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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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A. 8 September 2010: Well, him hiding that he was masturbating is completely normal. Most men do this. It is personal and we have been doing it for a long time. Really it is just a release. It helps us feel better and doesn't really hurt anyone.
However, then we ... (read in full...)
I don't want her to leave, I can't live without her!
Q. Well I've been 'seeing this girl' for the best part of two months now, and will continue too until the end of this year as its a very important year for us academically. She decided that we couldn't dating or official until the end of the year ...
A. 8 September 2010: I would suggest finding a councelor and talking to them. You have issues much deeper then what you are thinking they are. It is not normal to be so attached to someone after only 2 months. It is also not normal to be contemplating suicide at the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't even try to have sex with me anymore!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want me as much lately. He doesn't kiss me, hold me, or tell me he loves me as much as he used to. He don't even try to have sex with me anymore! He used to try A LOT! I don't know if he's bored of me or if he found ...
A. 8 September 2010: Sounds like you've got to quit trying so hard. If he pays more attention when you're giving him less, then that's an obvious solution.
The thing is, I'm wondering if this isn't just a sign that the relationship is fading. Too tired can be a goo... (read in full...)
I've been called his ex's name 3 times by him!
Q. My boyfriend has called me my ex's name three times now, i over reacted at first and said if he did it again i couldnt forgive him, yet he has done it since but seeing how angry he is with himself after ive forgiven him. The wierd thing is he call ...
A. 8 September 2010: Yeah, that happens sometimes. It can be frustrating and anoying, but I doubt he's doing it on purpose. He wants to be with you. If he didn't, he wouldn't be with you.... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I just want to date and not be his girlfriend?
Q. I have a really HUGE problem. This really sweet guy friend of mine asked me on a date. I said yes, and at the time I thought it would be a nice experience for me. It will be my first date (and I've been holding off on this for a while). Soon aft...
A. 8 September 2010: In the early stages of a relationship, you're just dating anyway. This is the time that you're supposed to decide if you like being around eachother enough to take it to a new level. Honestly, I'd just enjoy it for now. If you notice him calling ... (read in full...)
Should I take it slower?
Q. so i have been dating this guy for almost three weeks now, we've been having a great time and i'm very happy since i got out of a long relationship and i'm finally moving on. i feel i'm ready for a new long relationship, i like the feeling and the ...
A. 8 September 2010: It sounds to me like neither of you are ready for a relationship. You still are working through your ex issues. No harm in spending time with someone you like though, just take it really slowly. Make sure you aren't eachother's rebounds.
Are y... (read in full...)
How would people feel about a 40 and 19 year old being together?
Q. I need a bit of help here, im a 40 year old man and really like a 19 year old girl. A lot of you might think im only interested in her for one thing but im not although the sex would be great, theres more to it than that. How would people feel ...
A. 8 September 2010: Having kids the same age as her makes things harder. Say things work out, how would your kids feel having a step mom the same age as them? My guess is creeped out.
Ultimately it is up to you, but factor in the people you may hurt into your dec... (read in full...)
I'm in awe of this guy... Helpppp!!!
Q. Omg, now I need help lol!! I'm the one that gives awesome advise!! I'm scared now, see I just started college, and I'm in love with a girl, but she has a bf, and she thinks of us as just friends, but recently...I met this guy, he is in my class, ...
A. 8 September 2010: See if you can't swing a threesome with both of them.... (read in full...)
She says I'm better even though they were bigger!
Q. ive been with the same woman for 14 years.i just found out that she slept with 3 of my friends four yrs ago.one a really close friend.iam now very insecure and hurt cuz i knw that they are bigger than me in penis size.so i knw she enjoyed it ...
A. 7 September 2010: Wait, you're worried about their penis size, not the fact that she cheated on you?!?
By the way, big dicks can really hurt for girls. Almost every answer I've ever seen around here says 6-7 inches is best.... (read in full...)
Hugging someone who is so much taller than you?
Q. hi, im about 5 ft 2 and ive recently started dating this guy who is about 6 ft 5 so theres a pretty big height difference there. just wondered if anyone has some suggestions on how to hug him? it sounds kinda weird its just when i give him a hug i ...
A. 7 September 2010: Yeah, around the waist is good. Just give him a big squeeze. ... (read in full...)
First I was uninterested now I'm obsessed with sex!
Q. This past summer I worked as a lifeguard for a water park. I'm still a virgin and wasn't to interested in having sex until I graduated college; which I did this past June. However, since mid September I can't stop thinking about getting laid! It's ...
A. 7 September 2010: It's completely natural. A lot of time we can perpetuate that energy with our obsessive thoughts about it. The more we think of it, the more it comes to our thoughts. Can you focus that energy elsewhere? Do you masturbate? Do you have a GF?
... (read in full...)
Why do men like shorter women and shy away from tall ones?
Q. I am a 5'7 3/4" female. I'm proud of that quarter inch below 8, because I hate being tall. So guys, honestly, what is the real reason why you flock to short women and pass over the tall ones? Is it because they're cuter and more fragile and make ...
A. 7 September 2010: I like shorter women because their little bodies make my buddy in my pants look HUGE!!! Their little hands can't get all the way around him. When they wear heels, they aren't taller than me...
Honestly, I could care less. If I dated a girl who... (read in full...)
How to get a guy to notice you
Q. what are some really great things to do to get a guy to notice you?...
A. 7 September 2010: Show him your tits. I'm sure he'll notice those.
Haha, the others gave good advice. Really, I'd suggest talking to him. If you can single him out then break the touch barrier. Give him a hug goodbye, or a peck on the cheek. Maybe touch ... (read in full...)
I'm in awe of this guy... Helpppp!!!
Q. Omg, now I need help lol!! I'm the one that gives awesome advise!! I'm scared now, see I just started college, and I'm in love with a girl, but she has a bf, and she thinks of us as just friends, but recently...I met this guy, he is in my class, ...
A. 7 September 2010: What's making you freeze this way. Are you attracted to him? That's how it sounds to me. Are you sitting there wondering how you compare? Don't bother. She's with him. Your options are simple; tell her how you feel or don't.
By the way,... (read in full...)
What to do when head and heart are telling you different things?
Q. What can you do when your heart and head are in conflict about your relationship? What can you do when your heart is telling you this is the woman of your dreams, someone you completely love and would wait an eternity for, while your head is sta...
A. 7 September 2010: Go with your heart. It is more pure then your head.
My question is this; is this someone you're in a relationship with, or someone you want to be in a relationship with? If you're in a relationship, then enjoy it. If you're crushing on her, ... (read in full...)
How would people feel about a 40 and 19 year old being together?
Q. I need a bit of help here, im a 40 year old man and really like a 19 year old girl. A lot of you might think im only interested in her for one thing but im not although the sex would be great, theres more to it than that. How would people feel ...
A. 7 September 2010: Ultimately it doesn't matter how other people feel, you need to ask yourself how you'll feel.
I wonder what you'd have in common with a woman less than half your age. I know that at 30 I feel like I have very little in common with girls who are ... (read in full...)
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