What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 30 August 2016: Off course he is going to try and come across as being the perfect husband. You should be glad that you are not the wife, imagine having to deal with the fact you are married to someone who is cheating on you. I do feel for his wife, she is ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 29 August 2016: Why does he do it? Because he knows he can get away with it, he probably enjoys the thrill off sneaking around and having sex with you. I am glad that you ended it, it was the smart thing to do. Yes it will take you some time but you will get over ... (read in full...)
I am feeling grief at the loss of this long term relationship. How can I get through this grief?
Q. Dear Cupid. This is the first time I have written on one of these sites but I felt I need some help. I have been married now for around 31 years and whilst we generally get on the sparkle as gone. Sex life is non existant and we have now both...
A. 23 August 2016: You should be honest with your wife and leave her if you do not love her anymore. Also if it was ten years ago, then if you loved her why did you not tell her you would leave your wife for her? It sounds like she did not feel the same way about you ... (read in full...)
When my boyfriend doesn't get what he wants, he becomes verbally aggressive. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi all So my boyfriend of 3 years really confuses me and upsets me at sometimes the most smallest things. He's working this Saturday and I am not. After work on Friday he asked " can I take your laptop at wok tomorrow so I can watch the foot...
A. 23 August 2016: He is behaving like a child, you may be with him a long time and you see the good side to him, but this is a dangerous side, which could get out off control very quick and lead to much more aggressive behavior. I think you need to talk to him when ... (read in full...)
Am I aroused by women because of bad relationships with men?
Q. I have spent all my life dating for the wrong reasons and the wrong people. After realizing most of my mistakes, I decided to stay single till I find the right person or feel right at least. I started dating at almost age 18, had only 2 to 3 rela...
A. 23 August 2016: It is okay to be turned on by both male and female it does not mean that you are a lesbian. Maybe you want to try something new, that is okay to do. Focus on what the person is like and not their gender, get to know someone and figure out if it is ... (read in full...)
How do I remain positive when I'm about to break?
Q. I'm 21 got married 3 months ago and im 10 weeks pregnant. Which is meant to be one of the happiest times in my life turns out to be one of the most hardest times I've ever had to face so far. Life began to spiral downwards really since the death of...
A. 22 August 2016: I am sorry about your miscarriage, it must have been difficult for you to have to go through that, it really is tough.
Your family being negative is a reason for you to be even more positive, but someone it does not show in this post, you let the ... (read in full...)
My lover is sad about leaving. It's due to a job change. How can I give him support?
Q. My lover's leaving to a diff state for a new job. We will still be friends but when we said bye he said he doesnt want me to miss him ..then he said he will miss me a lot and that weve gotten so close but hes leaving. We held each other for long...
A. 22 August 2016: Well it really all depends on how much the relationship means to the both of you. Is there any way you could move away with him and look for work there? Or is there anyway he can look for work closer?
It sounds to me like you have both made up your... (read in full...)
I know I worry a lot. Scared of getting hurt again. How do I stop myself over-thinking things through?
Q. I've been talking to a new guy for quite a while now and it has been going well.. we have both admitted we like each other quite a bit and have spent some good time together. I never thought I'd get over my ex who I broke up with over 4 months ag...
A. 22 August 2016: It is natural to worry when you have been hurt in the past, but you need to let go off that hurt. You say you have been single for four months, so the break up is still quite fresh. I think when you feel yourself worrying you should distract ... (read in full...)
Am I making this about myself?
Q. Can someone please tell me if I am over reacting and making this about myself? My husband's adult children are always in hard times because they don't have jobs or quit their jobs and one of them just keeps having babies that she can't afford. We ...
A. 22 August 2016: No I think your husband owes you an apology here. He should not have spoke to you like that. It is half your money therefore you both need to sit down and talk about how much is needed and if you are both okay with giving his daughter money. My ... (read in full...)
"You're the kind of weird guys think is interesting." What?
