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writes:I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again.I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He would walk pass me working out on a regular basis but avoid eye contact.One day he had changed role from PT and was Mopping the floor. I decided to break the ice. I said he looks really handsome when he smiles. Since then every time he sees me he will come up to me and talk. He has since given me his number and he had mine and has offered me a free Personal training session with him. I am more than certain I am at least 10 yrs older than him. However I do feel flattered that someone has taken notice if me with no make up and often looking my worst .I am not sure how to move it on now. On what's app he said we will talk. Apparently people at the gym have noticed as one of the ladies in my dance class made a comment about me and him.I've been so unhappy in love that i am hoping he may be the one. He is totally different to the previous men I have dated.Not sure how to move it alone. I think he knows I like him now. Something tells me to wait for him to make the move.Any advice welcome ! Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 September 2016):
 I think the best thing you can do is keep your distance, it sounds like this man might be a bit of a player. If you are feeling hurt from him talking to another woman, then you need to cool things down. You are getting a bit to serious to quick, your not even sure yet he is interested. Instead off dropping him hints, why not just ask him out for coffee, take away all the game playing and see what he says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2016): Hi AuntsI want your advice. i have been light and cheery with this guy. However this morning I was ending my training session and came out in to the reception area and saw him sitting with an older women plastered in make up and dressed to impressed. I felt a sense of jealousy. I have seen him talking to this woman before while she was working out. Despite him giving me his number, we have not had a good chat so I still do not know anything about him. I felt a little hurt this morning as I decided to sit in the reception for quite a while and he did not come and speak to me. I have been asking the receptionist to find out some information for me so I am wondering if word has got out that I fancy him. I play to give him a wide berth now and see how he behaves. I have been dropping hints about coffee but he has not been picking up on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2016): Hi AuntsI want your advice. i have been light and cheery with this guy. However this morning I was ending my training session and came out in to the reception area and saw him sitting with an older women plastered in make up and dressed to impressed. I felt a sense of jealousy. I have seen him talking to this woman before while she was working out. Despite him giving me his number, we have not had a good chat so I still do not know anything about him. I felt a little hurt this morning as I decided to sit in the reception for quite a while and he did not come and speak to me. I have been asking the receptionist to find out some information for me so I am wondering if word has got out that I fancy him. I plan to give him a wide berth now and see how he behaves. I have been dropping hints about coffee but he has not been picking up on them.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (16 September 2016):
Yes go to the personal training session, see how you both get on and who knows what may happen from there, good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2016): Thank you all for your responses. I am protecting myself from hurt. He has made me feel so happy just by smiling and talking to me and the little things he does to show his interest like passing by my dance class to see whether or not I am in.
I can't bring myself to ask him out. He was really keen to arrange a personal training session with me. Lets see how that goes. Maybe a little flirting and touching may lead me to make a suggestion.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (14 September 2016):
You are ready to date again which is great, you are out flirting and enjoying life great. Don't rush in to thinking you have found the one, as I would hate to see you get hurt. You could ask him casually would he like to go for a drink, and then see how he reacts from there, but make sure if he does flirt not to allow him to get to close to soon, you want to make sure that he is interested in more than just a physical relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2016): Many guys date older women for sex but wont take them seriously as life long partners. Make sure he does all the pursuing if hes serious about you. continue be friendly, let him step up to the plate and let him chase you. That way you can know if hes being genuine about his feelings. Goood luck.
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reader, malvern +, writes (14 September 2016):
 Don't worry about the age gap, it's really not an issue. Much like the other answers I would also say don't pin too much hope on all this and just continue to be friendly. If going out for a drink seems a bit too much like a date then I would say that you suggest having a cup of coffee together during the daytime if you are both available. Somehow it's a bit more casual and gives each of you an opportunity/excuse to leave afterwards to, 'get back to work' or 'go and do the shopping' etc. and therefore more relaxing.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (14 September 2016):
The something that tells you to wait,for him to make the next move,is the right choice.Keep talking,smiling,and a cheerful hello...but it would be wise to allow it to happen.Because you do not know his history and by that i mean...he maybe healing from an old romance.One never knows where a person is coming from.So you are doing all you can do....let him make the next move.Best luck NORA B.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (14 September 2016):
 Only one piece of advice: don't jump the gun and pin all your hopes on this man being "the one". You know next to nothing about him yet you already think he is your knight in shining armour and the solution to all your problems. I can tell you right now, he is NOT.
That aside, you have exchanged numbers so he is obviously interested in you. (I don't see why the age gap should be a problem.) He sounds painfully shy and in need of encouragement so why not suggest you go out for a drink after a gym session one evening? Nothing heavy, just a casual "fancy a quick drink?" And see what happens.
Good luck.
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