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writes:Help please!I am very awkward around people and have trouble with keeping eye contact.i have a tendency to sweat profusely and stutter when I speak. I think I offend people when I don't look at them or say hi but really I'm just terrified of mingling. I have also been suffering from depression. I've been told by family that I need to be more of an optimistic person in general but how can I with this insane handicap? I feel very lonely all the time but I know a lot of people who could be my friends if I could just not be this awkward person and know what to say when I see them. There's more difficulty with women. I've even managed to bottle it with women who have approached me! Im just this nervous wreck all the time and my inability to interact is making me lonely beyond what I can bear. please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2016):
 Get help first for your depression. This is probably making your social anxiety worse. Head to your doctor and see what help is available out there to you. Remember your anxiety is real and it is not you being silly or rude to people. It is a horrible thing to have but the good news is that there is help available for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2016): Face your fear and practice everday.I got a busy people orientated job to force myself to do it.I am miles better now than I used to be.I still go red,stutter and can't make eye contact if people ask me questions about myself. Equally I avoid people I like because I am scared to talk to them.In a work context I am confident, hopefully in time I will improve further.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (8 November 2016):
 You need to join some groups, art, theatre, a choir,night school. Also get fit. Go to the gym. Shower a lot and wear natural fibre clothing. The effect of this won't be instantaneous but over a period of time it will help.
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