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writes:I have cheated in the past but then I thought I had met the "one" and I could never do it to them. People say once a cheat always a cheat I don't believe this. Does anyone think that once you have messed someone around its simply because they are not the one and there for you should just leave them alone? Reply to this Question
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (27 August 2009):
 That is such a silly saying, whoever said it was a a bitter and angry person.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 August 2009):
 You are perfectly capable of not cheating if you don't want to. Having found "the One" should make it very much easier, I believe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): "Once a cheat, always a cheat" expresses a far cry of ignorance. All people are capable of change and all people are capable of cheating, given the right combination of circumstances.
People cheat for a myriad of reasons. One of the more common reasons is that the person has an emotional obligation to their partner, but wish to pursue a love interest beyond that. Another common reason is that a person is not strong enough to leave their controlling, abusive partner and seeks affection outside. Other common reasons has to do with just having a thrill of the risk. Ultimately, "cheating" is frowned upon obviously that you are cheating someone of their trusted connection with you, regardless of the reasons.
However, if given the right combination of circumstances that you meet someone whom connect with you easily and naturally, it is definitely possible to never cheat again. "Cheating" usually happens when you are not strong enough to leave a relationship that is not fulfilling for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to clarify I thought I had met the one that being it was for me I never cheated on her an would never had cheated on her. Most people prob say I deserve what I get and prob do but that's not the question.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind  +, writes (27 August 2009):
I am a firm believer in cheating is merely for the thrill, you always retire back to the comfort of the relationship. Other than affairs, which are just mental conflictions.
I have cheated in the past, I am not proud to admit but I have. In doing so I realized how badly I hurt my significant other and could never imagine doing that with anyone ever again. I mean frankly, to sacrifice a perfect relationship for an five minutes and an orgasm? .. thats not even a question.
If you feel you can honestly commit whole heartedly, do it. If you have the slightest doubt, of out consideration for your significant.. walk away.
-iydm
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (26 August 2009):
A lot of people believe in the moto once a cheat always a cheat but which ever side you are wheather you are the cheat for example there comes a time when you stop causing the hurt and realise i dont want to do this any more.
You know when youve found the one, a lot of people say you just know, if it is the one youd do anything to make them happy, make sure you protect them and dont hurt them, if you did find the one you shouldnt feel the need to cheat, there called the one for a reason.
I believe that in order to find what your looking for you go through a lot of hurt and pain before you get there, a lot of relationships start on smething so bad yet they go on to recover and make a go of what they have leaving the past behind them.
This part isnt the answer you were looking for, i just wanted to make a suggestion into a way forward for you. Its ok to have fun but once its all gone your left very lonely and hurt, some say you deserve it maybe at times you do but you need to start taking control. Its your choice if you cheat, nobodys forcing you nobodys stopping you, you need to regain self control in order to find happiness. Dont let all the good in your life go as you think youve messed it up before it begin, start a new and find what it is you really want.
Lecture over! Best of luck
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