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writes: Can you survive in a loveless marriage,just because you have a history together,and raised children together?Am I wrong to wish to leave my security for total insecurity,because I can't live without love and affection?Well,my situation is,that my husband does not look at me ,as a woman anymore. He never touches me, tells me nice things,and first of all he never wants sex ever/Well ,he does not get erections very well, but he is healthy as he gets them every morning.What could be on his mind? He never said he does not love me. I don't want to make the biggest mistake,but I'm thinking about leaving ,even if I will have to make a living, what I don't have to worry about right now.But I feel I will die inside ,if it goes on too long.Please advise me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): I have the same issue--no kissing,no foreplay,not even sex. I am contemplating leaving my husband for thosethings that are important to me, am i odd or wrong???
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reader, timbo  +, writes (21 June 2009):
Hi, Have you told him that you are unhappy ? Extremely unhappy? Start there if not. Give him a chance to fix things. But don't come across like you are nagging. Remember, men are dumb and need to be told things in a simple, calm manner. Wear something sexy after doing something nice for him,then spring it on him. He'll feel special and should open up. Tell him what your needs are and ask about his needs too. Communication is more important than sex at this point I'd say. good luck
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Dearest, always remember, life is short. nobody knows tommorow. if you cant find love and hapinness anymore why suffer? if you two are not happy anymore being together well its either you both need a little space for a while OR you both really need to find love and happiness. goodluck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 An elderly lady I work with sometimes told me once that, as you age, companionship and affection, love that is not physical, becomes more important. I am not old enough to know that for a fact, but I think her words apply to your situation. Maybe you wouldn't even be posting this question if the marriage was one where you found the love you want.
I am not sure if this loveless marriage is also one where you two stay together just for the sake of old times. If that were the case, personally, I would leave. But this is your life and your decision.
Some people would say that you should stay married. I don't. I think I would leave.
I wish you the best.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 have you spoken to your husband about these fears? have u suggested you both see a councillor to get to the end of matters?
you say he still manages an erection so i cant imagine why he wouldnt want to have sex with you.
your not wrong to not be in a loveless marriage, every woman deserves love during marriage!
your husband isnt giving it, the main thing is to ask him why? he may have his own issues that he's not telling you about. Once you've spoken then make your decisions.
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