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writes:I've liked this guy for a long time. He's Jewish and I'm a Christian, but that really never bothered me in any way. Today we were rehearsing for our school musical, we have a scene where two people are trying to find their perfect matches. The guy wanted a Christian girl who would raise his kids, and the girl wanted a Jewish guy who would let her continue her career as a lawyer. In the scene, a mass murderer scares them into getting married. The guy I like misunderstood that the two characters were being scared into marrying, and didn't really fit the descriptions of what they each wanted. He asked why a Jewish guy would be looking for a Christian girl. This worries me a lot, because he's Jewish, and I'm Christian. Maybe he just meant it as if the guy in the scene was specifically looking for a Christian girl, but I just wanted to be sure. Cuz I really really like this guy, and I have for a long time. I really hope i'm just overreacting, but still I have to know.... what's wrong with Jewish guys being in relationships with Christian girls?I couldn't ask him or he'd figure out that I like him (although I do get signals that he might like me too). Maybe someone can explain this to me?It's a long story, everything that's happened between me and him. If anyone wants to help me figure that part out, let me know, and I'll post that too. (it would really help me out)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): You're getting ahead of things. You haven't even told him that you like him?
But yes, if you did get together, and if you did decide to get married, the question would surely come up.
If he's at all an observant Jew, he would certainly ask that your children be brought up within the Jewish tradition.
If your faith is important to you, then you have to think it through.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 I don't see anything wrong. I understand, however, that some Jews don't want their children to marry a goy (non-Jewish). The reason is not so much religious as one of "survival". There are thirteen million Jews or so. When they marry outside of their people, not only their faith, quite often the children are no longer Jewish. That is, they would die out.
On the other hand, Jewish tradition holds that you're a Jew if you're mother is a Jew. I wonder what they would consider you when your father is a Jew.
But I believe that you're too young to think about marriage anyways, and I would want you two to grow without religious or racial prejudice.
So, ENJOY. If he loves you, and you love him, too, don't give a damn about what other people say.
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