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writes:I have been in an awkward type of relationship with a man that is 14 years my senior . I Have known my Partner for 13 years now and we have an oops baby that we both love to bits and pieces. we started out as a one night stand that became a friendship with benefits and now we are friends with occasional benefits and a co parenting our now 10 year old son and we each live on our own. He is very nice to me and my children ( i have a 21 year old daughter from a previous marriage ) and he is always concerned about me and always trying to help with any frustrations i may have told him about. I have of course over the years developed feelings for him and we both show interest in each others kids ( he has a 28 yr old son and a 23 year old daughter also from previous marriages) . How do i know if this relationship can turn serious and should i open up and say something to him about taking the next step?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 May 2017):
 I doubt it will ever happen in fairness. 13 years is a long time and surely if you where both meant to be then it would have worked out? Even having to question how you would tell him tells me that this will never work. Surely if you have been friends with him for this long you would be close enough to him to tell him how you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2017): If it has not become serious by now,it never will. Be grateful he takes interest in his child and find someone else who can commit to you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 May 2017):
 To be very frank OP,
NO, I don't think you can "make" that happen. After 13 years and it's still nothing more than an "awkward" relationship, then the chance if that changing? minuscule, IMHO.
You can TELL him how you feel and what you want, as long as you can take a "rejection" of that idea and then MOVE on. He will still BE the father of your child, but YOU CAN find a partner who wants to BE with you, live with you etc.
First, though... I think you need to put into WORDS (to yourself mostly) WHAT you ACTUALLY WANT.
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