Q. Okay so I'm just a lot to confused on what one of my friends meant by this. I was at one of my male friends house, and he prompted to call me weird. I responded telling I know this, its not anything new to me. He followed by saying "yes but, you're ...
A. 22 August 2016: My guess is that he finds you interesting as he cannot read you to easily. ... (read in full...)
Should I be feeling so selfish for wanting to leave my husband? For me, the love has faded.
Q. My husband is a good, hardworking father who loves me and our children. He has also previously been physically and emotionally abusive toward me and on a much lesser scale our daughter. I know I should have left then but I wanted so badly to...
A. 19 August 2016: Have you tried all you can to work on the marriage? The thing is I don't think marriage should be taken lightly, especially when the children are involved. Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel, or even tried marriage ... (read in full...)
My Bf's cousin died recently, in a car accident. Now he's acting all weird. What did I do wrong?
Q. I have been dating my bf for the past 3 1/2 months and I love him so much and he loves me. but recently he lost his cousin in a car accident. He was acting fine all day yesterday and then my friend called me. He is gay and he lives across the coun...
A. 18 August 2016: I hope your boyfriend can pull through his grief, he must be going through a tough time at the moment having to deal with such a loss.
Why your friend would talk to him about hurting you while he is grieving really is beyond me, what a selfish thin... (read in full...)
FWB where I developed feelings for her. She seemed to wantt more too. Now she denies ever feeling that?
Q. So I'm looking for some feedback. I'm a 32 year old male. I've got a fwb that has been going on for quite some time now. Thing is, I think I'd somewhat developed feelings for her. The reason I'd developed some feelings is because of all of the ...
A. 18 August 2016: If I could guess I would say she has got fed up with waiting for more to happen, you say she gets hurt easily I can imagine she has feelings for you but she put up her guard when she realized just how much. You need to talk to her about how you feel ... (read in full...)
How can I control my feelings about my Bf masturbating, alone, when I'm not there?
Q. Somebody please tell me what is wrong with me. I cannot cope with my bf masturbating when I'm not here. I am paranoid about it. We only have sexual encounters once a week as it is. Aside from everything else when I know he's done it I get so upse...
A. 18 August 2016: If you want more sex then tell him that, but it is his choice if he wants to touch his body or not, you cannot control him. My guess is that it was your post about the porn as well when you are upstairs. You really need to talk to him. ... (read in full...)
Wife's vagina passes air during and after sex. Could this mean she is sleeping with someone else?
Q. My wife fart before I insert my penis that was for the first time after that it continues while having sex or afteer sex is she having an affair? when I tried to insert my penis her vagina fart after that it continues while after having sex or after...
A. 18 August 2016: Air gets trapped when you are entering in to her, so off course she must be having an affair!! Honestly I really do not know how you came to this conclusion, my guess is that you are very insecure and do not trust your wife. Poor woman!!... (read in full...)
She says my gift of flowers was inappropriate. What does she mean by this?
Q. I am a lesbian and I recently gave flowers to a girl. I haven't seen her since March and is now August so it's been a few months since I saw her last. When I gave her the flowers she said that I've been acting inappropriate and that the flowers ...
A. 18 August 2016: My guess is that she probably saw the flowers and thought you where meeting up with her as a date, as they are usually seen as a romantic gesture, so my guess is she kinda freaked out and told you straight. Are you really good friends with her? It ... (read in full...)
Distance says no but my heart says yes
Q. Hello, i have spoken to this guy for a few years and met him a handful of times and kissed. I speak to him everyday and his like my best friend (as well as relationship material) but we have never tried a relationship due to my travelling and living ...
A. 18 August 2016: It sounds like you guys are more pen pals than anything else. You could both make more off an effort if you wanted a relationship to work, you could meet half way once a week. The thing is you are still young so this might be difficult.
You say ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, how much porn is too much porn?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 6 years, but after living together for 1 year our sex life has grown dull. For some reason we haven't openly talked about masturbation/porn in at least 2 years, but I guess I always knew my boyfriend watched it even now we ...
