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writes:Should I tell her or Not? I'm 19, and it's sad to say, but I'm in love with my step mom. It's a bad thing because I'm also a female. Every time that I'm around her, I stutter, smile a lot,etc. It's getting to the point to where I can't even hug her because I feel m going to touch her in a weird way... omg!!! I just need help!!! So should I tell her that I love or not?? I'm freaking out; I don't want to hurt my dad but I just can't help but love her. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2016): Maybe sharing this feeling with her wouldn't hurt so much. Things might get better then. She will understand a gal your age for sure.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2016):
 Yeah exactly you can stop worrying about it, it will get easier in time.
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reader, Loverhere12 +, writes (9 November 2016):
Loverhere12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your help! I know what i should do; keep at at a mother to daughter level. It's just a phase, that will be broken out of of,so I need to stop worrying about it.. right? But anyways thanks guys, I totally appreciate it????
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (8 November 2016):
Sweetie you have a crush on her and also your hormones are running havoc so you are going to feel all over the place and feel like you will never feel in love so much as you do now. Believe me it is all part off growing up. Telling her will only make a mess off things and your family life. You need to learn to control it. I know it is intense at the moment, but believe me these feelings will die down and will move on to someone else. So in the mean time just treat her like your dads partner and remember that she is off limits to you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 November 2016):
I understand how all of this works. I was in the same boat at your age. When we are inexperience with love and overloaded with hormones, we tend to lock on to a person that makes us feel loved. Someone who is familiar to us, who we can see loving us back.
Does that feeling go away? Yes in time, but not unless we focus on a new love. When you do find a new love, make sure that person makes you feel the same way you do now.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (8 November 2016):
 Just treat her like a mother. Not a stepmum or friend - your actual mother. Don't cuddle, other than a quick hug hello/goodbye and keep it the way you would with your dad.
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reader, Loverhere12 +, writes (8 November 2016):
Loverhere12 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@andie's thoughts, I was 15 at the time whenever she dated my father, but I didn't begin to like her until I was 17.. I understand that this is bad to think about,and do, but I can't help it. She wants meet to spend the next two weeks at her house when I come home from college for a vacay, but I don't know if i can!! Thank you for the advice though guys!!
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (7 November 2016):
The word "stepmom" has a word that makes having a relationship with her next to impossible..."MOM".It would be like having a sexual relationship with your own mother.
I understand that you need that kind of female bond, someone you can trust, and who cares about you, the way you care about them.
Take the love you feel for her and make feel loved like she was your own mother. However, find someone else to show your affections. She may not return the same affection towards you, and that would hurt you more.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 November 2016):
This is a crush, not love, and you shouldn't tell her.
It's also not at all bad that you have a crush on a lady - it's very normal.
When did she enter your life? How old were you?
You need to hang out with people in your age group and think of her as family, i.e not dateable. This crush will fade over time.
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