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writes: Dear CupidI have a great boyfriend. It's not bias nor my imagination, he is attentive and thoughtful and I am quite spoiled actually..when I come home my dinner is always ready and he is always ready with cuddles after work tooProblem is we have been dating for several years and he hasn't proposed yetHe went through a very very difficult divorce (wife cheated) and I met him after that so I am trying to be patientHe asked one of my friends to help him ring shop last year and he was talking about it a lot then stopped...why????My problem is now I am getting so impatient I feel bitter and can't seem to enjoy my time with him.Like when we go places and he wants pictures of us I can't help thinking I don't want to post the pics unless we're married or it doesn't countOr he wants to go on a romantic vacation and I feel bitter because it's not a honeymoonOr he wants to go a long walk but I'get irritated if I see people with strollers...I wish I had a squishy little baby who looked like himThis marriage thing is consuming me yes I love him and want to marry but what's taking him so long and everyone I know has been proposed to (not that it's a race but it sure feels like it at 29) so combination of desire to be his wife plus social pressure and anger towards him and angry at myself for not appreciating all he does for me but driving myself crazy for the need for things to move more quickly...what do I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 September 2016):
 The only person who has the answers is him. Have you spoke to him about marriage and kids, is it what he wants as well? You need to sit down with him and talk about it. Also there is no reason why you cannot be the one to propose, times are changing it is not always the man now. Talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2016): What a great relationship! Is it worth throwing all that away because he hasn't married you yet. It's not always a bad thing, sometimes waiting is ok because marrying means commitment for the rest of your life and for it to work you have to know each other so very intimately. Don't pressure him. He might be thinking about it, but I don't know that. Do you? Communication, patients and empathy is gold in any relationship or bond. Are both of your needs being met? Maybe ask where the relationship is heading? Are you satisfied in other areas of your life as well? You need balance. Try a therapist, they can be so helpful. Good luck!
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reader, NORA B +, writes (11 September 2016):
How lovely to read that you both have such a wonderful relationship,and that its on going.Its not always easy being a woman and i feel very much that you had great patients with him.However would you consider having an indept chat with him,telling him how you feel,and that you were wondering about the future.Ask him what does he see for you both on the Near future.However depending on his answers...you may have to be positive and ask him direct questions....you know him very well so you will also know how to handle this situation gentle but firm.Kind regards NORA B.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (11 September 2016):
 Ok, probably a silly question, but have you actually asked him what is going on? Have you explained to him how much you would like to be his wife? What happened around the time he suddenly stopped talking about rings and things?
Perhaps shopping for rings has brought back bad memories of his marriage and he fears he will jinx the relationship if he moves it up a notch?
Only he knows what is going on inside his head. You are entitled to answers.
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