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writes:I’m discouraged. This is really disheartening…After giving up on online dating a while ago I recently got a message from a girl that surprised me. She’s great and meeting her like this was really unexpected. We chatted, we met up, and after each exchange she would update her profile. She would add the kind of guy she’s attracted to, describing me to the T….and she would add the stuff we did the first time we met.Last night we went out for dinner and tango dancing. I had a great time and it looked like she did too. I haven’t heard from her since last night (I always appreciate a “thank you” when I treat a girl) but this morning she updates her profile with a new photo and adds what we did on our date last night! Now I’m dumbfounded because it really does not look like she’s not interested.I’m disheartened because I have no trouble getting dates but they’re uninspiring. This girl is a gem. It’s frustrating. She’s a little shy and I didn’t probe but from what I understand she hasn’t had a lot of boyfriends. Maybe none throughout undergrad(???). She was trembling in my arms when I kissed her…maybe that was stupid on my part…I do feel like a fool. Maybe her self-esteem was just using me for an ego-boost and I should just grudgingly move on. Maybe she just inexperienced or shy or doesn’t know what to do or doesn’t know what she wants or is stuck in the online dating death loop where you’re blind to what’s in front of you with a starved ego continuously longing for the psychological ego stroke of “Who else might message me?” among the countless commoditized online profiles (She's been on that thing a while...). Maybe I should persist. Maybe I should give up.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 June 2009):
 Well, in the great words of someone else, "it is wrong to wonder". I think you should let her see that you're seriously interested. If she acts on that, Ok. If not, you have your answer.
Good luck.
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