I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 26 February 2018: How would you feel if your husband found out and left you? ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend gone too far? He says its just porn but I've found him on swinger sites, looking up ex's
Q. Has my boyfriend of 8 years gone too far? I have recently found my bf has been watching porn. He knows I don't like this but I could have got over that. But I have also found he has been on swinger sites, sites with a list of girls to date, his find...
A. 25 July 2017: No you shouldn't just get over it, he is messing with your head that is all he is doing, how has it progressed since you wrote this post? Did use manage to sort it out?... (read in full...)
My army guy only contacts me when he's down
Q. Hello, I met this guy online and started to talk for almost 2 months. He is in military active but he is a national guard. We went on several dates. Most of the times he texted me when he is depressed cause of his family issue or he is lost his...
A. 5 July 2017: Sleeping with him well not make him want you, it will only see that he is able to use you. If he was interested enough he would show it. ... (read in full...)
I don't want a strained relationship with my cousins
Q. So, I want to say this to get it off my chest. I used to be close to my cousins on my mom's side. I would hang out with them a lot at family reunions when I had the chance to. Laugh and enjoy the moment. Now, they don't talk to me. They igno...
A. 23 June 2017: You cannot blame it all on them if you don't appear to be friendly or make an effort. Yes you may be going through a tough time at the moment, but a lot off girls your age are, teenage years can be hard! Take baby steps. Start making an effort to ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend gone too far? He says its just porn but I've found him on swinger sites, looking up ex's
Q. Has my boyfriend of 8 years gone too far? I have recently found my bf has been watching porn. He knows I don't like this but I could have got over that. But I have also found he has been on swinger sites, sites with a list of girls to date, his find...
A. 23 June 2017: Yeah it sounds like he is wanting to revisit the past experiences you had even though he knows you don't want to. I guess when you both experimented it opened a can off worms for him and now that is all that he can see. Personally for me it would be ... (read in full...)
How do I tell a good friend that I don't like him romantically?
Q. So..I have a guyfriend whom I've known for over 5 years. He once told me in the past he liked me but I didnt feel the same way. I never did. He texted he likes me and wants a response. How should I say I don't like him romantically. He's a good ...
A. 23 June 2017: You need to be honest with him, if he is a friend then don't lie. It is not easy to say something like this to a friend but he does need to know the truth. So just tell him that you are flattered but you only see him as a friend.... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but can't get my ex out of my head
Q. I've been with my current girlfriend for 2 years. I love her to pieces but I can't get my ex out of my head. I miss her and want to talk to her again. She had been upset about me for a long time but she may have gotten over me. I've ways loved her. ...
A. 23 June 2017: It is ironic how you ended your relationship because she kept her ex's around and now you are doing the exact same thing to your girlfriend. Your ex sounds to me like she is the type off person who doesn't let go in a relationship. You need to make ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over this love? Its been 2 years since we broke things off
Q. My heart is still broken after almost 2 years. We did continue to see one another until 8 months ago, off and on. He is much younger, 14 years, and from another country. We were together for 11 years. I felt l knew him immediately and have always ...
A. 23 June 2017: You need distance. Why are you both not letting go off each other? Off course you are not going to get over him if he is still visiting to bring you fruit! Honestly the only way to get over him is to stop ALL contact. ... (read in full...)
The way he answered a question..wouldn't he have said if he had a girlfriend?
Q. MEN what does this mean? one day my crush had came late 2 pick me up and I said you're late and he said traffic, laughing and I said I hope you don't use that excuse on your girlfriend. he said nothing, he just laughed and smiled....and I smiled and ...
A. 23 June 2017: Could you not ask him has he a girlfriend? If you know him well enough to be jumping in to his car, surely you know him well enough to ask. Or are you afraid that he might say yes?... (read in full...)
How do I cope with a break up that I know in the end was for the best?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me the other day and I honestly feel like I won't ever get over him. I still love him so much. It scares me to think that I may never find someone who I love that much again. Although I miss him, I ...
A. 22 June 2017: You need to give yourself time. I am guessing it is the first time you are heart broken and it is very hard, but you will get over it and you will find someone who one day you will have an even deeper love for, it is to soon to imagine it, but give ... (read in full...)
