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I made a fake account and my boyfriend chatted with it!

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Question - (26 May 2017) 11 Answers - (Newest, 29 May 2017)
A female Canada age 26-29, *uice567 writes:

i made a fake account recently and send request to my bf...and he asked who s this and then i started talking to him by telling fake family nd fake profession and all..he shared all his personal details with me he even send his pictures to me( fake user)and was talking just like he knows me....the problem is when in real i as a gf asked him whethr he talks to any other girl he swear on me and said no....what should i do...should i tell him that it was me testing on him...will it disturb my relation

during all this my bf talked very sweetly with me he cared about me and askred again and again why i am upset

please tell

what to do

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (29 May 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntI think you need to leave him, it is clear you don't trust him, and I can see why you don't if he is lying to you. It is not healthy for you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (28 May 2017):

Honeypie agony auntOP, what is there to stay for?

He isn't trustworthy. He is STILL looking for a partner - I don't believe people who CHAT up other people when they already have a partner are happy with whom they got, they want to see what else is out there and if they can do "better". (not that YOU aren't good enough - I'm sure you are - HE just think he still has the PICK of the crop)

Next time TRUST your instincts, do go to these kinds of lengths to SET someone up to PROVE you were right in your instincts.

If you "confront" him, he might just tell you he KNEW it was you messaging him. That HE was setting a TRAP for you. So I wouldn't "confront" him.

I'd tell him that you have come to realize that the two of you aren't a good fit, then wish him well and CUT all contact. YOU DO NOT need to tell him more than that. I don't think you OWE him a deeper explanation. What's the point? YOU know, he KNOWS what he did. No point in rehashing it.

Time for you to MOVE on to a "better" partner. Someone who CAN be trusted and who CAN be faithful.

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A female reader, llifton United States +, writes (28 May 2017):

llifton agony auntYour boyfriend is a cheater and a liar. The fact that he's willing to tell a random girl he doesn't know that he's not in a relationship means that if she were a real person, he would have been okay with cheating on you with her. He's dishonest and he is not worth staying with. I know it's easier said than done, but in all sincerity, you should break up with him over this. He can't be trusted.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2017):

N91 agony auntTo the anons saying that the OP is being attacked:

Why not just leave him if you don't trust him? Why go to the efforts of catfishing him?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2017):

You don't trust him, you set a trap and he got caught in it.

So now your suspicions are confirmed and you can now leave him.

You are capable of going to great lengths to set traps for people when you could have just left the guy without such an intricate and deceptive plot. What does that say about you?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2017):

I don't get how peeople are attacking you here. Like yah it is a little strange what you did but obviously you had an intuition he wasnt trustworthy and tested that out. Good on you for finding out he is a total rat willing to chat up a stranger and send pics! That is soooo disrespectful. Leave him immediately.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2017):

Oo sweetie , I think you did what you did because you smelled a rat and wanted to see what he did . Plus also yes he can speak with who he likes or wishes too but he has no right to lie to you regarding it . And say Oo no he doesn't speak with any females... however I do think you went a lil over board with what you have done etc ..

My advice is similarity to the advice given .. end this relationship as it's unhealthy.. no one should lie to their gf but then again their gf should make fake accounts either . Two wrong don't make a right as my mother would say . However you now know .. you know he lies ( first ) so you need to him all away . Head held high . Just say look I know you've been speaking online to someone how you can lie is beyond me and it's over .

I do not agree with however this is your fault .. you found out the truth so now use the knowledge and move on.

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States +, writes (26 May 2017):

You don't trust your boyfriend, with good reason it seems. The relationship is broken. Break up with him and tell him why. Then move on with your life.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (26 May 2017):

N91 agony auntWhat do you do?

Leave your BF. You clearly don't trust him to do what you did, so what's the point in staying with him?

Also, what you did it extremely odd behaviour. You don't trust your BF but you're also lying to him by what you're doing, so you sound as bad as each other to be honest.

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A female reader, NORA B Ireland +, writes (26 May 2017):

To create a FAKE PROFILE and FAKE FAMILY is not how you deal with your own mistrust of a person.In any relationship there has to be trust of each other.It is always most important to be Honest at all level.If you find you cannot trust someone ..MOVE ON.While you might trust someone,does not mean that you own their every action.This is not a healthy situation.NORA B.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (26 May 2017):

chigirl agony auntYour relationship is already broken. You have no trust in him and act controlling. Why should you be able to dictate who he talks to? You are adults, he is allowed to talk to whatever he wants. You are the one who lied and tested him, which is a deal breaker in any relationship. I think its time to end this as it is not healthy.

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