prove adverse to health. ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to enjoy oral sex more?
Q. Ok , this is embarrassing, but I have a hard time giving my husband oral sex. He really enjoys it and I enjoy the pleasure that he gets from it but I have a hard time with the taste and texture of the "fluid". I have even gagged on it, which is ...
A. 7 November 2009: The pleasure derived from a great blow job by a wife (or girlfriend) is the ultimate for a man, but I think the deal should first include oral satisfaction for her. In my experience, if a woman has been thoroughly pleased via oral and penile sex ... (read in full...)
My friends are talking about having sex, I feel ashamed.
Q. ok this is a really embarrasin thing to ask but here goes...all my friends are 13-14 year olds but talking about already have sex, im still a virgin and when im with my friends it feels like something i should be ashamed of i dont know what to do ...
A. 7 November 2009: Please save yourself for someone (man) who who truly loves you, and whom you can love and trust. Do not become just another girl that others talk about. You are worth more than being a cheap sex object. You will have plenty of more meaningful sex in ... (read in full...)
Should I use a condom for anal sex with my wife?
Q. should i use a condom for anal sex with my wife? how do you make sure its clean in the a hole? thanks in advance....
A. 7 November 2009: Yes, I would. But I would not be proposing anal sex sex with any woman I care about, because of the eventual problems it will likely cause her, which includes hemorrhoids. Otherwise, the advice from "quiet-echo" is probably appropriate. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'll ever get a boyfriend?
Q. Okay... So I'm 13 and I'm 5'1 and I don't think I'm ever gonna get a bf! I have blond hair, blue eyes, but I'm 150lbs... Would you go out with me?! Do you think I'll ever get a bf?...
A. 7 November 2009: Of course you will. Do not be in such a hurry. There are also plenty of chubby guys around, but a few simple measures can trim you up. Try walking a mile or two a day, cut back on whatever you know contributes to the problem and please realize that ... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll cheat when he travels?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We are very much in love, but have encountered our fair share of problems with other females (singles sites, and an "online affair," but no physical cheating to my knowledge) in the past. He ...
A. 7 November 2009: Well, you are the one who knows him. How would we know what he might do? But we must wonder, why would he not take you with him? Why is he so willing to be without you for three months? And why wouldn't he worry about what YOU might do while he is ... (read in full...)
What should I do while my bf sucks my breasts?
Q. what should i do while my bf is sucking my breasts? And i want him to go down by my vagina but as his never been down there before not with me or any other girl im not sure what he'll think? We've been going out for 2years now :)...
A. 7 November 2009: One: Assuming that your enjoy him suckling your breasts, then just let him know with aforementioned moans of pleasure, and also move one of his hands down "there." You should also be able to stroke his member as well as rubbing his back, shoulders, ... (read in full...)
Why am I losing my sexual attraction for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. Things have been good between us. I think we have a pretty good relationship. There is only one problem. Lately I do not feel sexually attracted to him. I am usually a very sexual person ...
A. 6 November 2009: Maintaining interest in sex often requires some variation, because it can become, as you say, "just going through the motions." Based on your limited input, my only suggestion can be to explore more variety in sexual activity. It does not need to be ... (read in full...)
I was inappropriately intimate with someone. What now?
Q. I don't know what to do. I was inappropriately intimate with someone who has a girlfriend and the girlfriend works for me. I never meant for this to happen and still can't believe it. I'm not sure if she knows, but she hasn't returned my messages ...
A. 6 November 2009: Much as "Plexi" advised, silence is golden here, but abstinence from any further involvement may be a good idea. If the issue surfaces, it would not be the first time in history and don't worry about it. Just move on and seek a valuable and ... (read in full...)
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