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writes:I'm in love with my best friend. We have been friends for years and have slept together on and off for a while. Am I confusing sex with love. Should I tell him?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 November 2016):
Most people do confuse sex for love at first. They think having sex will bring love...when it should be the other way around. Get committed love first, then reward that love with sex.
Never offer up sex in hopes of a guy stay with or being with you. He must commit himself to you alone, and to love you alone, before sex.
You should never be having sex with anyone who is off and on.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 November 2016):
 Off course some people cannot switch off feelings when having sex with someone and it sounds like you are like this. If you have caught feelings for him then it is time to be honest. Because it would not be fair on you to continue on with friendship and sleeping together. You need to be honest with him and ask him how he feels. If he does not feel the same then fair enough but the sex needs to stop for you to be able to overcome your feelings.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (9 November 2016):
 Well if you find the right moment then see if you can find a way to ask him if he would like to go to the next level - whatever that might be.
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