A. 18 August 2016: If you are unhappy with your sex life then you need to let him know, maybe he thinks you are happy with once a week and that is why he turns to porn. My guess is that he is not choosing porn over you, he probably just uses it to relax. Talk to him ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 18 August 2016: No he was not trying to tell you he loved you any more. He wanted to make sure that you did not still have feelings for him so that he could have guilt free sex and that is what he did. If you want a FWB then you have it. If you want more then find ... (read in full...)
I can't think of any solutions to get him to move out. Help?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend moved in with me 8 months ago as he was retrenched. Fortunately he now has a new job but the spell of unemployment hit him hard financially and he is still struggling to make ends meet. He also has a child with ex girlfriend. Our ...
A. 17 August 2016: It is your home, do not allow him to just live there. Tell him it is over tell him he has two weeks to move out and if he is not gone you will pack up his stuff and leave it on the door step. Sweetie if he knows you want him out and he is not going ... (read in full...)
What is he trying to say? Says he has to ''stay away'' from me. He called me ''the devil''. Asked me if I still love him.
Q. my ex stopped by to see me before i left for a 6 month business trip, he's been very distant from me for the past month and a half. he gives me a hug and holds me tight, he asked me if i missed him and i said no, then we started kissing and he told ...
A. 17 August 2016: He told you what you wanted to hear so that he could have sex with you, simple as, then clarified he only wanted to be friends. You allowed him just to re-enter your life and you offered him sex on a plate so easily. Therefore he now feels he can ... (read in full...)
Together for 3 years and we have 2 children together. Did he ever really intend to marry me? Am I interpreting this situation accurately?
Q. I need help and i'll try and keep this as short as possible. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years almost. We have 2 children together within this time and our relationship was very full on from the beginning with me falling pregnant...
A. 17 August 2016: I read your last post as well, I don't have much to add really other than well it was not his fault you got pregnant, if you really wanted marriage, you should have held off a bit until you got to know him better. But it is what it is. He wants you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and crushing for her. But how can I determine if she feels the same?
Q. I met a girl at a Summer camp this year and we became close friends. She lives far away (well, in the same state) but we still keep in touch. The problem is, I've taken a real liking to her and I am crushing on her like nobody's business. She ac...
A. 17 August 2016: It is nice you have met someone that you care about, the problem here is that you both live so far away so even if you both do like each other, at your age long distance will never work. It is okay to tell her how you feel, but I think you also need ... (read in full...)
Family are trying to kill our relationship
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship since an year now. I love her and she loves me too. But recently her family got to know about our relationship. Basically I am from a small town area here in West Bengal and she is from a town near Kolkata. Now o...
A. 17 August 2016: It is a tough culture when it comes to you meeting someone and falling in love. What I would do is take pen to paper and write a letter to her mother and her father. Tell them how much you want to be with her, tell them how much you miss her, tell ... (read in full...)
After this can I trust my friend?
Q. Dear Aunts I have something on my mind that is disturbing me. Saturday night, me and two of my friends got drunk for the first time then suddenly we started talking too much. Pouring to each other our feelings towards our boyfriends. One ...
A. 17 August 2016: I would be careful trusting your other friend who stayed sober and recorded you both, to me this is sneaky behavior. You should be able to relax with alcohol instead of worrying someone is recording you.
This other girl, well it sounds like she ... (read in full...)
How do I tell what he's thinking?
Q. I know this Brit guy from Tinder. We like each other so after a week or so we got together - as in couple. His job requires him to fly across countries. We can only see each other one week every month so most of the time we have to we communicate ...
A. 17 August 2016: You should not define him by where he is from, all men are different. If he is showing no emotion then maybe he is just not that in to you. It could also be that you both hardly know each other yet so you should take things slowly and get to know ... (read in full...)
How do I make my gay fantasy real?
Q. I am single guy, wondering what it would be like to have sex with this guy i know. How do i go about asking him. i think he is gay but really don't know for sure. i fantasize about sex with him all the time, Oh by the way i never have had sex with...
