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*nonymous2016
writes:Me and this black have been talking and i told my mama about it and she doesn't approve. she mad me feel horrible about the whole situation and I told him that we were gonna have to be friends. I dont know what to do because i dont see what the big deal is. She says I will ruin mt relationship if I date a black guy. I have know this guy for around six years and we have always been good friends. I am currently living with my parents and going to college once i get out on my own me and him have already planned to still be there for each other. We hope my mama will understand and be happy for us. Its just sad that we have to wait for two or three years until we can be together. Please any thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2017):
 Yes you are right. I hope it all works out for you.
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reader, anonymous2016 +, writes (2 June 2017):
anonymous2016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you aunt honesty. Thats exactly what i was thinking. Its sad because no one should be treated differently because of their skin color. Also he told me that he would still be here for me when we both got our lives together. I told him he didn't have to wait because it wasn't fair to him. But he said he would wait. I think that if its meant for us to be together it will be after i move out. If my mama cant accept us being together she just wont be a part of my life. I think shes just scared of what people will think about her, I however could care less what people think about me. As long as Im happy and he treats me right thats all that should matter.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (1 June 2017):
One thing I hate is people who are racist how dare your family tell you that you cannot date someone because off their color! Honestly you are an adult and free to do as you please, so stand up for yourself and if you want to be with this man then be with him. If you wait two or three years he may already find another women who doesn't make him wait because off the color off his skin!
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reader, anonymous2016 +, writes (1 June 2017):
anonymous2016 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for the responses. Yall made me feel so much better about the situation. I do in fact like him for him. He is a wonderful person and it shouldn't matter what color he is as long as im happy, hes happy, and he treats me right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2017): It's your life.
Be brutally honest with yourself about why you want to date this guy. If part of the appeal is that he is "forbidden fruit" then it may not be worth the collateral problems in the long run.
But if that is not part of the appeal and you just like him for HIM, then I say go ahead.
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reader, Lexine07  +, writes (31 May 2017):
I'm sorry you two have to go through that kind of prejudice. I don't know where you live but, after you finish college you should move to a bigger city where the color of people's skin isn't so much of an issue. But be prepared to see people show their ugly sides. As for your mother... you can't live for her. If you make decisions to please her, you will be the one having to spend the rest of your life dealing with the consequences of living "her life". She already had a go at life. I know she probably means well but people like her are the reason why people are afraid to date outside their race. Date who you want! If they make you feel like you're on top of the world, how can it be wrong?!
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (30 May 2017):
 Depending what part of USA you live, prejudice can still exist. You feel it shouldn't matter but are you prepared to accept the consequences for a mixed partnership for yourself, your partner and possibly any children?
I guess if you really love this man it isn't going to make any difference. Love will find a way.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (30 May 2017):
 Date him, provided you don't have any ignorances about it. Don't force anything on your family, just stay safe.
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