My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 17 August 2016: I think you are right he will not care, because you are a mistress, the woman he says he loves and vowed to be faithful to is lying in bed with him blissfully happy. Sweetie I think you need to end this now and get some counselling, he has warped ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend avoids my family!
Q. Should i go on vacation with my boyfriends family even though he avoids my family? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Things are getting serious and he's been mentioning marriage and I would love to marry him one day. The problem...
A. 16 August 2016: You need to sit down and talk to him about this, he does not know you are feeling like this because you have not told him, everything you have wrote here you need to tell him so that he knows how you are feeling. He may not be good with your family ... (read in full...)
Could we have a future?
Q. We met on Face book back in 2011 and met in person a moth later.We had strong connection but the distance eventually took it's toll and he broke it off since neither of us were in a position to move. After time part we would reconnect and...
A. 16 August 2016: I can understand the way that you are feeling, you where looking forward to the video call, you had it built up in your head to be a great way to see each other after all this time, and well what did he do? He did not even bother to reply. Sweetie I ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with boyfriend of 7 years who isn't good to me?
Q. What is the first step that need to do when you decided to breakup with your 7 years boyfriend when you situation is bad like no work means no money,no house.i feel i need to decide to split with my boyfiend bec i no feel it will work.were fighting ...
A. 16 August 2016: you need to contact your family or friends and ask them for there help. Your boyfriend will not take it well that you are wanting to break up, therefore it is best to do it when you have support from your family. ... (read in full...)
I do like him but I need this long distance to stop. But I fear I'm going to lose him now that he's into me. What do I do?
Q. Hi all, I liked this one guy a lot a few years ago but he did not reciprocate my feelings then. We were really good friends at the time so it was really hard for me to get over him. I eventually moved to another city to pursue my education and I ...
A. 16 August 2016: I think you need to tell him that you don't want to do long distance. Be honest with him, and yourself. Being in a long distance relationship is very hard, and even more harder when you are both starting out in different cities, it is made easier ... (read in full...)
How to ask your teacher nicely to stop flirting with you?
Q. I go to tuition to a male teacher ... suppose his name is MR X . Mr X is 50 yrs old he is really really good teacher as long as he teaches .. My school teacher aint that good in teaching but he flirts with me i think .. he has touched my hands ...
A. 16 August 2016: If he makes you feel uncomfortable then you should tell him, and hopefully he will back off, if this does not work then tell a teacher or one of your parents. ... (read in full...)
I need to stop unwanted neighbour's attentions
Q. Hi I'll try and keep this as short as I can. When my partner and I moved into our house a year ago we had a few teething problems as neither of us are DIY skilled and our next door neighbour, I’ll call him L, a similar age to us, overheard our ...
A. 16 August 2016: If you are feeling this uncomfortable over it then something should be done about it. You cannot live your life wondering if he is going to follow you outside when you are in the garden, or that he is going to be staring at you. Normally I would say ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can hide my feelings for my step brother much more. We are not blood related. What can I do?
Q. When I was 8 years old my parents divorced. Me and my sister decided to live with my mum. My dad met his ex girlfriend and they fell in love again, when I was 9 she introduced us to her children. Lets call them N (he is 11 now) W (he is 17 now) and ...
A. 16 August 2016: I can understand that you have a crush, but you need to realize that you cannot act on this crush, it would hurt a lot of people including you a lot if you told people about this crush. I know at the moment he is all you can think about and all that ... (read in full...)
How can I approach this guy at work to see if he's interested in dating me?
Q. I've been working with this guy for a year now and I just recently connected with him because we work in a factory that's very loud and fast paced. He always said hi to me before we started talking because he thought I was cute and I never had a gu...
A. 16 August 2016: Could you maybe find him on social media and talk to him there? It is not practical at work because it is fast paced and busy.
I do need to say though that it does not sound like you know each other very well and you are over thinking ever... (read in full...)
Why do so many men believe they have a right to sex without a condom?