A. 17 August 2016: Lesbian, gay, straight or bi-sexual it does not matter, most want more than sex, and even if they don't they need to be attracted to the other person, with chemistry. I don't think you should ask him for sex. Maybe talk to him, get to know him ... (read in full...)
I want my wife to teaze others - any valid opinions?
Q. Have any of you in committed relationships ever experimented in permitting one partner to engage in some limited sexual behavior towards others, so long as the other partner is present and consenting. This might consist of very close dancing, ...
A. 17 August 2016: The thing with you both is that you seem to have worked this out in your head, and you are both adults so you should follow what you want. Now as you said your wife wants to take part in this so that's all good, but let me ask you a few questions. ... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 17 August 2016: I think you are right he will not care, because you are a mistress, the woman he says he loves and vowed to be faithful to is lying in bed with him blissfully happy. Sweetie I think you need to end this now and get some counselling, he has warped ... (read in full...)
What do you think of the things that my ex said to me? I still find my ex attractive
Q. This is about my ex and his brother. I dated my ex for about four months last year. It didn't go well because we were both unwell at the time. I had only just come out of hospital when I met him. I was in there about my mental health problems...
A. 17 August 2016: It does not matter what your ex's motivations are here, you need to look out for yourself, one of the two of them will hurt you, it sounds like the two of them want to date you, which is very messy and could come in between two brothers. You are in ... (read in full...)
I may become dependent on my soon-to-be husband and it makes me feel lesser than him, how do I cope?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship that is about to finally close within the next year. My boyfriend is well educated and well off. I'm still in school, and in a different country. We're planning on getting married. However, my education d...
A. 17 August 2016: I can totally understand your point of view, the only advice I can give to you is to try it out and see if it works for you. It is okay not to want to be a housewife or a kept woman, believe me I would be the same. But the reality is if you want to ... (read in full...)
My long-term friend gets jealous when I mention activities with other friends. Why would she do this?
Q. A long term friend of mine , known her 30 yrs.. (see her every 4 wks) has only 1 other friend gets ? Jealous Changes the subject Talks over me When I mention, casually as part of normal catch up conversation what I did with other friends in...
A. 16 August 2016: She may be feeling lonely and does not want to hear about your time with other friends, it could be she is not interested in your life, or it could just be that she is jealous of you. Talk to her next time she does this and tell her how it makes you ... (read in full...)
I’m so tired of her treating me like her girlfriend when it’s convenient to her and her feelings and like I’m not her girlfriend when it’s inconvenient!
Q. I need some advice. I feel like I'm her girlfriend when she feels like it and it's convenient to her and her feelings, and I'm not her girlfriend when it's inconvenient. And I'm so tired of it. I've been seeing the same girl for almost a year. W...
A. 16 August 2016: Sweetie I know that it feels like any other relationship, but the thing is that it is not, there is no title, no label, nothing to hold you both together. Talk to her and ask her what she wants, ask her to be your girlfriend if that is what you ... (read in full...)
Vibrator too loud and sharing a room with a family member, what to do?
Q. Ok so I'm 19 and I don't have a car to go by a vibrator at a store and I share a room with a family member so its really hard for me to masterbate late at night for instance now anyways I use a mack massager but its too loud and every time I turn it ...
A. 16 August 2016: Can you not catch a bus or go on a girlie day out shopping and buy a quiet one? Okay so you share a room so that does limit your privacy but am sure your family member is not in there 24 hours a day, why not use a locked bathroom? ... (read in full...)
How do I behave to the one I want?
Q. Well it hasn't worked being open an honest in my relationships. I tell people to act like you don't care, don't call them or text; let them do it. Act like you always got things to do if they say they missed you, don't say it back. I know its ...
A. 16 August 2016: My guess is that you are going for the wrong type of girl who likes to play hard to get, not all women are like that, and some do like to be told where they stand and that they are wanted. So yes my guess is that these games work for you because of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not happy, he doesn't smile or talk anymore.
