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writes:Fistly, I think I made a mistake signing up because I'm 21! Anyway...I don't mean staring at my boobs or butt or checking me out. Some guys (usually ugly!) stare into my eyes on the street and say nothing and I'm sick of it and find it scary. Do they want to f*ck me , kill me , mug me? It's intimidating. This morning I walked past a guy who made eye contact and when I looked at him he looked away and started smirking. WTF?!Am I doing something. I keep thinking I must have a big zit or food stains on my mouth but I don't. Is there anything I can do other than walk around looking at the ground.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): You know it happens to everyone. Well no, that is not true it does not happen to people who are not physically attractive and they would love to have someone even a stranger notice. I once complained about the same thing to a friend who replied... I wish once someone would notice me! That shut me up! I am older than you but believe me it still happens to me and once in awhile I get still get nervous and stare straight ahead or avoid the looks . Sometimes I look back smile and they smile and look away feeling stupid I'm human they are human and that's that. I feel that it is a control thing for some people if there is a group of men for example they will all stare because it is expected of them. So smile to yourself "Yep I'm looking terrific today" and take it as a compliment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): lol your paranoid. I get this from everyone and anyone, but i dont "assume anything" I just go about my day knowing that they are just another person on the street, staring back at me as im staring at them ;) AND THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): They like you they find you attractive.
Now build a bridge and get over it, or worry about it in which case youll get stress lines and then we wont want to look anymore.
theres a song by the streets that might be applicable I think :-)
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 hey you're 21!!! you should love the attention guys are giving to you.
just work with it give them a sneaky smile back or something.
harmless fun.
i am 20 i often get stares i just either hold my head high and keep walking or i stare back and smile back at them then i carry on walking proudly.
best way to do it.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): How a guy continues to look at you many times depends on how you look back at him. If he is looking at you because you are hot or have big boobs or beautiful eyes and you smile at him then he will probably say good morning or something like that and smile. If you look at him in a nasty manner, like saying what the hell are you looking at, then he will probably look away and perhaps even smirk at your attitude.
Guys look at women who they find attractive. Perhaps the first or second thought that goes through his mind might even be, "Wow, I'd like to f*** her." That doesn't mean that he would do even if he had the chance. He's not thinking of raping you. He probably forgets it in a minute. If you would count up all the times a guy has thought that for a few seconds then most every guy has had thousands of sexual partners in his mind.
Sometimes a guy will look away when you catch him looking at you because he is shy or embarrassed that he got caught. This would especially be the case if you give him a nasty look. If I look at an attractive woman who I pass and she gives me a nasty look then I just look away. If she smiles then I smile too and say good morning or hi. Some women take it as a complement and smile and like it and others don't.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 If history gives us any clues in this matter, men stare at you because they find you hot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Hi anon,I'm sure you haave beautiful eyes, that's all. People tend to look at what they're most attracted to. If your breasts were popping out of your shirt, you may catch more glances in that direction. How is your butt? (rhetorical). If it's nice, you'll probably find guys turning around to look at you if you look over your shoulder. But it seems to me that your eyes are your best quailty. I know this world is getting increasingly unstable, but let's hope that it hasn't come down to men walking around, thinking only of killing and mugging women.
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reader, helpful person +, writes (27 August 2009):
This is too easy look sweety let's be real if they were not looking at you then you would feel like some things wrong that your ugly. I am a real diva take it all in it's just there way of sayin damn I got to look she's hottt
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Do you need complete strangers to tell you why guys stare at you? You're 21, right? It seems like this question would come from a 13 year old. Obviously they think you're hot, and yes, they want to f*ck you. I don't think there is a lot you can do, unless you want to dress like a nun. Don't worry though, as you age, you'll get less stares. I know from experience. People used to gawk at me all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): hey. age doesnt really matter, everyones opinion is valid and people from any age could use advice from time to time :)?ok, it might well be because guys find you attractive! that guy who smirked.. sounds to me like he thought u were giving him "the look" or something when you looked back. we've all made that mistake i think! other than that, it could actually be that you are paranoid thinking that guys are always staring, chances are they're not staring as much as you think. either way, dont worry about it! and dont fell like you have to look at the ground and avoid eye contact with people, hold your head up high and keep walking! i hope this helps.. AAJ.
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reader, craven white +, writes (27 August 2009):
ask them if they want to f*ck you or not and if you were wise you would know your not the best looking woman in the world and evry man cant look like a woman.
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reader, badaergd +, writes (27 August 2009):
Maybe you're paranoid. I often walk by people that look at me and when I look back, they look away. It's normal. It's not that they are thinking about killing you. Maybe you are pretty or attractive and they just liked to stare for a couple of seconds and think "Oh, she's pretty." and then DONE. It's nothing to really think too much over. It's common. It could just be that you're a moving object that catches someone's idle eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): I fail to see how this is anything more than a personal problem. Guys look at girls. Girls look at guys. Hell, guys look at guys and girls look at girls. PEOPLE LOOK AT PEOPLE. I do it all the time. If I see someone, I'll look at them and if they look back, I tend to pull away quickly. It doesn't always mean anything. It's just human nature. The only solution is to stop giving a crap. Just walk with your eyes forward and ignore it when people look at you because there is always going to be someone who looks at you when you're walking along.
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