Q. I'm sorry if this comes across as a rant but I'm really annoyed at the moment and looking to hear opinions around whether I've been unlucky or if what I'm experiencing is the norm. Why do the men I meet seem to think it's their right to get to ...
A. 30 July 2016: The answer is it shouldn't. The men you have been meeting sound very immature and selfish. Maybe you are going for the wrong type of men just? The way I see it is if you find someone who cares for you, they will do anything so that you don't need to ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my trust issues from a past breakup from ending my new relationship?
Q. I had a really bad break up with my ex, and I'm worried the damage it caused me will end in me sabotaging my new relationship. The relationship ended by my then boyfriend of 6 years bringing home a girl he managed at work. I found them curle...
A. 30 July 2016: You are right, you will push him away if you question him and struggle to trust him. You said it yourself you and your ex where not in a good place, but you and your current boyfriend are. I see with people who have trust issues that they will push ... (read in full...)
What's his problem? My father is rude and abrasive to me. Yet treats my sister with respect and helpfulness?
Q. I am a young adult still living at home with my parents. I get along with my mother, she is like my best friend and a wonderful mother and she sees what my father has been doing to me and her. My father is just horrible to me for no reason. I ha...
A. 29 July 2016: Have you ever asked him what his problem is with you? If not maybe you should tell him how miserable he is making you feel and see if he responds.
You say that even your mother can see the way that he is treating you, have you asked her does she ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out or stay friends?
Q. Hi I have recently broke up with my boyfriend and I have been thinking about trying to get back together with my first love the only possible is we both agree it was for the best to stay friends so should I ask him back out or should I leave an...
A. 29 July 2016: You should talk to him and ask him how he is feeling? Be honest with him and tell him you still like him and ask him would he like to start something up again? If he says no at least then you will know you done all that you could. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's personality has changed, should I address this? And how?
Q. I'm with this guy for a year and a half now. And he had just broken up with his abusive ex of 5 years, by the time we met. He was very frail, little things could upset him greatly, and it took a few months for him to be himself again. But he was ...
A. 29 July 2016: He was romantic at the start to try and win you over, now that he has you he feels he does not need to do these things, yes the honeymoon period is over, but you should still feel loved and valued in your relationship, if you are not feeling this ... (read in full...)
How can I stop fancying my teacher?
Q. Hello, I am a 16 year old girl (going to be 17 in August) and I have just finished my first year of college. So there's this male teacher who I have the biggest crush on he's quite young (probably in his 20s). It all started as a miny little c...
A. 29 July 2016: He might know that you like him, but that does not matter as I doubt he would tell anyone, and he won't act on it, as you are a minor and he would lose his teaching degree.
Now I know you have probably heard this many of times, but what you are ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 29 July 2016: If you are not going to do the proper thing for yourself then please do it for your children, your two boys deserve better than this, as soon as she moves in they will feel even more pushed out, do not allow this to happen, do not let him control ... (read in full...)
I want both men but can't have them both!
Q. I have been married for 3 years, but the past year and a half, my husband completely neglected me and took me for granted. I tried my best to save our relationship by trying to go out more with him, talking to him, looking sexy for him, finding out ...
A. 28 July 2016: I guess a lot of people would say that this is karma for cheating on your husband. The worst of it is you blame your husband for your mistakes and that is not okay. He may have been a terrible husband but that means you leave him if the marriage is ... (read in full...)
Could this older man like me?
Q. I'm sort of embarrassed to be asking this, as I normally don't have problems with this sort of issue. I'll give you a rundown of my situation: This man in twenty something years older than me. I am not underage, in my twenties. We work together...
A. 28 July 2016: Yes it does sound like he likes you. But I am going to say to be careful. You may fancy him and yes you are both adults so you are free to do what you want, but you are also both at very different stages in life and probably want different things, ... (read in full...)
Its come down to my parents or her...whom do I chose?
Q. I have been betrayed by people around me all the time. There haven't been many people who supported me. My mother was sometimes abusive towards me (hitting mainly) during my childhood. I was always scared to be in a relationship due to my trust ...
