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writes:We met on Face book back in 2011 and met in person a moth later.We had strong connection but the distance eventually took it's toll and he broke it off since neither of us were in a position to move.After time part we would reconnect and meet up again.This went on on and off for few years untill we finally broke it off for good in late November of 2014 when he met someone closer.I tried to move on but haven't connected with anyone the way we did.In any event,he started reaching out to me again more than year later.He sent me multiple messages back in April and june telling me that he had been thinking about me and misses me etc.He also left his number for me to contact him.He deleted his face book few years ago so he clearly open a new face book for the sole purpose to re connect with me.The thing is,i had allot going on around those dates when he reached out.I didn't log in on Face book until in late July. I texted the number he left but I got "sorry you have the wrong number". I decided to message his aunt and ask her to pass my number to him ..He got in touch with me a day later. We chatted ,catching up on our lives. He openly admitted that he has always thought about me and is happy to reconnect. However,he has been wanting to skype with me but we couldn't due to of schedule confliction.I finally I told him that I can stay up late to which he responded sure I'm looking forward to talk to you.Needlessly to say, he didn't show up online and didn't contact me to let me know he couldn't make it.He finally got in touch the next day and said he got caught up with work and was busy.I got mad and for him standing me up which escalated into fight.We didn't talk for a month .We recently got back in touch 2 weeks ago.We planned to visit each other in 2 weeks and he said he would book 4 days at his work so he can drive down here to see me.I was really looking forward to it and we talked everydayThen all the sudden I noticed that he wasn't putting any effort into contacting me anymore. I was the one always initiating contact and sometimes he wouldn't respond.I didn't think much of it .I then texted him and ask him to come on skype before he goes to work.He responded and said sure.We skyped for a bit but didn't talk because his volume on his phone was not working, according to him.Then he had to get off so he can get ready for work.He also promised to take a pic for me later on.In any event,I texted him and said it was nice seeing him and I can't wait to see him in person. We exchanged few text then all the sudden he said "he's not sure if he can't do this anymore and he is sorry. Then proceeded to say, it wouldn't be a problem if we didn't live so far apart and maybe we might have something in future when his life is more settled.This came as complete shock to me so I immediately asked if he is not coming anymore to see me and I asked for more explanation. I also expressed my disappointment since I was really looking forward to see him.He didn't respond to these messages and ignored further messages from me.I even let him know I was willing to move to his town in the near future to no avail.I am so hurt he would just drop me like this. Should I ignore him if he tries to reach out in the future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your response. The thing is,I even made it clear that I do see a future with him and would be willing to move some time down the road.He didn't respond to that so obviously we want different things
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2016): HiSounds as if he already has someone and is trying to fit you in around his relationship with whoever he's with. Maybe it's proved to be a little bit too difficult for him at the moment or maybe him and his girlfriend or wife are getting along better at the mo, so he's spun you a line about 'maybe sometime in the future' to keep things open with you, if he should hit a dry patch again.It doesn't sound as if he is interested so I would advise you to concentrate on meeting someone close to home, if a relationship is what you're looking for.Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 September 2016):
 Yes you should ignore him. It is clear that the both of you just do not work together, if you did then you would both make the effort to see one another and plan a future together. It sounds like he has probably met someone else, it also sounds like he keeps you as his back up plan in case he is left on the shelf. Don't allow him to treat you like this any more. You need to move on from him and find someone who will put in the effort. Don't have contact with him again, it only brings hurt and disappointment.
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