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Why do men like shorter women and shy away from tall ones?

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Question - (7 September 2010) 11 Answers - (Newest, 6 June 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am a 5'7 3/4" female. I'm proud of that quarter inch below 8, because I hate being tall. So guys, honestly, what is the real reason why you flock to short women and pass over the tall ones? Is it because they're cuter and more fragile and make you feel more like a man, or is it because their genitals are tighter? Or another reason?

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A female reader, Kristy1600 United States +, writes (6 June 2011):

I'm 5'11 and proud of it. I wear 6 inch heels and don't care what anyone thinks about it! I have experienced guys favoring shorter girls but honestly I am not bothered by it. Any worthwhile guy who is secure with himself won't care about my height.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010):

As a 5'4 guy, I wouldn't consider you tall for a woman but you are taller than average. When you're talking 5'10 or more, that's a tall woman.

I actually prefer the taller ladies but they generally avoid me in favour of men the same height or taller. It used to bother me until I started approaching women who cared less about height and more about personality. Some ladies were shorter and some ladies were much taller than me. One thing for certain is that they all made it very clear that my 5'4 frame wasn't an issue. There's a certain vibe you get when you're with a person who isn't as focused on height or what others around them are saying about who they associate with. I could care less about a woman's height because hers has nothing to do with how much of a man I am.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010):

"The thing is though women want guys that are taller too. In general girls don't want to date guys that are shorter than them, so tall girls options are limited by that because they won't be approached as much by shorter guys because we don't really think we stand a chance with them because most of the time we actually don't. Women want that safe and secure feeling from a guy and shorter men with taller women that's less likely unless he's built like a tank."

5'4 short guy here. I agree with this post, but it's not necessarily true. Most women do prefer men taller than they are but there are ladies who are exceptions to the rule. It is true about short guys not wanting to approach taller girls because of preconceived notions of rejection and failure. I think the issue of why taller women shy away from the shorter men should be addressed too.

I've never had a problem approaching women of any height, especially the taller ladies. I strongly believe it's the taller women that have the problems with shorter men approaching them. I know less men who won't date a taller woman and more taller women who won't date shorter men. I've never questioned my manhood standing beside any woman taller than me. In fact, I feel more masculine with a taller woman on my shoulder knowing that our height difference is not an issue to her. Confident women don't need a taller man to protect them. Confident women need a man who's confident in himself to stand up and protect her space when needed.

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (7 September 2010):

dirtball agony auntI like shorter women because their little bodies make my buddy in my pants look HUGE!!! Their little hands can't get all the way around him. When they wear heels, they aren't taller than me...

Honestly, I could care less. If I dated a girl who was taller than me I think I'd love dancing because I could rest my head on her bosom. In my experience it is usually girls who want a taller guy and will turn down guys who are shorter. If a shorter guy has faced that rejection before, he will likely be very hesitant to approach a tall girl again.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010):

I don't think men do prefer shorter women. Perhaps you are looking for a crutch to lean on. Be confident and happy in the way you look.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010):

This cracks me up....I am 5'9"....and i havent ever noticed a lack of male attention. In fact, I have found the opposite to be true.

I think your problem is not your height, it is the fact that you are not comfortable or confident with who you are.

Men like a confident, smiling woman no matter what her height.

I have had no end of comments about my long legs...etc.

I guess I was having coffee with Chigirl and missed that evaluation also.....no one has ever ever said anything negative to me about being tall. (or questioned my...erm...tightness)

hahahahahaha.....

In fact in the grocery store just yesterday the cashier and I and a couple of people waitng to check out were talking about being tall...(dont ask me how it came up I'm just one of those people that other people always talk to in the check out line) and they either were tall or wished they were....mal

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (7 September 2010):

Honeypie agony auntI'm 5 foot 7 and I don't regard myself as tall, AT ALL. My husband is 6 foot 3 though.

And I doubt shorter women are "tighter" anywhere.

I think it's a primitive instinc in men to want to protect the "weaker", a short female makes the male feel bigger thus better at protecting her.

Just look for taller guys ;)

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A male reader, Sorcerer United Kingdom +, writes (7 September 2010):

Average male height is 5ft 10, I believe, so if it is true that men prefer shorter women, I don't see why you should have a problem.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010):

We like shorter women because we feel more manly with them. Simple as that. In general anyway. Shorter women have that cuteness and fragility, plus when you stand beside them you feel like their protector. Plus sexually it's easier to be dominant, move them into positions and lift them etc.

The thing is though women want guys that are taller too. In general girls don't want to date guys that are shorter than them, so tall girls options are limited by that because they won't be approached as much by shorter guys because we don't really think we stand a chance with them because most of the time we actually don't. Women want that safe and secure feeling from a guy and shorter men with taller women that's less likely unless he's built like a tank.

You're not that tall though, you're only 5' 7" that's not really what I'd consider tall. There a lots of guys that are taller than you.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (7 September 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt I would not say guys pass over tall girls- they just ,some times, pass over women who are taller than them. But ,at 5'7 and 3/4", and living in USA, you should find no shortage of guys your height and over !

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (7 September 2010):

chigirl agony auntI must ask.. are genitals on shorter women tighter?

Did I miss an evolution or something? Because as far as I know, their genitals are just the same as tall womens genitals... That is quite funny though.

Men like shorter women because men in general are taller than women and it is a boost to their masculinity.

Do you like shorter guys? If not then why? And to be honest, there are many tall men out there, taller than you, who would just love to meet another tall woman so they don't have to hurt their necks for a kiss.

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