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writes:Heres my story i want to leave my bf but i just dont want him being with someone els after me i feel like leaving him because he is the most selfish inconciderat loser i have ever meant he does nothing for me or our daughter i really need to leave him i bin trying for 2years now i dont think i have much feelings for him i just dont want him being with someone els until my feelings that i have left are gone so does anyone have any suggestions on how i could just do it without feeling that thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 If you leave him, which seems to be the thing you should do, then you can't prevent him from finding someone else. But you should rather focus on yourself. Your problems, your life, your daughter. Let him go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): Just let him go be with someone else. Its going to happen sooner or later. This is a reality you will always have to deal with in any failed relationship. You are just going to have to tough this one out. And its not the end of the world. In a few months, you won't even care who he's with. Just be strong.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (28 August 2009):
Well, I don't need to nitpick, but you kind of contradicted yourself. You said you don't think you have feelings for him anymore, but you don't want him to see anyone until any that you have left are gone. So in essence, you do still have feelings for him.
It's only natural. It takes several months of separation for those feelings to finally go away. There's no cure for your feelings, they only change with time. You're going to just have to accept that he could possibly end up with another woman sooner than you would hope, but at the same time, you can think about how sorry you are for her because once his true colors show, she'll be just as miserable as you are with him. Just be patient, it takes time--then one day you won't care if he's with someone or not.
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reader, linz09  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 Oh well its seems to me your feelings have already gone as you wouldnt be thinking about finishing your relationship or calling him a loser. I think you should move on and to be truly honest would you be that bothered if he got someone else, you don't want him and you've already experienced the kind of person he is...so I would wave him off gladly and concentrate on you and daughter.You don't need anyone whose holding you back and making you feel worthless so think about what you want for a change and let him get on with his own life.When you make that break, you'll wonder why you were so worried about seeing him with another girl, as you know only too well what he's really like.Take Care and be brave and make that next step.(:
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