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writes:I'm away from my wife now for 1 month, she's visiting her parents and she is pregnant, we are in good terms and very happy with our relation, we have this kind of up and downs that can happen to all the coupleswell one week ago I traveled for 3 days for business, during this period I met a girl in a bar we discussed and it ended by having her in my hotel room, she spent 2 days with me and we did a lots of crazy and stupid things, sex, drugs, rock n roll, I felt like I traveled back by 12 years, now I went back from this small vacation and now for one week I'm not feeling well, I miss this little lady so much and in the same time I'm in love with my wife, I'm really getting sick of thisWhat I have to do to stop this, I thought that it will be a quick pleasure time but now I think I'm having a crash for this girl
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 March 2017):
 Oh your poor wife, you are off having sex with another woman while she is pregnant, and you are more worried about your feelings than hers. She deserves a much better man than you.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (5 March 2017):
 First things first: GET TESTED FOR STDs! Do not touch your wife sexually until your doctor has given you clear test results.
Secondly, own up to your wife. She needs to know that you thought it was okay to cheat on her, then make up her mind if she wants to stay with you or not.
You must not lie to her or hide it from her. The girl you saw was a fling, not someone you know well enough to develop true feelings for. You were taking drugs and having sex with someone new - while your poor wife was pregnant back home, trusting you to be faithful.
You need to man up and take responsibility. Tell your wife, let her decide if she wants to stay or not and never cheat on anyone again. Also, be a good father, not someone who hurts people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2017): What if you give your wife and child diseases just because of a "good time?" Will you feel better? A man entrusted with a wife and child should behave better than a street teen. You hate yourself and was willing to reduce yourself to nothing and afterwards, you still miss being so.
What a shame
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 March 2017):
 You've inadvertently used the right word in your last sentence to sum up your problem. It's not a crush, it's a *crash*.
I feel bad for your wife. She has no idea what she's in for and no one deserves this pain, least of all at a time like this. But most of all, I feel bad for your unborn child, who you are bringing into this world and who is already suffering without even bring born.
I don't know what to tell you; there's a child involved that you are responsible for. The saddest part is that you don't even regret your actions and au contraire you're actually developing feelings for this girl. My God... The poor poor child and your poor wife... What have you done to them!
First things first, stop fooling yourself. You don't love your wife. You don't hurt people that you love in this disgusting way. Secondly, the "little lady" as you refer to her, was just a brief affair and I'm surprised that you see a future with her. Anyway, your choice.
Tell your wife the truth and allow her to make a decision. You have failed both as a husband and as a father. If your wife decides to leave you then be prepared to lead a very unhappy life. A few orgasms with a stranger vs a lifetime of happiness with your family was a no-brainer. Sadly, you couldn't even do that.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (4 March 2017):
 You are paying the mental price for your infidelity.
I hope you used reliable contraception, otherwise you may have more to contend with than just a yearning to see this girl again. If not, you really should go and get yourself tested before having sex with your poor wife again. If you pass on an STI to her while she is pregnant, not only are you endangering her but also your unborn baby.
You travelled back in time, to when you were young and carefree. It must have been intoxicating. However, it was not real. Real is your wife and baby.
We do not stop being attracted to other people just because we are in relationships. Whether we choose to act on that attraction is what defines our moral standards though. You showed you had very low moral standards by cheating on your wife while she is pregnant. Imagine how hurt your wife would be if she knew what you had done.
I do hope you are strong enough to stay away from this girl but I wouldn't mind betting you have a way of contacting her and that you are tempted to see her again. If you think of this as driving another nail into the coffin of your marriage each time you see this girl, it will hopefully help you to stay away from her - regardless of her attraction.
If you carry on seeing her, your wife WILL find out. They inevitably do. Someone will see you or you will leave some clue which will make her wife suspicious.
We can do anything we want in life but everything comes wiht a price. The price for your infidelity could be losing your wife and child. Are you prepared to pay that price?
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