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writes:me and my husband have been married for 3 and 1/2 years and recently he realized that he has feelings for another woman. I'm in a battle for him with her. My friends tell me to go but my heart tells me to stay cuz he will pick me, what do u think I should do? Follow my heart, it has never done me wrong before. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Oh, this is so easy... clean out the bank account of 50% of the cash, cancel the credit cards, pack his crap and change the locks. Get an attorney and go after 50% of whatever he has... 401k, SS, all of it.
He's already told you what he's going to pick, and that is someone besides you... it may not be her, but it's not you.
Screw talking to him- he's going to give you the "oh shit, I'm busted and I want the heat to end, tell her ANYTHING"... bullshit... he's a cheater, he's a lier (he has to be, our he would have TOLD you everything as it was happening).
PS: I'm a man, and been there- in the end she got what she deserved- 50% of the common debt, 100% of the debt she'd built up behind my back- some through forgery. $30K in value in the house, and 50% of my 401k. Best money I ever spent, and today she's still with Mr. wonderful (who's 68 and has no money, and she's now supporting- she'll be working till she drops) and my net worth is enough to retire 12 years ahead of schedule! Painful, but thank goodness we had no kids...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Married to you, feelings for another woman??
What to do now? GET MAD. What have you sacrificed yourself life and time for? This? NO. Get her number, call her... Put fear into her, YELL AT HER, Discipline him, Threaten him, Fight with him, and if he doesn't get the picture, LEAVE HIM. The only feelings he could have developed for her are infatuation, Don't be fooled, Connections change in long term relationships and marriages, we all know that it won't be how it was the first month that we met, But that gives him no right to crave that and go elsewhere, what he needs to do is fix whats at home. Now is your time to fight for your marriage, and in my opinion, if you win, once it's over, you can be as spiteful as you want. YOU GO GIRL, DO YOUR THING, and GET BEAAAAAAAUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTIFUL!!!! get CONCEiTED, GET FANS!!!!!LET HIM KNOW WHOS BOSS THATS WHAT I'D DO!!!
DO YOUR HAIR NAILS AND MAKE UP, EAT GOURMET AND FEED HIM THE LEFT OVERS, YOU DESERVE IT.!
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GOOD LUCK
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reader, Garm +, writes (26 November 2009):
What happened in your marriage to push him towards another woman?
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reader, shortone1 +, writes (26 November 2009):
 i just recently got married and i think that you should talk to him about what marriage means and why you two should stay together. because these days the divorce rate is sky rocketing and i know it will be hard but you two can work it out. i hoped i could help.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Well, you're being very mature about it, and at least he has been honest with you, so that's a good start to fixing things. I think you should tell him he has to make a decision about where he wants to be, and explain that if he chooses the other woman then it means immediate divorce. Does the other woman know he has feelings for her? You may find that forcing him to face up to the seriousness of the situation may jolt him back to reality. And if the other woman does know about his feelings, and reciprocates them, it's quite likely that once she has him - she wont want him any more.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 I think you should talk to him very directly and ask where you stand. And then you can make your decision on the basis of what you hear. His having another woman is unacceptable. If he's in love with her, where does that leave you?
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