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writes:Hi,I want to hear from guys who have shared there wifes with a friend,stranger,etc. How did you approach it. How did it feel watching her when he started making love to her etc. My wife and I want to try something new . We sat in conversation one day and listen to a couple who does that. They both enjoy it. We found ourselfs pretty aroused. When we made love one night I asked her if she wanted to try it. She asked me if I was ok with it. I said yes she got very turned on and went crazy and all. Please someone let me know whats its like,or what to do.Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Everyone,
Thank you so much. We are currently talking about it and setting boundaries. She also said it was a one time only. We are both in agreement but we are going to take some of your advise some of you gave us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): I agree with the previous comments about having a sound relationship and that type of base to start exploring this theme. My partner and I had a similar desire to do something different but neither of us wanted to share the other. What we decided was appropriate for us was to go to a sex/swinger club and stay together and enjoy the permissive atmosphere around us drawing ont he sexual energy generated.I love my lady truly madly and deeply so I had no desire to share her and she was the same. We discussed boundaries and how we would react in certain circumstances so we had a strong framework to work to.When we went to a club and it exceeded our expectations. People were respectful and tolerant and literally anything goes. people were having sex around us and we both had sex together around them. We did push our boundaries with some men fondling her breasts as I performed oral on her but i checked she was ok and she checked i was ok and because of the context it worked great. Nothing went further with other people but we had a fantastic experience and sat up until it was light talking through it in detail abotu the good aspects and the odd occassion where we felt less than comfortable. Perhaps this is a course of action I could suggest to you as a starter. I would recommend though that you talk at length, explore possible scenarios and set your boundaries before you go. Once you have broght someone else into you sex life you can't undo it and if you find the reality of something like this threatening then you probably dont want to go any further with this fantasy.There are ways to test yoursleves though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Be very careful...Polyamorous territory is like the Bermuda triangle. One too many many couples have been lost there and never found each other again...if you catch my drift- g
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 November 2009):
 I don't have a wife, but you can share yours with me. :-). That's my point of view.
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 I am always skeptical about this subject. SatinDesire raises some very good points about how strong your marriage needs to be. I would simply say that if you had a PERFECT marriage, you wouldn't want to share your wife with another man, and she would not desire it. So Satin's point, are you trying to 'fix', or 'save' a somewhat broken marriage seems to have some truth. Whose fantasy is this? Yours? Your wifes? Both of you? In my experience, these situations ALWAYS end in tears, there is no happy ending. If you think about it, how can there be?If your wife loves the idea and sensation of having sex with another man, while you watch, or you are downstairs, or after you have dropped her at his house, or if you have no idea where she is, where does that leave you?If she hates the whole thing, she will blame you, and where will THAT leave you?Fantasy is all about imagination, that is why they are so good. Everything is perfect in the fantasy world. The reality is often terrible and degrading.Is it worth the risk to your marriage? Best of luck.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (9 November 2009):
 Fantasies like this for some can seem very exciting to talk about but remember, reality is not always the same. Although it can work for some, couples who become involved in this kind of lifestyle have to have a certain kind of personality. Amongst other things they have to be very open minded, be secure in their marriage and not have jealous tendencies. Like Satindesire mentioned, boundaries need to be set and a lot of planning/talking needs to be had between yourselves and with the "third" person (who should be chosen VERY carefully.) Is your marriage strong enough to sustain something like this? Remember once it happens you can NEVER erase it.Weigh up ALL the pros and cons before you make your decision together. (A word of caution: Have a look at the link below, although this happened beween 4 people, things don't always work out the way one might hope.)http://www.dearcupid.org/question/through-wife-swapping-we-fell-in-love-but.html~Eve~
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 November 2009):
 Sorry but in my book "sharing a wife" or "open marriage" are oxymorons.
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reader, mikefounds +, writes (9 November 2009):
Just to let you know I totally regret our decision to have an open marriage. But we didn't talk through as suggested by the other person.
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