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*hedimestorepoet
writes:My boyfriend and I are going to be long distance for the next couple of months. We will both be in farely remote areas without regular wifi. A lot of tips I've read are based around the fact that you can message or call that person at all hours. However with us it is likely going to be days in between signal (patchy at best) and wifi good enough to video call perhaps once a week if that. We will both be pretty busy during this time anyway but the communication barrier is a bit daunting for me, especially as we usually speak so frequently. Thank you all!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 September 2016):
 I agree with writing letters, it is personal and shows each other how you feel, also it will be nice to keep and read them when you are missing each other.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 September 2016):
 It IS only 2 months.
I agree with Wise, write (as in HAND WRITTEN) letters. I know when my husband was deployed those were his favorites because you can HOLD them and carry them with you. Keep them light, warm and loving. I would also send a daily e-mail, something of what was going on, so he didn't feel left out, Skype was not always possible with video, so sometimes when we would Skype is was text only. You ADAPT.
If all you can get is a Skype/Facetime once a week - MAKE it special (and I don't mean sexual) but make it something for you BOTH to look forward too.
And when you can't chat, KEEP busy!
Two months will fly by.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (15 September 2016):
 Write letters. Seriously - write one or two a week. Hopefully he'll write back and they're nice to keep, if you stay together until old age :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2016): Like military wives and girlfriends, you have to learn to wait and make contact when it's possible. There comes a time when duty, education, or our careers temporarily separate us.
You know he's coming back. Do something old-fashioned. Write him love letters. It'll be fun.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 September 2016):
 It's only two months ! , you will survive :)
It's only a matter of making a mental adjustment. Now you are probably used to text back and forth all day long, and then you will do it more sparsely and with an once a week long video call . Come on, it is not such a hardship; it could be worse.
Also because you still have phones- you know, that thing which people relied on to keep in touch once upon a time when there was no Internet. I have been told that they still exist and still work :) . Maybe you can call each other every night, or every other day ?
What is it, are you worried about " out of sight out of mind " ?... Don't take this old saying so literally. If you are in love, it won't be not being able to see your face every day for a couple of months which will make you forget it, or change his feelings.
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (15 September 2016):
 Having great "phone dates" is better than constant contact. I found it helpful to have TV shows and movies to watch together over the phone.
LDR get tougher to handle emotionally each week in subtle ways. For that reason, and since you have decided to tough this out, keep affirming you will be staying together the whole time. Breaking up should be off the table unless you are face-to-face.
Critically, make extra time to get a feel for the others persons day and mood. It can spare you many misunderstandings.
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