Why would a man decide, at the last moment, to not use a condom in this way?
Q. my partner and i was about to have sex and he went to get a condom. When he got it he was playing with the packaging for a few seconds and put the condom to the side. why? After having sex he started to play with that condom again before putti...
A. 22 June 2017: If you are in a relationship then surely you are able to talk to him about this? If you are having unprotected sex you need to be able to talk about it. Have you discussed what happens if you fall pregnant?... (read in full...)
It's been five days and I haven't heard from him.. How can this be resolved?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a few months. The relationship has been really rocky lately but we continued to try and work through it. A couple of weeks ago we broke up because we have been arguing too much and he didn't seem to w...
A. 22 June 2017: He sounds very immature. He doesn't have the decency to end things with you so he chooses to ignore you, how grown up off him. Honestly the best thing that you can do is block his phone number and social media and email and move on with your life.... (read in full...)
Six years together and she doesn't want to commit
Q. My girlfriend of six years can’t commit. She doesn’t want to be tied down. She lives in my house but only pays towards the services – gas, electricity etc. She pays nothing towards household items but does buy some of the food. I can’t get her ...
A. 22 June 2017: She doesn't love you, she is using you. Honestly you deserve better than this, don't take no for an answer this time and ask her to pack her things and leave. If she was serious about you she would be paying half off everything and you would both be ... (read in full...)
I'm married but cheating with my old flame and I'm hopelessly in love
Q. I went to a reunion and as soon as I stood in front of my old flame I knew. I hadn't thought of him in 40 years. I'm happily married and live a plush life. He never married. Even though we live in Different states we've been together twice And...
A. 21 June 2017: Stop cheating on your husband, you have to much to loose.... (read in full...)
I thought I put him in the friendzone but does he like me more?
Q. Ok, I have become good friends with a guy I met through work. We have known each other for about 6 months now. When we first became friends I wasn't looking for a relationship and it seemed as if he wasn't either,as he said so. I told him not to ...
A. 21 June 2017: Talk to him and ask him what his intentions are, either he wants to have sex with you or else he sees you as more, but if you are as close as you say you are then it shouldn't be an issue bringing it up in conversation so you know where you stand ... (read in full...)
My love life has made me depressed
Q. I have had a difficult relationship history. I changed cities and changed boyfriends in my 20's - atleast 4 of them. These were men who really liked me and I left them. I was dumped twice by two similar Casanova-type of men in between, which made it ...
A. 21 June 2017: Your poor husband, stop feeling sorry for yourself and realize that you are hurting lots off people around you. You probably broke your husbands heart and if that wasn't enough you went and hurt some innocent girl by telling her you where sleeping ... (read in full...)
Despite what he says I feel I'm not good enough for him. Should I feel this way?
Q. hi everyone, i have recently got into a new relationship with a really nice man and he pays me a lot of nice compliments telling me i am beautiful, intelligent etc. except i don't feel that i am and i feel insecure about things. the thing is i am 43 ...
A. 21 June 2017: Is this the same daughter that doesn't want your boyfriend staying over? honestly you need to try and accept that he wants to be with you, believe him when he compliments you. If your daughter is feeling left out then talk to her about things, she ... (read in full...)
Fear I'll always be comparing new guys to my ex
Q. My ex and I broke up almost exactly 1 month ago. It was one of the most painful breakups I've ever experienced. I thought our relationship was really good. He was incredibly considerate, kind, and dependable. He was always going out of his way to ...
A. 21 June 2017: Off course you compared him to your ex, it has only been one month and you are still not over him. You are doing all the right things to move on but you need to give yourself time. You need time to heal and to move forward. Everything is still fresh ... (read in full...)
My army guy only contacts me when he's down
Q. Hello, I met this guy online and started to talk for almost 2 months. He is in military active but he is a national guard. We went on several dates. Most of the times he texted me when he is depressed cause of his family issue or he is lost his...
A. 21 June 2017: You didn't do anything wrong, he wants someone who is there for him when he needs them but he is not willing to put in any effort. I think you need to see that you and him are on different levels.... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to go?
