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writes:Hello, Please I need some advice. There is this guy asking me out. We met at my sister's wedding. I like him too. It turned out that he had asked my best friend out some months back but she said she was not interested. I asked my friend about him and she said they never dated and they were only friends. Yesterday he told me that my bestfriend called him up about 11pm and he was surprised because they haven't been calling eachother for sometime. I felt uncomfortable with that. My question is whether it is right to go on and date this guy? What could be a disadvantage of dating him since he already asked my best friend out. Please I need some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2017): Thank you so much for your honest opinions. @Honeypie, I was also wondering why she called him up after I told her about him. My fear is that if I and this guy eventually have something serious It might really cause a distance between I and my friend because I would not be comfortable with her around us. And I would not like a 5year friendship to be torn apart because of a guy.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 May 2017):
 This guy has done nothing wrong, it is your friends loyalty I would be asking about. You tell her and she calls him up after rejecting him? It sounds like she got jealous that he asked you out. As much as he has done nothing wrong, it might be less hassle turning him down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2017): This guy has been completely honest with you ....did you know him when he asked your mate out ?? He may of thought you was to good for him ....if you like him go on some dates see how you feel ...but set some boundaries about her no more contact between him and her ...no need the past is the past .... remember he's been honest with you so give him some credit
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reader, 02DuszJ  +, writes (28 May 2017):
 Yeah, I'm sorry but this is a situation you want to stay clear of- If you ended up together, you would always have that niggling doubt and worry everytime she came around I think. And like honey-pie said she called her up WTF?? I would really watch her, because she would also be in the equation and you don't know what her agenda is... Bit shady tbh.Why not find something LESS complicated with a guy who lets you know where you stand?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (28 May 2017):
 If you like this guy, then absolutely go for it. So he asked your friend out. So what? Even if they had gone out and split up, she would have no claim on him afterwards (although you might not want to date him if she still carried a torch for him).
Be careful though. It sounds like she may not want him but may not want you to have him either.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 May 2017):
 I'd skip him.
And I'd re-think the friendship too. I find it really odd that SHE called HIM up after you told her about him. Why would she do that after she rejected him?
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