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writes:I met a guy 6 years ago he was going through a divorce and I a separation. After couple conversation we had words and he said that we will not add up. Sometimes I would message him and he would ignore my messages. I recently moved and last week he drove through my neighbourhood. He stopped and shouted me but I kind of pretended I was busy. A week has past and he has not tried to contact me. Should I try to make contact with him or wait for him to make the first move? What are your thoughts?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 March 2017):
 I think you are holding on to something that is not their. He was probably passing for other reasons saw you and said hello, he is not interested in you and I think you need to accept that.
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reader, Barnat +, writes (5 March 2017):
Barnat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe didn't shout at me. He saw me slowed down wind his window down said hello and asked how I was doing? That's what I meant by shouted me
During the time he said we wouldn't work I was still living with my husband and one day he passed to give me a look up and my husband behaved unfriendly.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (4 March 2017):
 OP, he'd ask you out if he wanted you. Move on.
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reader, Barnat +, writes (4 March 2017):
Barnat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe didn't shout at me. He saw me slowed down wind his window down said hello and asked how I was doing? That's what I meant by shouted me
During the time he said we wouldn't work I was still living with my husband and one day he passed to give me a look up and my husband behaved unfriendly.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (4 March 2017):
 Sweetheart, how may more ways does he have to show you that he is not into you?
He ignores your texts and has actually told you in as many words that he does not see any future for the two of you.
Move on to someone who will treat you with respect.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (4 March 2017):
There's no room for misunderstanding here; you know he doesn't want to be with you. Please let go and move on.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 March 2017):
 My thoughts?
WHY are you wasting time and energy on this guy?
You met him 6 YEARS ago and nothing came of it then. He IGNORES your texts, so really HOW interested is he? *hint hint* not at all interested. When a guy says "we wouldn't add up as a couple" - then YOU LISTEN and move on.
As for shouting at you as he drove through your neighborhood - it's not an indication of interest either. it's an indication of BAD manners.
IF YOU, however, are interested in him why play games like "O pretended to be busy"?
If you are looking for a partner, a serious relationship then SKIP this one and look elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2017): This doesn't make sense, there's not enough information. Why would he randomly drive to your neighbourhood to shout at you?
It sounds like he clearly doesn't want to be with you because when you message he ignores it and actually told you that you wouldn't 'add up' as a couple.
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