Q. I think its time for me to move on but I don't know why. It’s hard for me. It’s like I need an approval. I don't know when the last time I kissed my boyfriend was. How can you have sex and not kiss? I have noticed a pattern firstly I have been with...
A. 19 June 2017: Have you anywhere else to go? Have you friends and family around you? Honey if you are not happy your daughter will pick up on that. Yes it is tough parents splitting up, but sometimes it is for the best. As long as she still has both parents it ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to gain the attention of this gorgeous Turkish girl when I return to Turkey for another vacation?
Q. Hi people I'm a college student from France. So I want to share my story with you all and hopefully find a solution. A couple friends and I went on vacation to Turkey 2 weeks ago, and I met this gorgeous Turkish girl. I've never seen anything li...
A. 19 June 2017: If you have sent her messages and she has not replied then she is simply not interested. Sorry dude but don't waste your money going over there, you may possibly scare her.... (read in full...)
Am I too sexual for him? Our sex life seems bland.
Q. Hi need some advice on my sex life. So I've been in a relationship for two years and I love my bf very much. The problem is that our sex life is quite bland. I am quite adventurous and kinky I love to go down on him but he doesn't reciproc...
A. 19 June 2017: It sounds like he likes to think off it as a fantasy but his actions say he would never actually go through with it. When he is drunk he lets his guard down and he likes to talk to you about a threesome. But when it comes to it he doesn't want one ... (read in full...)
What can I do? How should I handle this? Her sexual past and her ex who was her FWB are issues that are making me feel insecure.
Q. Ok so me and my gf have been going out for about 8 months. And I've been struggling with her sexual past a lot recently. She's slept with about 10 people before me, they were all ons apart from one friends with benefits she had just before we start...
A. 19 June 2017: If you cannot accept her past then don't be with her. ... (read in full...)
What's the best thing to do? I have a crush on a hot co-worker
Q. Well, I have a crush on coworker, but she is dating another co-worker and has a kid with him. She asked me if I think her boyfriend would cheat on her. I told her "no, I didn't think so". She supposed to come over and hang out, but Im not going to ...
A. 19 June 2017: Please don't flirt with a taken women. Think about her little child and her boyfriend. Don't be that person that cannot find a women for themselves so tries to take someone else's and in the process destroys a family.... (read in full...)
He has Mommy issues 2. Should I move on? Or wait for him?
Q. I was with this guy for about a couple of months, we met on a dating site..he has Mommy issues, he is in his 30s amd his mom lives with him but they constantly fight she belittles him and he just takes iy because she has no where else to go.. He end...
A. 19 June 2017: You need to let him go for your own benefit. I doubt he will change his mind, he has issues and he didn't see a future with you, it can be a tough pill to swallow but it is something that you need to accept. Block and delete him from your life and ... (read in full...)
Feeling un-easy about my gf going on cruise. Am I going to be cheated on during the cruise?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months is going on a cruise with her family for a week here soon, I am just kinda of un-easy because of all the stories I've heard about what happens on cruises. I'm her first ever bf and she's never given me a reason to suspect ...
A. 19 June 2017: Are you sure you are ready to be in a relationship with this girl? I mean if she cannot go on a family holiday but you think she will cheat then it sounds to me like you are not ready emotionally for a relationship. You need to be able to trust ... (read in full...)
Male FWB wants me to finger him and I don't want this. Am I being over sensitive?
Q. I just got into a casual fling type relationship with a guy at uni, he's in his final year and leaving this summer so its only for a few months. We haven't had sex yet but have been making out etc. When we were making out last night with undies ...
A. 19 June 2017: No never do something sexually that you are not comfortable with, it is okay to say No. He should not pressure you and if he does walk away. Also if he is having sex with people who have a reputation be careful that you don't catch any sexually ... (read in full...)
My husband has me earn lovers by performing painful or degrading acts with him
Q. Hi I'm a bit lost and in need of help. I have been married for 20 years to a man I have always loved. He has always had strange sexual practices and I have always played along, I have always looked up to him and always felt that he was better t...
