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writes:my ex broke up with me a month ago, and my feelings for him are still very strong. i could tell that he didn't want to break up with me he cried as he said that he had to leave me, and even heard his friends saying,"why is he crying today? did you see him? i've never seen him cry" on the same day he broke up with me (i was eavesdropping, sorry for my bad habit). the days passed, we are still friends even though we broke up. he still hugs me, and even kissed me on the cheek when i felt really sad one day. he can easily tell if I am sad, and he sat next to me and said,"hey, what is wrong pumpkin?". when all of our friends went somewhere else and we were left alone, he grabbed me without a warning, and carried me bridal style. i told him to put me down, but he didn't put me down. a few days later, he gave me a hug, and thanked me after i gave him a gift, a necklace that had a tiny deck of playing cards,since he loves to do magic tricks with cards, and he wears necklaces. all of this happened, after our break up. should we get back together? what should i do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 May 2017):
 You need to realize he did not have to break up with you, nobody was holding a gun to his head where they? He obviously didn't feel that the relationship was working, you both are quite young and I don't think you are communicating well. If he broke up with you then you should take time apart. Stop acting like a couple and give yourself a chance to get over him. Talk to him and tell him how confusing this behavior is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2017): You're both very young and haven't quite grasped what it means when you break-up with someone. That means the relationship is over and done. You are no longer a couple.
You can still be nice to each other; but you can't really be friends until your hurt-feelings heal after you breakup.
You're trying to make his being nice to you more than being a friend. You want to force things back to where they were. He is trying very hard not to break your heart or make you hate him. He's too young to know he should just leave you alone; so you can detach your feelings and get-over him. He doesn't want you to forget too fast.
Don't trust a boy's tears. They can force fake-tears just for you; but they are not the same as yours. His tears can be added just to let you know he's not happy to break your heart. That doesn't mean he doesn't want to end the relationship.
Being friends is going to be tough, because you still want him as your boyfriend. He doesn't want to be your boyfriend anymore. That's the part that has to sink in.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (28 May 2017):
 To echo Andie's thoughts, There is an old saying, "if you want Closure, start with your legs". Much better than yet another discussion with him would be a few weeks of NO CONTACT. Hugging kissing carrying, presents are all serving one purpose keeping you two together.
It is especially difficult because you both obviously want to be together.
Rather than talking to him, you should have a chat with his mother. She can probably explain why he "had to leave you". When you understand that you can make a better decision.
Some things not to do:
Go underground and have a hidden relationship.
Keep mooning over him.
Think about him instead of getting out with other friends.
Avoid meeting other guys.
Some things to do"
Work on your hobbies, or develop new.
Spend time outside every day.
Keep your support network active (girl friends, family)
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (28 May 2017):
 You need to stop acting like a couple, if you've broken up. A month is no time to get over each other, so the feelings will still be there.
Ask him why he broke up with you. If it's a valid reason, then stay broken up and put space between you, so you can both move on. If it's something fixable, it may be worth trying again.
Come back when you know what it is and we can help you figure out what's next.
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