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writes: I don't want to be a lesbian. i want to have a life with a MAN that i love and have normal children! I read about being bisexual, but it still scares me! I am probably bisexual, but can I just be with a guy if im bi? I'm in my lower teens!
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reader, Chris-toph  +, writes (21 November 2010):
Don't worry about if you are bi. You are in your lower teens so the hormones in your body are acting up. You can have a happy ending with either gender because love has no limits. And yes, you can still be happy with a guy if you are bi.
Hope that this was helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): THANKS SO MUCH
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): I agree with your other responses. You are too young to be worrying about children and marriage, there is no need to put yourself in a box or label yourself as anything. No matter what age you are, ATTRACTION SHOULD NOT BE GENDER SPECIFIC. Don't be worrying about making decisions, just enjoy your life and whatever is meant to happen for you will happen...
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reader, Duckyhelp  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 During your teens you have a mixed amount of emotions caused by hormones in your body. You will think you are one thing. then in a few years feel differently. I think you should not worry about how you feel right now, and know that whatever happens you arent a bad person or "un-normal" for being gay/lesbian/bisexual. Being in your lower teens i suggest you live your life and just see how you feel as the years go by.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 The fact that you are still in your lower teens speaks volumes, you may not even know for sure which way you actually "bend". I would try not to worry so much about sex and sexuality and more about be proud of who you are.
Right now you are getting all kind of hormonal surges that sends you mixed signals and/or urges. Relax. Sex should not be on the top of your list of "things to do" not yet.
If you are straight, bi or gay, in the end it truly doesn't matter if YOU can be happy about yourself. I know a couple of gay women who have 2 children and they seems pretty darn happy.
Don't be in such a hurry to stick yourself into a box.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Being bisexual means that you're attracted to both girls and boys.
You can still be with someone of one gender, and be perfectly happy. Think of it this way, if you were married to a man, chances are you'll also be attracted to other men, are you going to be any less happy if you can't be with all those other men?
I'd also give it some time to decide if you're bi or not, when I was your age I had the same thing happen, after awhile I realized that i'm straight.
Even if you're bi theres nothing wrong with that.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Humans are sexual beings. Nobody is 100% anything if you ask me. You can be perfectly happy with a man if you're bi. There is nothing wrong with being gay either. You've got plenty of time to worry about such things, so in the mean time, why not focus on just being a kid and being happy? You'll know who you're attracted to. That's just how you're wired. When you mature you'll understand that better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): I think you're too young to know exactly what sexuality you are right now. You're possibly just curious - Perhaps worrying.
If you are bisexual, then yes of course you can still end up with a man as you will find both sex's attractive.
You can 'end up' with who you like. Remember, you can give your body to who ever you choose, there's no 'rule'. It's your body.
Even if you were a lesbian you could end up with a man, it's entirely up to you.
Also remember, if you are a lesbian and find you are only attracted to women in the future, you can STILL have children. There are so many options nowadays for gay people wanting children.
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