A. 28 July 2016: It would not be you cutting ties it would be them. I am sorry but I do not buy it, if they loved you they would not ask you to choose, they would be happy that you are happy. You have met someone who makes you happy, yes she may require some care, ... (read in full...)
Is this a compliment "I chose you" ???
Q. No problem just a question. If your husband/wife, partner lover whatever tells you "I CHOSE YOU" how do you receive it, as a compliment or an insult? We had the same question asked on facebook but most see it as a compliment. I don't! What's yo...
A. 28 July 2016: I would not really see it as either, why would you be insulted that he choose you? Most would see it as a compliment because it meant that there was someone else in the picture but that he choose you not them, I guess others don't want to be seen as ... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 28 July 2016: What did you expect? You put all the blame on him, you where vunerable, just out of a relationship and he sent you a friend request. But I don't buy it. You still new he was married when you had sex with him, you still knew he was taken, yet you ... (read in full...)
Best friend or girlfriend?
Q. So I've known my best friend since sixth grade,she moved to our hometown during the summer before sixth grade and every since then we've been inseparable. We've been there for each other during everything birth of her first born the birth of ...
A. 28 July 2016: It sounds like the perfect story, your friendship will never be the same now that you had sex, plus you had not been in contact for years so this is a new chapter, something to be excited about. If you are not sure you want to be with her then take ... (read in full...)
My mother-in-law is terrible to my wife! Should I say something or stay out of it?
Q. My 73 year old mother-in-law has always been manipulative. Back when I was dating my wife 20 years ago she would guilt trip her into coming to visit for months at a time and bribe her with gifts to stay if necessary. That really hurt our developi...
A. 28 July 2016: I totally agree with Honey Pie she talks a lot of sense. Please get the help for your wife that she needs, drinking alcohol is not the answer to her problems, and if she is over weight it might be best that you both take on a healthier life style. ... (read in full...)
How do I get over extreme loneliness?
Q. I talked to a guy on Tinder for about a month and after dating a week, we hooked up multiple times. He was interested in something sexual immediately and initially I was only seeking something romantic and a possible relationship. I hadn't been with ...
A. 28 July 2016: I felt a wave off sadness reading your post, you feel so lonely that you would just allow this man to use you so that you have a bit of closeness with someone, even though you want the full package you will make do with just sex from this man. ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to move but I'm feeling isolated!
Q. My husband and I have been together for more than 7 years now, 3.5 years married. When I met him, I had just moved from my hometown to his area for college, and I swore to myself it was temporary. I told him it wasn't fair for us to date, since I ...
A. 28 July 2016: You moved there for college not for him, you just happened to meet him there. He told you he would consider moving, you told him you would not live there full time, yet here you are seven years later. He probably thought at some point you would ... (read in full...)
How do I stop watching those videos? And stop masturbating for good?
Q. Hi.. so if im honest life gets pretty tough sometimes. Older people may think that the only problems a teenage girl could possibly have is a guy that doesnt want them or needing money to buy clothes or whatever. That couldnt be more naive. Over the ...
A. 28 July 2016: Again I would tell you there is nothing wrong with masturbation, or watching the videos. The thing with it is it should not be stopping you going out and meeting people, and if it is then yes that could be leading to a problem. If you want to stop ... (read in full...)
I wonder where do I stand in all of this? My deep seated trust issues are affecting me.
Q. There is this guy friend of mine. This started when we were around 14-15 years old (well I will be 21 y/o this year). He was my friend, a good friend. We were actually acquaintenced since we were 7 years old (due to the fact we were in the same sch...
A. 28 July 2016: My guess is that you have been around women all your life so you are unsure how to be around men, but you need to learn to just be the same. Have your boundaries. Try going out to places where there is a mix of guys and girls and just practice ... (read in full...)
Healthy eating is a bone of contention
Q. Hi please advise. My boyfriend is trying to have a healthier lifestyle because he is about 20 pounds overweight so he's trying to eat right, etc. I myself (in my opinion) should probably be around 125 but I' almost 140, so I'm at the upper end of ...