A. 19 June 2017: Don't forget that your husband still has a responsibility to his children and therefore should still be paying maintenance for them. I am glad you are in the process off leaving such a bully and I hope you get your life back.... (read in full...)
My army guy only contacts me when he's down
Q. Hello, I met this guy online and started to talk for almost 2 months. He is in military active but he is a national guard. We went on several dates. Most of the times he texted me when he is depressed cause of his family issue or he is lost his...
A. 19 June 2017: It seems that you are only their to pick him up when he is down. For me it doesn't look like he is interested in anything serious, so if you are then I would suggest chatting with him about where you stand.... (read in full...)
The 60 year old professor doesn't know me. Advice, please? Should I tell him my feelings for him?
Q. hello guys, I have a crush on my professor, he is 60 years old, it been more than 2 years, I don't know what to do. I'm always thinking of him. He is so smart and handsome, I like his personality and smile. I feel I need to know him,and talk...
A. 19 June 2017: Honestly the kindest thing for you to do for yourself is to leave and not say anything to him. You will get over your crush when you don't have to see him any more. Plus he doesn't even know who you are, do you even know if he is available?... (read in full...)
Should I be worried? He's 18 years older than me, separated and with kids.
Q. So I have been seeing this amazing guy for a few months now and I'm head over heels for him. He is the same towards me. The only thing that worries me is he is 18 years older than me and is separated with kids... Advice please?...
A. 19 June 2017: It might work, but more than likely you are both in different stages off your life. He needs to have his divorce finalized before anything happens between you both as if he hasn't he is still legally married. Also you need to think off your future, ... (read in full...)
Should I commit to moving? Worried about his cheating in past and about leaving my family
Q. Hi! I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a little over two years. He is 27 and I'm 21, so naturally he has more experience than I do. 6 months into our relationship, he confessed that he had cheated on me, so we broke up...
A. 19 June 2017: You don't trust him, I doubt you ever will so in my opinion I really don't think he is the guy you want to be with. If you are wanting a long term relationship then it needs to be with someone who you can trust. If their is no trust then their is no ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are struggling to move on. Any suggestions on how we can resolve this?
Q. Hi. I am a married mom mid thirties. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 13 years. We have 5 children together. We have had a wonderful marriage up until recent. Back in Feb 2015 my husband started to receive texts fr...
A. 19 June 2017: You need to let go off wanting revenge. It is not your place to tell her husband what she is like. People could be saying that about you also, that you deserve better. Honestly you say she was not attractive he just wanted the attention, what ... (read in full...)
My partner for 3 years loves me. Would it be wrong to take a chance with another man who I've loved for 27 years?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have recently been contacted by the man I've been in love with for 27 years. There are songs I couldn't listen to, our anniversary date that I still hold dear to my heart. I hadn't laid eyes on him in 18 years and that one time wa...
A. 19 June 2017: In my opinion if you are questioning going to another man then the relationship you are in is not the correct one. I would end things with this man, he doesn't deserve to be with a woman who is pining after another man. Why did you agree to marry ... (read in full...)
Is he rushing things by telling me he loves me when we've only been talking online for less than a month?
Q. Hello everyone, So i'm 19 years old and there's a guy i met online, who's really cute, smart and i like him. It's my first time really liking someone. We still didn't meet, though we're chatting everyday for hours.. The thing is he told me late...
A. 19 June 2017: You are both young, and although you seem more sensible, he has got caught up in the fantasy off having a girlfriend who he loves. He does not know you as a person, anyone can create a relationship behind a computer screen, but you both need to get ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like blow jobs! Am I doing it wrong?
Q. I know this may sound odd, but my husband hates blowjobs. We've been together 8 years now, married for 2 and it's always been the same since I've known him, he's never enjoyed me going down on him. I have only ever gave 1 guy a blowjob before h...
A. 19 June 2017: I have heard from plenty off men that they don't like them. Just most guys don't admit that, because its not the manly thing to do. Honestly all men are not the same and they don't all enjoy or dislike the same things. Trust what your husband is ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair with a married woman and she doesn't know if she can ever leave her husband for good
Q. I am a 26 year old man. I work in a school system and I have now been dating one of my co workers for exactly a year (June 9th) The big problem here is that she is married, with 2 kids, and 11 years older then me. But this is not an affair like ...
