She strung me along to cancel three times ...
Q. Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...
A. 14 September 2017: Thanks for the update OP it is always appreciated when someone updates us how they got on. All the best in the future. ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend gone too far? He says its just porn but I've found him on swinger sites, looking up ex's
Q. Has my boyfriend of 8 years gone too far? I have recently found my bf has been watching porn. He knows I don't like this but I could have got over that. But I have also found he has been on swinger sites, sites with a list of girls to date, his find...
A. 25 July 2017: No you shouldn't just get over it, he is messing with your head that is all he is doing, how has it progressed since you wrote this post? Did use manage to sort it out?... (read in full...)
Husband wants sex and a baby but he's searching online for partners
Q. Everyday I feel more and more sick. My husband always asks for sex but I don't want it, he wants a child but I don't, not even an adopted child, but he insists, and now he's trying to turn me on but I say no. The real problem is he's searching o...
A. 25 July 2017: Is this not something you both spoke about before you got married? Surely it must have came up before you go serious. If he is searching for a new partner it sounds like he has made his mind up.... (read in full...)
Can you stay friends after having a one night stand?
Q. About a month ago, I met a guy on a dating site. We would talk from night to morning every day. I kind of like him, but he rarely talked about himself. I was curious about him; therefore, I checked on him on Facebook and found out that he has a ...
A. 25 July 2017: The best thing for you to do is end all contact. You knew he liked you more than a friend and you led him on (alcohol is never an okay excuse!) If you where a man you would get slaughtered on here for using some poor women.
Don't allow him to catc... (read in full...)
think they are way too secretive and just honestly don't want them anywhere near each other!
Q. Okay so before me and my bf were dating he had a crush on my best friend but nothing ever happened because he was actually dating someone else. We winded up dating about a yr later. We were kind of like a trio before our romance started but as time...
A. 25 July 2017: Do what he says either break up with him or end your friendship with her before you drive yourself crazy. You should not be in a relationship with someone if you feel the need to tell them who they can and cannot be friends with. It is clear that ... (read in full...)
Why has he not met me yet?
Q. There's this guy I like.... so he keeps making plans to meet me then goes quiet for the before and day of. Why, does he not really like me? Does he really like me and is nervous? We seem to get on well over text and phone and social medi...
A. 25 July 2017: He is wasting your time, and believe me he could very well have social anxiety, it is not always obvious to another person and it can be hid very well.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex wife still comes into the house every week
Q. My boyfriend of a year is divorced three years and his ex wife comes into his house with their High School children to collect any things they have left there when hes at work. She comes in with them and into the lounge and kitchen etc and has a ...
A. 21 July 2017: Don't allow your insecurities to rule your head here. Okay it might seem strange to you, but next time she is in go down and introduce yourself she might not mean any harm. ... (read in full...)
Why would he lie about who he is?
Q. I met this guy online and we've been talking for six months now. I'm in the US and he's in Canada. We ve been texting and video chatting almost every day and he says that he's falling for me, I'm his dream girl and he wants me to be his girlfriend. ...
A. 21 July 2017: Off course he doesn't care about you, he is bored so chatting to random women online while is girlfriend is out. Now you really need to block him and move on. He will probably find some other women to fool but you need to remove yourself from the ... (read in full...)
She still seems to want me. What do I do?
Q. Hello, I was in a relationship for ten years with a woman we will call Sally (not her real name). It was rocky from the start but we stuck together although we never lived together. She stood by me through a lot of personal trials and family d...
A. 21 July 2017: you need to move out and let her go. She has gotten stronger but not strong enough to ask you to leave. You need to be strong now and if you care for her you will go so you can both move on with your lives.... (read in full...)
Should I send one last txt?
Q. Hi all. I rarely get dates so was well excited when i finally got one. The guy said he felt a connection before we met i held back because i didnt want to put all my feelings on him and get hurt. The date was great we did have a few drinks and went ...
A. 20 July 2017: No I wouldn't send it, he is going through a tough enough time at the moment. He was honest with you and straight with you from the word go which a lot off men wouldn't have been so just respect that you are not for him and move on.... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend doesn't make me feel beautiful
Q. My boyfriend doesn't ever make me feel beautiful. He will always say to me 'you look nice' but I can tell he is just saying that without any true feeling. I would say I am an attractive girl and tend to get a lot of male attention and fe...
A. 20 July 2017: You are responsible for your own feelings and not him, therefore you should make yourself feel beautiful. You cannot blame him if you are insecure. All men are different with compliments and with words. If you don't feel like the relationship is ... (read in full...)
He tells me that I'm special, but doesn't make me feel like I am
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a long time now. He would always call me pretty and beautiful. It would make me feel so special. Recently though during a normal conversation which escalated to him telling me about who he thinks the hottest person ...