A. 28 July 2016: I really can see both sides here, when I was trying to lose weight my fiance would always be eating crap in front off me and asking me did I want some, and then so oh sorry I forgot. It is very frustrating and it is hard to cut out junk food, back ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 27 July 2016: Well it is messing with your head isn't it? Weather he means to or not, you are on a forum wondering what to do about it, how it is making you angry, how you want to be friends, but you still have feelings for him, off course it is messing with your ... (read in full...)
I'm so sick of the games that my husband's ex has been playing. When will this stop?
Q. When do the games stop?Do we have to grin and bear it? I have a situation where my husband and I have been married for twenty years. My whole marriage the ex has been in the picture with his family. I came along 2 years after they were divorced. ...
A. 27 July 2016: I think that you are being a bit petty if I am honest. She has a child to your husband and she still sees his family as her own, if she is playing silly games then let her, but she is causing no harm going to family events. You should be the bigger ... (read in full...)
His ex got engaged just yesterday. Since they were still on social media together, is her engagemet likely to bother him?
Q. Hi Ive been with my boyfriend 2 years, when we first got together, he had only recently broken up with his ex, they were together 10 months. They still have each other added on social media but as far as i know they dont talk. She got enga...
A. 27 July 2016: It really does depend. I still have my ex on Social Media and if I saw he got engaged, I would be happy for him. The thing is your boyfriend is with you now, not her, they did not work out after ten months, you both have lasted longer, so try not to ... (read in full...)
What are some good tips and ideas to help get started on repairing the trust I broke with my husband when I cheated?
Q. I have cheated on my husband and I told him about it, it broke him completely and he is just hanging on by a thread with what little piece of heart he has left. He feels that our whole marriage of 2 years has been a lie because I broke that vow a...
A. 27 July 2016: Nothing about this process is going to be quick believe me, once the trust has been broken it is a long process trying to put it back together again, a process where many people never make it to the end.
You told him the truth, so that was the best... (read in full...)
I want to help my troubled lover
Q. I spilt with my husband 6 months ago and met a wonderful man online. We've been together 2 months but two very intense wonderful months and just click. He was in a 20 year relationship previously which ended very abruptly (not his choice) he was ...
A. 27 July 2016: I am glad that you have met someone so soon after splitting with your husband, but I am also aware that it must still be quite raw for you. Two months is not a long time, but it is great to see that you are both sharing a lot with each other and ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of waiting for my boyfriend to come up with the dowry!
Q. Hey everyone....first of all I am African, so no judging please. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. When we started dating he was so excited about our relationship. He actually told after 3 months of dating that he couldn't wait to ...
A. 27 July 2016: He has huge plans but never has any money to do them. This guy is living in a dream world. I get why you are angry, I also get why you are embarrassed having to listen to your family wonder what is taking him so long. This to me is a huge warning ... (read in full...)
I want to date him but I don't want to rush things. Do I tell him now or give it time?
Q. Opinions please!!! So I am newly out of a long term relationship, and after it was over, but before I was moved out a met a guy. I was attracted to him physically but that was about it. Anyways long story short we ended up hanging out, talking, ...
A. 27 July 2016: He may still be seeing his ex, but if he is looking for someone else then his heart must not be in it with her anymore. If you like him then tell him, there is no harm in that. Be sure to take it slow and get to know each other, but do not do this ... (read in full...)
I just want to be happy for my sister, not jealous!
Q. So this could end up making me seem like a mean person so if that happens I apologize in advance. So I got a text today from my older sister announcing that she is pregnant. We've had a rocky relationship for the past 8 years,she's made some pre...
A. 27 July 2016: It is okay to feel sad about your own misfortune. Smile and tell your sister you are happy for her. It is not her fault that your baby died. I am sure it was hard for you and your family when you lost your baby. But this is a happy time for your ... (read in full...)
Ignored at my best friends wedding and the year leading up to it.