A. 19 June 2017: You have been sucked in to this woman's web. What you described is exactly like any other affair. You can treat it like a relationship if you want to kid yourself but I think you know deep down she doesn't belong to you, she is someone else's wife. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always calling me names. What should I do?
Q. I'm girl who is 19 years old I'm not in school I have a daughter who is 1years now I live with my boyfriend.He is always angry he is calling me by names what should I do? ...
A. 19 June 2017: If you are not happy with him then is their anyone you can ask help from? Have you family and friends around to support you if you left him?... (read in full...)
Should I stop saying "I love you" to her since she says she feels hot and cold about it now?
Q. I have been seeing the most amazing girl in the world for a few months now and I think everything is going really well but last night she dropped a bombshell on me. I had said I loved her a few weeks before in what felt early but felt right and s...
A. 19 June 2017: She is not ready. I would cool off on telling her for a while, it doesn't mean you cannot show her that you love her but just cool it down a bit as it sounds like she felt under pressure to tell you she loved you back. Maybe sit down and have a talk ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get upset with my boyfriend when he doesn't text me in the morning? He used to text me constantly.
Q. Is it wrong that I get upset with my boyfriend when he doesnt text me in the morning? We've been together for nine months and he used to constantly text me, always send good morning and goodnight texts. We haven't been texting as much for the last...
A. 19 June 2017: Stop sending him messages and snaps and see if he bothers to make the effort. If I am being honest it sounds to me like he is bored off the relationship and has given up. You are still quite young so maybe he is just not ready for a committed ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my BF? I kissed one of my close friends while having a loving boyfriend.
Q. Last weekend I got very drunk with a group of my friends at a club and ended up kissing one of my close guy friends. I have known his forever and honestly, have had a thing for him in the past that has lasted a long time. But, right now I am w...
A. 19 June 2017: First off if alcohol is making you cheat then you should consider not drinking if you cannot trust yourself. Secondly you mention how much he loves and adores you but you don't say how you feel, are you wanting to be in a relationship with him? Do ... (read in full...)
My FWB wants me to stay the night while his GF is away. Does my FWB expect something different? Or the same?
Q. So I've been seeing a FWB guy since we were both 17ish. Its been nearly 10 years and its a continuing thing, never stopped for either of us. But we have both in and out of relationships and we still do it on the DL. Just wondering i guess if...
A. 19 June 2017: Instead off worrying about if it is something different, be honest with yourself and him and tell him how you feel. It is totally unfair for ten years for you both the cheat, I honestly don't know how you can both sleep at night knowing all the ... (read in full...)
How can I forget him? How can I train myself to stop thinking of him in the way I do think now?
Q. Hello everyone I wanted to ask if anyone has any techniques on how to stop associating certain memories with an ex. My ex and I went to school together and reunited for a short lived relationship. Long story short he was just brutal in endin...
A. 19 June 2017: There really is no quick fix on getting over someone, I get that it is difficult but time will heal you. When you feel you are thinking about him, distract yourself. Keep yourself busy. Spend time with family and friends and do the things you enjoy ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but keeps in contact. Is he trying to be a FWB?
Q. I am 39 and my ex boyfriend is 38. We both have two teens apiece and are single parents. I'm divorced. We dated for 4 and a half months. Things were good but he broke up with me saying he didn't think things were going to work out and he didn't wa...
A. 19 June 2017: I hope all went well with your surgery. Don't blame yourself because he does not want to settle down with you, it is nothing to do with you personally and more to do with him and the fact that he is not ready to give up his freedom. ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but keeps in contact. Is he trying to be a FWB?
Q. I am 39 and my ex boyfriend is 38. We both have two teens apiece and are single parents. I'm divorced. We dated for 4 and a half months. Things were good but he broke up with me saying he didn't think things were going to work out and he didn't wa...
A. 29 May 2017: He openly said to you he was going to break up because he did not want to cheat on you, this says it all. He wants to be free to date other women and get with them. Yes it also sounds like he still wants you in his life, but not as a girlfriend just ... (read in full...)
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