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writes:My girlfriend and i have sex for the first time last week, the night before I went on holiday. Ever since ive been on holiday I get sexual urges and every girl I see looks like my girlfriend, why is this?Also Ive never been able to give my girlfriend an orgasm and this is annoying the both of us. I am her first for everything and I just want to pleasure her to show her what she is missing, how can I do this?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 September 2009):
 Just type the words "cunnilingus" and "orgasm" in the search field to find writings about providing female orgasms. Then try other searches. The library is quite extensive.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 The men have addressed the sexual urges. All I can add to that is that we women also have them. ;-) Yay for sex!The female orgasm is a delicious and elusive creature. I was not able to orgasm with a man until I found out how to give one to myself. Then I could direct my partner in what to do to help me reach it.Encourage her to explore her body and ask for her help as you explore it. Use toys to help you and take your time. Clitoral stimulation during penetration can help a lot of women orgasm, and it's a lot of fun. Try not to put too much pressure on either you or her to achieve the female orgasm. Keep the lines of communication open; allow her to offer feedback and give her some of your own. Have lots of fun as you hunt down the female orgasm and become more emotionally intimate in the process.Oh... and practice makes perfect!;-)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 September 2009):
 As to the urges, it only means you're a normal guy. If we made a survey about how many males felt that way after they finally "scored", I guess the whole internet would not have the capacity to store all the "Yeah, I felt that way, too"'s. Just respect your girl and don't sleep with someone else only because your friend keeps having ideas.
As to not giving her an orgasm, I believe that so far your record is something like 0-1, meaning "zero orgasms, one try". Mmmmm..... now that I think of it, it must be something more like "0-4", since this is your first time :-). I guess that's good so far. There's plenty of advice in Dear Cupid about what you can do, and the good part is that it comes from the ladies. I remember Satin Desire posted something in this line a short time ago. Also, look in the "Articles" and you'll find your treasure.
Way to go, man!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (11 September 2009):
 I have urges with women all over the place too. Ahh, the joys of being a healthy male. It's normal, just try not to leer too much.
But very few women (I've heard it's only 25%) can climax from penetration. To make her toes curl, you really have to give her oral (which can be almost as much fun for you as for her). Pay attention to her clit, licking it softly and slowly, being VERY careful not to overdo it until she gives you the go-ahead (that little pencil eraser sized nub has as many nerves as your entire penis, so it's easy to overstimulate it and cause pain), but if she gives you direction, you can work together to find what works best for her.
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