Q. My friend of 20 years got married at the weekend. A year ago she got engaged and I was saddened that I read it on Facebook- she used to pick up the phone and tell me news visa versa. It has been a one sided friendship for many years- I'll invite her ...
A. 27 July 2016: Really your best bet is just to end this friendship and be done with it, I can see wrong on both sides here, so it really was not all one sided, but I think now you just need to accept that this friendship is over. If you are not wanting to put in ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 27 July 2016: I think you just need to ask him to stop calling you, don't re-add him on social media and then he will not be able to mess with your head anymore. ... (read in full...)
How should I tell my boyfriend about this kiss with a girl while I was drunk?? I feel so guilty
Q. Hi, I am seeing someone for the past year(my boyfriend)but yesterday I stupidly got drunk and kissed a girl nothing more than a kiss and she was cool about it said it's not a big deal and it was obvious that we are both straight cuz I felt nothing ...
A. 26 July 2016: I know that it was only a kiss, but you still cheated, it doesn't matter if it was with a girl or a boy, you still cheated on him and he deserves to know the truth. I hope that he can forgive you, but you need to just be honest with him, tell him it ... (read in full...)
My potential date is acting strangely. How should I approach this issue? What can I say?
Q. My friend and i have decided to go on a date next week. We always chat online ( we have met in person ). The other day he said him and his family were doing something for his dads birthday going to a seaside so the original date was canceled til...
A. 26 July 2016: He is not giving you good signals. If he was really excited about the date then he would be writing back to you. I am not sure if he has changed his mind, or he is nervous, it could be he is also dating others. Either way it is your choice weather ... (read in full...)
What help is available for a man who feels "lost"? Loving wife and family, and yet I feel so very alone and isolated
Q. I am at the apex of my career. I have a wife who loves me and three great kids. Everyone sees a picture that is so far from what I feel inside. I feel increasing disconnected from everyone and everything. I have no one whom I can ask for help, or...
A. 26 July 2016: You are not alone, a lot of people go through what you are feeling, the sad thing is a lot of men don't know how to express there feelings because they have been brought up being told they should be the strong ones, men cannot cry or show emotion. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with liking and crushing for a cousin? My cousin is hot..
Q. so I have this problem i don't know if it wrong or not but , i knew i had a cousin, but never knew how she looked like. Later she went to my college and saw her , but i didn't know she was my cousin, and well nobody told me or showed me a picture ...
A. 26 July 2016: Just because you think that she is hot does not mean that you love her. Look there are plenty of women out there, so I think it is best to avoid being intimate with a member off your family it can cause a lot of complications. So unless she is a ... (read in full...)
I wonder where do I stand in all of this? My deep seated trust issues are affecting me.
Q. There is this guy friend of mine. This started when we were around 14-15 years old (well I will be 21 y/o this year). He was my friend, a good friend. We were actually acquaintenced since we were 7 years old (due to the fact we were in the same sch...
A. 26 July 2016: You decided to forgive him? Sweetie he didn't do anything to be forgiven. He told you repeatedly that he liked you, you did not respond, you told him to move on and that is what he did. He done nothing wrong, it is almost like you got in a bad mood ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 26 July 2016: There really is not a huge amount that you can do about it, I can see where you are coming from, but ex's do not stay friends for a reason, at the minute it is new and he probably wants to try and remain friends with you but finds it hard to, he is ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 25 July 2016: to be honest I think it is quite normal behavior once a relationship has ended, it is probably awkward for him, he cannot look you in the eye because he is not over you. It is simple really, he does not have to look at you over the phone so he can ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to him about these issues? He expects my sons to contribute via chores but does nor expect his teen daughter to do anything
Q. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!. I should be excited right? I'm more worried than anything. We have dated a little over a year and are planning to get married May 2017. We both have children from a previous marriage. He has two daughters (21 and !7), I have ...
A. 5 July 2016: It sounds like you might actually have been much better off just you and your boys, are you sure that this is the man you want to marry? It sounds like he was being made homeless and moved himself in to your home, don't get me wrong your a good ... (read in full...)
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