A. 20 July 2017: At some point in life you will realize that it is not about being the hottest. Just because he thinks some girl is the hottest girl doesn't mean he wants to be in a relationship with her or that he loves her. You are both still very young and you ... (read in full...)
Should I let the children meet?
Q. My question has a little bit of history behind it. So about eight years ago I was at the eight month mark dating a boyfriend when I was in my early twenties and he cheated on me with his best female friend so we broke up and a few weeks later I ...
A. 20 July 2017: But how can you be 100% sure she is G's daughter, are you basing it only on the fact that she has brown eyes. You need to act carefully hear. A child at this age can be fragile you don't want to do lasting damage. First thing you should do is get ... (read in full...)
Will a guy wait for sex?
Q. How long will men wait to have sex? I am 31 and I have had only two boyfriends - I suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder and it's hard for me to be intimate because I always fear catching diseases. I am always mostly been celibate because of ...
A. 20 July 2017: If he is the right guy for you then yes he will wait and if he doesn't then he is not the man for you.... (read in full...)
I feel suffocated by my boyfriend! Is he controlling?
Q. I'm struggling with my boyfriends needy attitude. He wants constant reassurance from me and needs my attention all the time. We have been together 3 years and his behaviour has got worse and worse. He wants constant reassurance that I haven't felt ...
A. 20 July 2017: No I don't think this is controlling behavior but it is obsessive behavior and really not healthy. I wouldn't be able to live like this, I would feel so suffocated. Honestly if you can both not talk about this without arguing then it is time to end ... (read in full...)
I don't understand his shallow attitude to me
Q. I was speaking to this guy for a few months. He seemed quite interested in me, always compliment me, ask for face pictures of me, just so sweet and lovely! We met up a few times and we eventually had sex... he complimented me during the sex (saying ...
A. 20 July 2017: You are not over reacting, you invested time and feelings in to this person. Unfortunately it sounds like he just wanted sex from you and did not feel the same as you. You can beat yourself up about it but there really is no point. He is the one who ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my depressed boyfriend who will not get help?
Q. I have been with my partner just short of four years and I can confidently say he was the love of my life. I say was because now he is suffering with depression and will not seek help. He got diagnosed with this in 2013 and stopped taking tablets ...
A. 19 July 2017: Time to put yourself first. He needs help and its not from you, he needs professional help and if he won't seek it for himself then you have no choice but to protect yourself and leave. Why stay and be unhappy. Off course its a tough decision to ... (read in full...)
I'm always trying to please my husband so he won't get upset
Q. So I have been married a little over two years, he knew while we were dating that I did not like to cook and also lacked the gene for cooking. When I do try to cook for him, he is brutally honest and also criticizes me on what I could of done ...
A. 19 July 2017: You both work full time therefore you both should share the house chores. So if you cook he cleans ect. Am not sure what routine you both have at the moment but if you do not like cooking then you both should take week about. Its unfair for you to ... (read in full...)
Is she interested or a flake?
Q. Hey there, I am recently out of a relationship and ready to start dating again. Went back online and met a cool girl who I really clicked with. We messaged a few times back and forth, exchanged numbers and text quite a bit. Before our first date s...
A. 19 July 2017: She could be having a unlucky spell, she might not be as interested in you, or she could actually suffer from anxiety. If she suffers from anxiety then she could be battling with herself not to go on these dates. Not because she doesn't want to go ... (read in full...)
Is his request weird or not?
Q. So lemme know if this is weird or not. My boyfriend has been serious/joking with me about if I we had kids, that he'd want to drink my breast milk from my boobs. I shudder at the thought, and I can only imagine the issues women have with their ...
A. 17 July 2017: For me that would be strange and a big fat no. Maybe he has a fetish, but breast feeding is not sexual which it would be with a partner. I would stand my ground and say no.... (read in full...)
What does all this interaction with him mean?
Q. Hello, in recent months I have become close to a male friend of whom I knew in grade in junior high in 2002. He added me on FB which was a surprise, as I rejected him in junior high when he showed interest in me. He ended up moving to another state ...
A. 17 July 2017: All I can say is ask him ... (read in full...)
My friend seems keen for me to have sex with his wife
Q. I am single guy....... A friend of mine and his wife who I have both known for years,went over my apartment last night, after drinking at a local bar,and we ended up having a threesome, after he encouraged her... afterwards it was a little...
A. 17 July 2017: He is your friend so meet up with him alone and talk to him, ask him how he feels. He may have issues and want to please his wife which means somewhere down the line he will hate you, or else he may enjoy watching it and doesn't mind but you need to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for eyes to wander in long term relationships?