Q. so I've been dating my be for 9months, everything has been perfect but for 2-3months my bf has changed, he doesn't converse and have laughs with me anymore, he just seem so serious and hardly smile. He doesn't even talk to me I do all the ...
A. 16 August 2016: Don't think about marriage until you are 100 percent sure that you are both in a happy relationship. It sounds like you are trying very hard and you are working hard on this relationship. He may be depressed and needs help. Is he only miserable and ... (read in full...)
Why would my BF be so bothered that my platonic guy friend helped me while my Bf was away?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend was out of town on a guy's golf weekend. I got a flat tire while he was away and needed some help to drive to the tire store to get a new tire and run an errand while I was not able to drive. So I called my guy friend who is on...
A. 16 August 2016: Is your boyfriend also in his 30s? I think your boyfriend is insecure and does not like you having male friends, have you been together long? This could be the start off some controlling behavior. If he was secure with you he would trust you, but ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with the change in my mother's behavior and personality since my parents split up?
Q. Hi im an 18 yrs old girl,I got a problem with my mom, She's not used to wear sexy clothes when i was a kid but she changes what she wear's maybe 6 years ago? but that's not the problem,this past two years her personality changes,she keep...
A. 16 August 2016: You just had a fight with your mother so emotions are running high, allow yourself to calm down. Then talk to her and tell her how you are feeling, but also ask her how she is feeling.
You say she wears sexy clothes but did not used to. Well I gues... (read in full...)
Sexual tension with my friend. But I also have LDR boyfriend. Am I emotionally cheating? What should I do?
Q. Hey guys I really need some advice, I am in a relationship since two years. a year and half into the relationship we broke up, in that time i got together with a friend of mine. and my friend and i have extreme sexual tension between us even when ...
A. 16 August 2016: Are you fighting for it to go away with your friend? Or are you allowing it to happen? You see maybe you both have to spend time together due to education or work, but it does not mean you need to touch each other or get close. You know you have ... (read in full...)
Relationship going downhill and we need help
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years. We have 2 kids together both of whom are under 2 years old. We have lived together for 2 1/2 years. We have been talking about buying a house though and stop renting as it's dead money....
A. 16 August 2016: You both had children very very quickly in to the relationship and sometimes that makes things to serious to quick for you both and you do not get a chance to properly get to know one another before being parents. So this is difficult on you both.
Y... (read in full...)
Is it too early to try to define our relationship?
Q. So I've been speaking to this guy since December. We met online and he perked up courage to ask me on a date in April. We went on a really nice cinema date before he left for work again offshore. We have recently went on another date at his which...
A. 16 August 2016: You have been talking for eight months, and yet only two dates, I wonder what it is that is stopping you both making more off an effort, is it long distance? Is he away with work a lot? If so then yes it is to soon to ask, but if more off an effort ... (read in full...)
My best friend doesn't want to see me!
Q. Hello, I'm in a really weird situation. I'm a student and I live in a house with 6 other people. One of them is Joe, and I ever since I've met him I've had a crush on him. The past year we've become really close friends, he's a sweet guy but he's ...
A. 16 August 2016: Sweetie he probably does not want to see you because he is embarrassed, he is your friend, and he mistakenly had drunken sex with you, but this took the two of you to do this not just him, so it should not all have been his fault, you both consented ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend avoids my family!
Q. Should i go on vacation with my boyfriends family even though he avoids my family? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Things are getting serious and he's been mentioning marriage and I would love to marry him one day. The problem...
A. 16 August 2016: You need to sit down and talk to him about this, he does not know you are feeling like this because you have not told him, everything you have wrote here you need to tell him so that he knows how you are feeling. He may not be good with your family ... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 28 July 2016: What did you expect? You put all the blame on him, you where vunerable, just out of a relationship and he sent you a friend request. But I don't buy it. You still new he was married when you had sex with him, you still knew he was taken, yet you ... (read in full...)
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