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writes:Hi would just like to ask what people make of a 30 year old man who has slept with nearly 100 women? Reply to this Question
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reader, Reeca +, writes (23 May 2009):
 He may be lying to sound like some sort of player (god knows why as women really don't care about that sort of thing).
If he is serious about a relationship with you and remaining exclusive ask him to have an STD test to check for any problems get one yourself as well that way then if you are both clear it doesn't matter but make sure he isnt going to be 'playing the field' whilst you are with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): dont worry chick, i know a guy who has slept with 386 girls in 15 years
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Irish is right.
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reader, nikki_smith  +, writes (22 May 2009):
well is it ur man????? or a relative?? was it an affair?? or was it a bf gf break up.............. either way if u was gonna sleep with him i'd tell him go get checked first b4 i did anything in the world with him cuz 100 people huh huh he could have every STD in the world
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): I am the orginally poster of this question. I over heard he mates saying one evening the number 94. I ask him the what was that about and he said thats how many women ive been with. He was wiv some for 5yrs. It hit him bad when they spilt cos they had a daughter together. And in 2 yrs being single until he met me he say he slept with around 60 women! Thurs.fri. Sat. And sun most wk ends. Ive stupidly been with this man 3yr on/off. And in our breaks hes slept with others. Our breaks always are about the same thing. I want to spend more time with him and move our relationship on. He just want to be with his mates and dont include me in anything! No holidays. He even goes to weddings without me!thats not right is it? Bv then he will joke bout how the bridemaids came on too him etc. And basically whever he goes he always has to make out that women r chasing him. Which makes me feel. Not good enough.paranoid and insecure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Apologies, questioner. I have made an error in my original answer to you, so I am reposting. If he began dating at approximnately 15 years of age, he had sex with 6-7 women per year. But my original answer still stands.
But this is the way I am looking at it. I have a teen son (17 and 1/2) who has dated 3 girls since January 2009. Most of these dating circumstances lasted just 2 weeks, and one gf was 2 months and yes, he did tell his older brother, that sex was involved, in all 3 cases. We still have 7 months to go in 2009, so he could easily date 3 more females, before the end of the year. I think it's part of the teen culture. a lot of dating and learning about relationships. So yes, it's reasonable to think this guy you know, could have done this, without thinking he's some kind of committment phobic or bad boy player.
Are you dating this guy or thinking of it? Listen, if I were in your shoes, I guess I would wonder, why he told you that he slept with 100 women, in the first place? And if he told you, did you ask or did he just offer up the information? Some people (females as well) do this and it sure can knock a potential dating partner off balance, emotionally. Insecurities can be rife, not a good, solid way to begin a relationship. The 'amount' of lovers one has had in the past is unecessary information and it's no one's business. I think it's important though, to find out if his sexual history involved any STD's or other unforseen surprises, like HIV, pregnancies, ex gf's/wives with kids, etc. If he told you, then ask him 'why' he told you. And if you asked, how did that make you feel? Just curious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): would you sleep with him? would you form a relationship with him? Think with internet dating its relatively easy to clock up numbers - but what is the point?
it should be about quality.... and not quantity....
I wouldn't really care if someone was a virgin or had bedded 1000 people. So long as they were with me, totally and had been sti checked...
Star.x.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Hi there, I guess if most men and probably some women were to keep a running tally, there might be a lot of people in their pasts. But not many people would be very proud of a some what large amount of partners. How many "real" relationships has he had? What is his version of commitment?
Was he trying to impress you with his sexual prowess? Agree with one of the other Aunts, what provoked the revelation? Think about what you want in a man, does he fit that description? If you do start to associate with him, are you going to think about the one hundred women all the time? I guess my biggest question would be, did he practice safe sex with those one hundred women? Your life is involved here and transmission of certain diseases can be fatal. Take care, be your own best friend. Go over to www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137 find "Letting Go: Stop Chasing Ghosts", for another perspective. Thank you.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (22 May 2009):
As Irish says, not necessarily is there something inherently bad in his having slept with that number of women. If he did, that is, and he's not promoting himself.
Again, why did he tell you this? Maybe because he wants you to know who he is. Something like "Gee, I'm not exactly a virgin". Maybe he wants to come out clean. Or not. Why did he say that?
If you think that he won't be faithful given the number of women he's slept with, then I have to say that, for all we know, he might as well be faithful to you, or not. Which is the case with everyone else.
Don't make the same mistake that mankind has done through the ages: believing that the fact that someone didn't sleep with someone else before is "proof" that the person won't sleep with anyone else in the future. In my opinion, that is why people give value to virginity. They feel it proves what kind of person you're with. Well, every womanizer was a virgin sometime, too.
All the best.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Personally I would be horrified, but that is just my own personal opinion. To me it shows lack of commitment to a single partner, or someone who is prepared to sleep with any woman who entered his life. There would be no emotional connection with them. I would always be wary that a man with such a history could be faithful to me, and wasnt looking constantly for new conquests.
I prefer men, who are maybe a bit more choosey, but who appreciate the emotional and loving side of a sexual relationship.
I am sure that many other people will have different opinions.
Tiger x
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reader, summerslady21 +, writes (22 May 2009):
Personally I think its kind of sick! but that's just my opinion! Who knows what some of them females could possibly have(std wise) if any! GD may be a great guy but his self respect is non existent! If he has no self respect then he has no respect for anyone else! Why exactly do you want opinions that if you don't mind me asking!
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