Q. I have been with my gf 5 years now and over that time things have never been smooth sailing but lately and this is something I feel guilty about my eyes have begun to wonder i would love to say I would never cheat and I am 99% sure I wouldn't but I ...
A. 17 July 2017: I do think it is normal to look and even let your imagination run a bit wild. But from what you have wrote you are not happy in your relationship, so why be with her? If it's so difficult then it shouldn't be right for you both. Surely you want to ... (read in full...)
Why won't he do what he used to offer me in bed?
Q. Basically, me and my partner got together in 2012. We're engaged now and have two kids so our relationship is serious. I'm 23 and he's 27. When we met we did start off at friends with benefits for about 6 months before becoming bf gf. Anyway, in the ...
A. 17 July 2017: First off a size twelve is a healthy size so don't think it does your fault. He is a very bad person who is selfish and only thinks off himself. This is not your fault and I am so sorry you ar going through this. Please do not take him back he does ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm a rebound and that he's not over his ex!
Q. My boyfriend broke up with his last ex girlfriend almost 2 years ago, I'm not very sure he is over her and I feel I'm just a rebound whenever I ask him questions about his past relationships he doesn't get frustrated about any of his exes except his ...
A. 17 July 2017: It's a hard situations for him, he must have went through a very emotional time, it's a lot to happen, off course it will be a sore spot. It would be hard to talk about. It doesn't mean that he doesn't like you, it's still just fresh for him. Give ... (read in full...)
Have you ever lied to someone about your feelings for them?
Q. Dear cupid, I'd like to know if anyone has ever lied to a friend of the opposite sex about whether or not you have feelings for them? If so, what was the reason? Did you feel you had to lie because of circumstance? I have a male friend, we talk ...
A. 17 July 2017: Sounds like he was being a good friend, if you have feelings then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship.... (read in full...)
Hes been exchanging suggestive messages with an ex ... should I break up with him?
Q. A few months ago, my boyfriend and I argued over a woman that he had been making sexual comments with on facebook. He said that he was joking, but I didn't think it was funny. She said she had a soft spot for him, then he mentioned a "hard spot" , ...
A. 12 July 2017: I think this is less about him and more about you. Is your mental health fragile? Do you have trust or confidence issues?... (read in full...)
Step daughter doesn't want the step family moving into Dad's house!
Q. My boyfriend has a 10 year old daughter with his ex, I have a 8 year old from a previous relationship, and when we first got together our girls got on well. We have been together for 2 years, and recently we started thinking about moving in ...
A. 7 July 2017: It sounds to me like even though she gets on with you and your daughter she still likes her own house which just belongs to her and her daddy. Yes it is a very touchy subject as she is so young, but I do have to side with your boyfriend, she is the ... (read in full...)
Online dating. He's not just chatting to me. Should I start chatting to others?
Q. Online dating. I've had both good and bad experiences doing this . I've been chatting with a guy for a couple of week and we are meeting in a few days for our first date . He's told me the lines how he's hoping i'm the one and what he hopes will h...
A. 7 July 2017: I think you should start chatting to others, this guy has not even met you yet so surely you don't except him not to keep his options open. Even if he is wanting to find someone special it doesn't mean that it will work between you both. Don't jump ... (read in full...)
Nothing ever goes right in our relationship. Should I stay with him?
Q. I have been with my partner for over 2 years and it just seems nothing EVER goes right in our relationship. There is no such thing as peaceful, pleasant times for us. It has never been like that, unfortunately. When we got together, instea...
A. 7 July 2017: You do have choices. You can break up and go off on your own and probably feel sad and miserable and find something to complain about, you can stay together complain some more that nothing goes right and then ask the same question in a years time. ... (read in full...)
I work while my husband stays home, he goes on vacation but I cant!
Q. A little over a year ago my husband left hos job because it was too stressful and demanding and became a househusband. I own our house, so no mortgage and extra espenses, and although our lifestyle has changed a bit- meaning that we try and save ...
A. 7 July 2017: You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel because if you don't you will allow it to eat you up inside until you end up hating him. Off course its not fair and its very selfish off him to even do this.... (read in full...)
He's asking about people I've slept within the past 2 years!
Q. I've recently got into a relationship with a guy i've been seeing on and off for a long time. We've only been together a couple of months officially but he's began to ask about people i've slept with over the past two years. He's quite insecure as ...
A. 7 July 2017: He is insecure and he doesn't trust you. You need to stop feeling bad for getting with that guy, you where free to do so and not in a relationship. Even if you did choose to tell him, he has no right to get upset, you where not together!! It is your ... (read in full...)
How can I start liking myself?
Q. How can I start liking myself after many years of not standing myself? I'm so over my moodiness and my misery- I'm ashamed of myself because I should be thankful for my health my family and a fairly easy life but no matter what has happened I can't ...
A. 7 July 2017: Go visit a third world country and help out with sick children who have no food and water, it might help you realize how lucky you are.... (read in full...)
Does this mean he just wants casual sex?
Q. There's this guy who used to work with my dad, who's a few year younger than me but we seemed to get on. Every time I went into his work (a pub) he seemed to be having the usual barman banter and fun with me (sometimes he'd go a little further ...
A. 7 July 2017: yip you are right, he doesn't want anything serious, just wants to get in to your pants. ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to be calling it a relationship?
Q. i have been seeing someone for seven weeks and we see each other two/three times a week. i am in my forties and so it is not a young relationship. however i have begun to notice that he sometimes does not contact me for a day or two after he has ...
A. 7 July 2017: You do understand that us 'agony aunts' do have a life as well!!... (read in full...)
My partner promises he'll be around for my son and then disappears. This is the 4th time he's done this
Q. My partner has disappeared for the 4 time now after promising my son he'll be around n that how can I tell my don that his left again n the only thing I got was that his sorry dose it mean that his left me for good or his he playing away ...
A. 7 July 2017: Four times to many in my opinion. You need to stop this now or this will severely effect your son emotionally growing up in to a man. It doesn't matter if he has left you or is playing away you need to put your son first and protect him. Is he ... (read in full...)
We want to get married but boyfriend has too many irons in the fire going!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've asked a similar question before but I think I'm going to ask it in a different way since I have a little more insight for what's going on. My boyfriend wants to get married after finishing his renovation projects. But when I say pr...
A. 7 July 2017: I remember your other post and well this is who he is, this is what he wants to do with his life, he wants to be busy and make money. If you are waiting for a wedding ring ( Which I am aware that you are ) then you need to look elsewhere because he ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy at home and crushing on a co worker
Q. Hi not sure if anyone will be able to help but hoping someone can give some advice or even discuss similar experiences? So I'm 38 have a boyfriend of 7 years and 2 young children (5 and 6) life is quiet and settled never any arguments, however ...
A. 7 July 2017: Why has nothing happened physically in two years? Surely that would spell the end off the relationship for most, are you both just together for the children? Surely you need more to survive this relationship. Honestly I think you need to talk to ... (read in full...)
Went out with a colleague but things took a downward turn. He's not interested anymore and I feel stuck blaming myself. What should I do?
Q. So me and my colleague started to like each other so we exchanged numbers. I wasn't looking for anything serious because of the age difference but I was sexually attracted to him, and it appeared mutual. We were texting and we decided to go out ...
A. 7 July 2017: It sounds to me like he was never interested romantically. Maybe as a hook up yes but he lost interest when you cancelled very quickly which means he is not prepared to give you a chance, either that or he is playing mind games with you, which is ... (read in full...)
I am involved with a married woman.
Q. So first off let’s just get the I’m an idiot, I’m a horrible person, I’m naïve, I need to grow up, and all that out of the way. I am an idiot for this and I didn’t want to let my emotions get involved but I let my guard down and now I’m lost. Ju...
A. 7 July 2017: I don't believe she is going to leave her husband. She has had an affair before, she is doing it again with you, and I believe she will find someone else after you as well. She may be unhappy in her marriage, but that is not a reason to be ... (read in full...)
How do I comfort a friend who learned he has herpes?
Q. One of my really close friends got genital herpes and I'm so in shock. He and I have had an on and off fling for a while, but never even kissed cause he's super all over the place. He's practically in love with me, I guess, but anyways that's ...
A. 7 July 2017: Op this is not an illness. If someone has a cold sore they have type one, if it is down below it is type two. It is not the end off the world, and it is probably more common than you think. Lots off people kiss and pass the type one. Also just ... (read in full...)
She strung me along to cancel three times ...
Q. Hello everyone, so about 2 years ago I was in a short film with an actress and we hit it off really well, great chemistry. There was a kissing scene but it wasn't awkward at all. She even suggested "practice kissing" during rehearsal. However, ...
A. 7 July 2017: She seems like she is the flaky type off girl. Maybe she done it to get the attention, or maybe she just puts everything else first. Who knows? But for me I would stop with the contact and leave it there. ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend gone too far? He says its just porn but I've found him on swinger sites, looking up ex's
Q. Has my boyfriend of 8 years gone too far? I have recently found my bf has been watching porn. He knows I don't like this but I could have got over that. But I have also found he has been on swinger sites, sites with a list of girls to date, his find...
A. 23 June 2017: Yeah it sounds like he is wanting to revisit the past experiences you had even though he knows you don't want to. I guess when you both experimented it opened a can off worms for him and now that is all that he can see. Personally for me it would be ... (read in full...)
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